Any white guys into black guys?

[ryan13th]

Hey everyone i'm sorry that this topic has caused so much controversy. But i'm from the south, south carolina to be exact. And i dont mean to be stereotypical or anything of that nature, but in mostly all the situations i've been in most white guys wont go for someone who is black. Me, myself I will go for any race. But sometimes i usually find myself going after white guys.

I'm of mixed descent. But i look more white than black, feature wise if there is such a thing. And i have had white guys ask me what race i was, and i say black. They end the conversation right there. But any other race, i have absolutely no problem starting a relationship.

I've had similar problems myself. I live in the south too and have had people end conversations with me as well whenever they found out I was black, which is been very discouraging as far as trying to meet people goes. Unfortunetly as well, most (though not all) of the guys I'm attracted to are typically white or asian, and they seem to have zero interest in dating blacks. I don't consider it racist as everyone has they're own prefrences but I kinda wish we weren't the black sheep of the gay community alot of times, atleast where I live anyways.

 

[blueto21]

I'm attracted to the variety of races of men. A guy's race is not important to me. What's important to me is that he shares my set a values and that he's REALLY interested in me as a person. I've dated black men in the past and some of the relationships were good and some not so good. Some ended on good terms, some didn't. But it wasn't because of their race. Bottom line as long as you can prove to me that you are worth my time and effort then you have a chance with me.

 

[MindBlast]

Must be a states thing. In Canada I never hear of this kind of discussion.

That being said, I find attractive what I find attractive. I happen to think white or latino guys are cuter in general. It's just personal preference. Not that I haven't seen good-looking black or asian guys, but in general certain races seem to have more of the qualities that I like physically.

For example, ideally, I tend to like guys who are well-built, while at the same time being close to my height (within about a head) and slightly to very hairy. Black men are USUALLY taller by a lot, and asian men are USUALLY less built/have smaller frames and less hairy bodies.

That's just the way it is. I can't help what I like. But I wouldn't turn someone down based solely on skin colour.

 

[Piquechampion]

Honestly, haven´t thought about it... but no I don´t find black men attractive.
But that´s just me.

 

[luckotheirish]

It's been accurately and fairly pointed out that everyone has individual preferences - relative to physical attributes, personality, values, etc. And that's ok. It's part of what makes people and life interesting. But, people don't always express those preferences, like not being "out." I think the reason for that has mostly to do with two things:

1. What city (not necessarily state) you live in...i.e. your environment
I live in the midwest, not the traditional south - although, Indiana could fairly be described as a misplaced southern state. I live in a small city where anything or anybody that doesn't look like a Norman Rockwell painting often draws stares and comments. However, in Indianapolis or Chicago, where the population is far more diverse and people far more tolerant, inter-racial relationships seem less of a big deal. I've traveled across a lot of the U.S. and the live-and-let-live attitude seems more common in cities like Boston, D.C., Atlanta, Dallas, Houston, Phoenix, Chicago, Detroit, .... By contrast, an hour outside any of those cities (except maybe Boston) and you're in a whole different world.

2. Are you the type of person who cares about conforming or being individualistic
Some people are just naturally wired to be more individualistic or maybe develop the behavior in childhood (I'm not sure which). I think level of self-confidence is an important determiner of that quality. IMO, manypeople, if not most, are not overly self-confident.

So, if you live in a non-diverse, intolerant, and/or less urban area and you aren't the most self-confident person, you may not express your appreciation of a particular race, size, or personality type. OTOH, if you live in a more tolerant area you might.

The original poster said he lives in SC. I'm guessing that means something less than a metropolis, where intolerance is a time honored tradition. The people who are openly interested in him will be much harder to find. If he has the means, opportunity, and will, he will likely have better luck in a larger city - of any latitude.

Finally, don't let anyone tell you that your "preferences" are inappropriate or wrong. Having a preference doesn't mean you have to be rude, disrespectful, or intolerant to anyone. My favorite color is green. Is there anything wrong with red? Nope. I just happen to like green. My favorite gender (sexually speaking) is male. Is there anything wrong with women? Nope. I just happen to like men.

 

[tommyj]

Happy birthday ryan13th!

 

[lostwithoutyou]

It's been accurately and fairly pointed out that everyone has individual preferences - relative to physical attributes, personality, values, etc. And that's ok. It's part of what makes people and life interesting. But, people don't always express those preferences, like not being "out." I think the reason for that has mostly to do with two things:

1. What city (not necessarily state) you live in...i.e. your environment
I live in the midwest, not the traditional south - although, Indiana could fairly be described as a misplaced southern state. I live in a small city where anything or anybody that doesn't look like a Norman Rockwell painting often draws stares and comments. However, in Indianapolis or Chicago, where the population is far more diverse and people far more tolerant, inter-racial relationships seem less of a big deal. I've traveled across a lot of the U.S. and the live-and-let-live attitude seems more common in cities like Boston, D.C., Atlanta, Dallas, Houston, Phoenix, Chicago, Detroit, .... By contrast, an hour outside any of those cities (except maybe Boston) and you're in a whole different world.

2. Are you the type of person who cares about conforming or being individualistic
Some people are just naturally wired to be more individualistic or maybe develop the behavior in childhood (I'm not sure which). I think level of self-confidence is an important determiner of that quality. IMO, manypeople, if not most, are not overly self-confident.

So, if you live in a non-diverse, intolerant, and/or less urban area and you aren't the most self-confident person, you may not express your appreciation of a particular race, size, or personality type. OTOH, if you live in a more tolerant area you might.

The original poster said he lives in SC. I'm guessing that means something less than a metropolis, where intolerance is a time honored tradition. The people who are openly interested in him will be much harder to find. If he has the means, opportunity, and will, he will likely have better luck in a larger city - of any latitude.

Finally, don't let anyone tell you that your "preferences" are inappropriate or wrong. Having a preference doesn't mean you have to be rude, disrespectful, or intolerant to anyone. My favorite color is green. Is there anything wrong with red? Nope. I just happen to like green. My favorite gender (sexually speaking) is male. Is there anything wrong with women? Nope. I just happen to like men.

well said and inspiring . changed my attitude