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Sorry, should have posted this here in this forum instead of the straight/bi section. I'm curious what peoples' experiences were coming out, particularly from the Asian and Christian community. I'm both and live a conservative life, so I don't know how the people around me would react if I was to tell them I'm bi/gay (still trying to figure that out).

Thank you.
 
Paul,

Welcome to the JUB. I'm not Asian, but do have a few Asian friends. From what they have shared about their culture, having children and furthering the name seems to be very important.

I do know that we have had some members from conservative family or locations that have had a tough time being out. We also hear from many that having been raised in a conservative and christian culture have self-esteem problems and some self-hate that they are dealing with.

Breaking free from the expectations of others and being yourself - bi / gay / liberal / druid / buddha or whatever can be very difficult. Living a lie can be also. I do hope you can celebrate your life and live a life with joy and happiness.

take care,
Rand
 
All of them want sex at some point.

What sort of sex, they have to choose.
Don't listen to sex = sin.
 
Hey Paul,

Asian here as well and I come from a conservative, Catholic-practicing family background.

I just came out a few months ago and although, I haven't told any of my family members yet... The ones that I came out to, my closest friends, were really cool about it (unsurprisingly). The thing is, I was aware that I'm gay ever since I was 12 (28 now) but it took me a lot of introspection and self-awareness to ultimately find ways to accept who I am.

The first person who I came out to was a close female friend of mine. I thought that the conversation leading to the revelation was the longest I ever had. I kept dragging it out and then she asked me "okay, what are you really trying to tell me?". Finally, with sweaty palms and a thumping heart, I just blurted out the words "I'm gay". And that was it, the water all stored in the proverbial dam came rushing out. One by one, I told each of my friends at my own time and pace. Fortunately, they were all very sweet and encouraging about my coming out to which I am very much thankful for. Since then I am more self-assured than I ever was.

The last hurdle would be telling my family as I don't know how they would react. I assume my two older brothers (I'm the youngest) would be cool about it as I have an inkling that they already know, but my mum and dad would probably go bonkers if I officially declare that I'm a freaking hot-blooded homosexual! :) And since both of my brothers are married and with kids to boot who are all girls, my folks are asking me when I would go down that line - to which I would reply in a tongue-in-cheek manner: "Oh so the pressure's on me now huh? And the family line depends on me now huh? Sad to say the family line ends here. With me. Sorry...". But of course, as I have said, I will tell them in my own time and when I am ready.

I hope this is of any help to your situation though. I can't really give you any concrete advice except maybe, if you do feel ready to come out, share it with someone who you deeply trust and who you're comfortable with. If you want someone talk to about anything at all, just private message me.

Cheers!
 
Asian but not Christian. I am a Buddhist.

I think being in an Asian family, you're expected to do the following.

Good grades > Good course > Good job > Money > Marriage > Kids

and the cycle continues.

I am not sure how my dad and bro would react. They'll go bonkers like Wolvie said. Since my elder bro is still single and my dad wants a grandchild, I think he expected to have kids in near future since I am a flirt and very sociable. It'll kill him if I told him, "Dad, I am gay." and my guts tell me it'll upset the whole family since me and my elder bro are the only males left. If he doesn't bear a boy, the pressure is on me.

My coming out was good. I told a few close mates of mine, they're very supportive and still treat me as the same, there's no EW, FUCK OFF FAG. Told only one female best friends of mine, because I still enjoy being with a girl .

I am not going to tell my family unless I have a serious relationship and my own financial support.
 
I am Asian and Christian. I already came out to my family and my best friend. All of them took it very well. Even as Christians, my family would accept me bringing a boyfriend back home. Heck, my mom even thought of changing my gender once. But I think my family is relatively more "open-minded" than most Christians and Asians.

My best friend is an American and he's also Christian. He took it well and since I came out to him(2 days ago), he seems to treat me the same as before.
 
a lot of good points in posts above me. For me,I live in very religious country and it's very difficult for people to come out. I used to be Christian,the fact that currently I'm not Christian anymore upset my parents big time. I don't really care about my estranged father since him and my mom divorced long time ago and he doesn't live with me. But I worry about my mom since she has a lot of problems (mostly family problems). I still wonder if I ever will come out to my mom someday. My younger brother already knew and he's cool with it. He's very supportive. My estranged father is homophobic. Few years ago when all of us meet,he suddenly rail against gay people.:eek: for no reason at all. Suddenly out of the blue.

Maybe I have to wait it out until I financially dependent or get serious boyfriend, but me myself still pondering whether it's necessary to tell my parents. I don't want to upset the family even more since I have long history of family drama and abuse.
 
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