Are gay men miserable?

[Pringle]

No, no and thrice no.

I can't comment on the relationship side but I am gay and very, very happy. I spend most of my day just smiling or laughing at stuff, even at work.

Smile - its good for you.

 

[Centexfarmer]

I have a great circle of friends. Gay and Straight, couples and singles.

"Gay," and all of the the "labels" are just aspects of who we are, not the end all be all of who we are. We're friends because we enjoy each other's company, are their for each other when we're needed, cheer each other up when we're down, cry with each other when there are things to cry about, and laugh most of the time, becuase we realize that "In the game of life, no one get's out alive!"

Those who insist on being miserable, can find another group to hang out with, cause most of my friends (including myself) don't tolerate it.

Find another group of friends, because you're not going to get anywhere with the group that you've described, except to become just like them.

 

[FREDDIE187]

All the good advice has been given already and I agree with the guys.

I would like to answer your question: Yes... you are mixed up with wrong people ... get rid of them!!!!!

 

[MCsNo1Fn]

If he or she is talking smack about somebody (it may be very witty and amusing, but it's tearing someone down), or praising somebody with an envious tone (notice how so many gay men just love eccentric, egotistical, rather bitchy divas? Madonna, Mariah, Barbra, Callas, etc? That's who they want to be like)

That's sort of ridiculous. I love Mariah for her music and her voice and her sense of humor, which people term as bitchy. Just cause people are dedicated fans and defend their interests doesn't mean they want to be like them or act like them. That's insane. If anything, someone like Christina and Beyonce want to be like them. Not the fans. I have to say that's the first time I've ever heard anyone say that and were being serious, at that.

 

[bluedragon4]

They seem to be as they get older.

 

[Christopher123]

Lots of people are miserable. I don't think it has anything to do with sexuality.

And did the format of this place suddenly change? Or am I hallucinating?

 

[Christopher123]

^ nevermind.

 

[buzzj]

im gay and im not miserable im really happy!!!

Me too! I'm in a great, positive frame of mind--- and, believe me, I'm gay!!

 

[Auburn]

- "Make yourself into the kind of man YOU would want to date/be in a relationship with". Good advice. How do your friends treat others? Are they kind and make others want to be around them? Or are they a bunch of vicious guys who try to make themselves feel better by being as bitchy as possible? I am guessing the last because you are questioning whether they are the right people for you to hang with. PLEASE don't fall victim to this tired trash. Go get yourself some better chums and think about the above advice. WHAT do YOU have to offer another man that would make him want to stay with you for more than a quick tumble? (And while your at it, look at your friends and ask the same question.)
Just my thoughts.

Well, i have alot to offer another man, but if you were to ask that about one of my friends, shawn, i don't know that i would be able to say the same about him. He wears pants with holes in them so the guys at the bar can feel on his dick, he is a MAJOR alcoholic and wont get help, and he doesn't have a life outside of going to the gay bars every weekend, but yet he wonders why he is single.

I'm curious to what group of men you are expose to in the gay community.....

I must be associating with the loser group, apparently

I think that there are alot of bitter people out there in general.
It's only because you are around gay folks that you think it is a gay thing.
You've gotten some good advice here.

Thanks! I also believe i have gotten some great advice

Where do you find your friends? How'd they get to be a part of your life? What were they like when you met them, or have they always been that way?

And, more importantly, what are you putting out there that attracts such friends?

So what do you do about it? The first thing I suggest is to look at where you are doing your socializing. Is it in a bar? Or a slightly incestuous circuit of private parties? Or in a gay ghetto or gayborhood? Well, then, that might be the problem.

Get involved, instead, with an organization that is doing something to better the lot of your fellow man. Project Open Hand or Stop AIDS or Youth OutReach or something, hunt down your local LGBT community center for ideas, they're always looking for volunteers; anything of that nature will put you into contact with positive, good-hearted people. Of course, there will also be negative, controlling assholes (you simply can't escape them), but they're rather outnumbered and don't really matter.

Well, for the past year and a half, i made friends through a gay basketball league and i thought the guys there were cool. But most of the team is a bunch of shady queens. One guy doesn't like me because his ex has a crush on me ( i was never interested in him, cause he is not my type and his ex knows that). I only made like 3 or 4 friends through this basketball thing. Either they hardly call me (and i do make an effort to call them), one guy is in a serious relationship so we don't get to talk, and the other two only invite me to do something when it involves alcohol and going to the bars, which i don't find very fun anymore.

The people i attract are nothing like me LOL. It's funny because even though i call these people friends, we don't have much in common at all, but i can get advice from them when i need it.

What I've noticed in this life is how miserable MOST people are because they have that "Here we are now, Entertain us" attitude.

If your life sucks and you're a miserable fuck and you just whine and moan and bitch about how it's all the fault of everyone else...

Mary, it's your fault your life sucks.

Get a life... get some hobbies.. get some activites that give you something to do.

Meet people you wanna hang out with, start doing things you enjoy and find people you enjoy doing them with.

If your whole life is absorbed with hanging around with jerks who have no life and being sad and bitter... well.. you need better friends.

Soil, that is how i met these friends....through a hobby, which was basketball. In spite of this, it seems, as i said earlier, that they only invite me to do something when it involves alcohol, but i want more from life than just to get drunk. What is funny about this, is that they are older than me and act like they are half my age. I want friends i can go to basketball games, movies, bowling, etc. It sucks...cause i feel like if i cut these "basketball" friends off, then i have to find somewhere else to play ball and right now i don't have time for that. I know.....i need to be more selective about my friends, but right now...i don't trust anybody so it would be hard for me to make friends. I will figure it out, but i appreciate you being so blunt with me

 

[confusedboy23]

Gay men are no more or no less more miserable than their straight counterparts. Both have their fair share of bitterness and brokenness, we're all just humans and we can only do our best!

 

[Riverrick]

Gay men are no more or no less more miserable than their straight counterparts. Both have their fair share of bitterness and brokenness, we're all just humans and we can only do our best!

Heere, Here!!!

 

[The_Reaper]

Are gay men miserable?

Only if they're single.