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are girls ever mean to you cus your gay?

I just came out to a girl today. She was a friend, been since i came to university. She was cool with it, was really supportive, gave me hugs and all. She was not mean, and i got the opposite reaction i thought i would be getting. Its great when you find someone like that, someone who doesnt judge you for being gay.
 
In my experience girls are much more comfortable around gay guys than straight guys. After all, we have quite some interests in common - primarily the male part of our species ;) All the girls I know are comfortable with my homosexuality and we gossip about guys a lot. My best friend right now is a girl too. Straight guys, especially those at the place I work at (a youth club), have this "I must be the coolest guy in a radius of 1 kilometer, because if I am not, I will be a social outcast" attitude. it really annoys me.
 
Hell yes.

When I came out in grade 12, I got this catty attitude from many of the girls. My guy friends on the rugby team were the most supportive. I never had any real altercations with any of the guys.

One girl who had liked me for 2 years, who I declined to dance with at the Halloween dance, attempted to spread some nasty rumors about me, and a few others I knew told their boyfriends to not talk to me.
 
Ok, a little female opinion here :D
the large majority or women will be disappointed to find out your gay (specially if your hot and they wanted you to themselves hehe) but otherwise very supportive and still love to have you around.
But there is a small majority of women who seem to be......threatened is the only word i can think of, they see it as if your saying "i havent met the right woman so i'll try men instead" and take it upon themselves to "cure" you, and when they are unwanted they get resentful and spiteful.

(sorry, anthropology student hehe)
 
Last weekend I hooked up with a girl I met at a party (I'm bi), and she had two gay friends (not together) with her. They seemed to be good enough friends alright, but she kept up on bringing up the fact that "they're gay. It's okay, and they're my best, best friends" every two minutes (literally), which I found really odd. At one point, it was just me, her and the two dudes in a room, and in part maybe she was saying this so I wouldn't think she was with either of them. I had an urge to tell her that I was bi, too, but figured it wasn't any of her business since we had just met and the question at hand was whether she and I would hook up, not one of the guys and me. But I don't think that was the only reason.

I think girls have a tendency to do that -- to remind everyone in the whole world that their male friend is gay. I wouldn't call it being mean, but why do girls have this urge to make these public announcements at every opportunity? It's very fun for them, apparently, which I can't entirely understand. I asked the guys whether they thought it was annoying, and they were just like "oh, it's okay. I don't mind."

Is that kind of what you're referring to by girls being "mean"?
 
NongreasySweatproof said:
Last weekend I hooked up with a girl I met at a party (I'm bi), and she had two gay friends (not together) with her. They seemed to be good enough friends alright, but she kept up on bringing up the fact that "they're gay. It's okay, and they're my best, best friends" every two minutes (literally), which I found really odd. At one point, it was just me, her and the two dudes in a room, and in part maybe she was saying this so I wouldn't think she was with either of them. I had an urge to tell her that I was bi, too, but figured it wasn't any of her business since we had just met and the question at hand was whether she and I would hook up, not one of the guys and me. But I don't think that was the only reason.

I think girls have a tendency to do that -- to remind everyone in the whole world that their male friend is gay. I wouldn't call it being mean, but why do girls have this urge to make these public announcements at every opportunity? It's very fun for them, apparently, which I can't entirely understand. I asked the guys whether they thought it was annoying, and they were just like "oh, it's okay. I don't mind."

Is that kind of what you're referring to by girls being "mean"?
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some girls think gay men are fashion accessories, maybe she was showing off cos she had two hehe

either that or your really hot and she was reeeeeeeeeeally wanted to to know she was available :D
 
Yeah, maybe fashion accessory is a way to put it. I'd say most of the time, it's harmless fun, but it can feel a bit "mean-spirited" or at least annoying after a while. Maybe it's a bit of a status symbol: "I'm awesome enough that even a guy who's not interested in girls wants to be my friend and hang out with me." It signals their availability, too, as girls in relationships tend to drop (to some extent) their male friends, even the gay ones. I think that flaunting around a gay friend is a way to make other guys a little jealous, because guys subconsciously respond to other men--gay or straight--as competition.

I'm not super-duper hot, haha, but thanks. "Ruggedly handsome" is my own subjective way of flattering myself. I must admit that at one point, the thought of a four-way did cross my mind. I thought of mentioning that just to see how people would respond, but somehow, didn't.
 
NongreasySweatproof said:
I'm not super-duper hot, haha, but thanks. "Ruggedly handsome" is my own subjective way of flattering myself. I must admit that at one point, the thought of a four-way did cross my mind. I thought of mentioning that just to see how people would respond, but somehow, didn't.
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hehe well each to his (or her) own, may she thought you were. (rugged sounds pretty damn good to me)

you should have floated the idea! if she wasnt up for it at least you could have gone for a 3-way with her friends! lol :twisted:

and from a female point of view, the best men to be around are gay/bi men (cos seriously people, how much of a differance is there between the 2?)
 
--O2-- said:
I've found some to be really rude to me, mostly by presuming far too much, and then being pissy when I don't fit their idea.

But this has been very rare, women usually love me. *sigh*
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what do you mean presuming too much?

(:grrr: all these mean bitchy girls giving my gender a bad name in the gay community, lol)
 
Yes! So far 2 girls have becoem COMPLETE asses because they found out I was gay after having crushes on me. X_X
 
ah i see what you mean, television and movies have a lot to answer for! hehe far too many seriously camp gay men on screen, girls like that just want someone they go shopping with and have bitchy conversations.

i think its because when many girls think of gay men they think of men who want to be women! (stupid girls) and its easier for them to accept your not attracted to them if you act like them.
finding out your just a nice normal guy who isnt interested in them because you prefer men gives their pride a pretty good slap hehe
 
--O2-- said:
Right on. That is EXACTLY my problem. It's a problem I encounter with gay men as well. I'm not gay enough, basically lol


how gay is gay enough.......how long is a piece of string lol

i get the same kind of thing from straight guys actually (i am a girl by the way) they think i should be this this brainless little barbie doll and i am not

(i think i am the gay man of the female world lol)
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Glad I'm not the only one who isn't gay enough!! haha. I was suprised at this reaction. But I find I get it from gay guys more than girls. But I have gotten it from girls when I don't want to do things that they would normally do with other girls.... shopping, bitch about boys, etc.

I actually expected to find more guys that were normal guys (into sports, sunday afternoon football watching, etc.) than I've found so far. *sigh*
 
jockboy01 said:
Glad I'm not the only one who isn't gay enough!! haha. I was suprised at this reaction. But I find I get it from gay guys more than girls. But I have gotten it from girls when I don't want to do things that they would normally do with other girls.... shopping, bitch about boys, etc.

I actually expected to find more guys that were normal guys (into sports, sunday afternoon football watching, etc.) than I've found so far. *sigh*
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I know what you mean... but it gets worse... I keep having to trade in my straight friends for younger models when they start to get bogged down with raising children... double *sigh*
 
I find most women to be accepting, or nonchalant about the whole thing. There are always going to be people who won't accept you. But, that is their problem not yours.
 
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