Are there any struggles or hurdles in a gay relationship that you think people in a hetero relationship are unlikely to experience?

[Reischfleger]

Public displays of affection.

 

[NotHardUp1]

The Peter Pan Syndrome.

Straight men are not pressured to remain young visually (outside models and actors). A certain subpopulation of gay men cling to the belief that age and youthful beauty are measures of worth or the gateway to hookups. As they age, they appear to adopt some of the same desperate turn-the-clock-back attempts that beautiful women often adopt.

Straight men, even when handsome, are not expected to remain boyish, or teen. They may or may not feel pressured to remain as strong as young men, but never as youth. If anything, straight men at 40 may have more access to partners than men half their age, as they've had two decades to accumulate wealth and gain wisdom, two traits women are often shopping for.

A second struggle is how to face old age. When one half of a gay couple dies, there usually are not children, so old age and debilitation can be more threatening without the progeny to help in times of hospitalization, etc.

 

[backagain]

It really depends on the place and society that one lives. As for me public display of affection would not be a problem, but for someone living in Iran for example it would be. Heterosexual relationships through out the world is the norm. A gay relationship is no different than a heterosexual relationship, but gay people have to be aware of the social pressures and dangers depending on where you live.

 

[rareboy]

role playing.

 

[Kahaih]

Straight chicks don't have to worry about their boyfriends checking out snatches in the gym locker room.

And, it's highly unlikely that straight boys could get away with asking their girlfriends to 'call me by your name'.

 

[cabinfever]

Wearing each others clothes

After all these years we no longer have our own clothes. Everything is "ours"

 

[cabinfever]

^^^^Along the same line a lot of people just assume we are brothers. Years ago we used to correct them but even then most of them thought we were joking so now we just stay silent and go with it. Even some people we have told we are married still insist we are brothers

I don't think heterosexuals get the same thing,

 

[TX-Beau]

All of your standard closet issues large and small. The spite and dismissal of relatives who refuse to recognize your relationship because it isn't "real." Pissy and bigoted public servants who do the same. Looks sneers, gossip behind your back. Crass and invasive questions about who's penis is going exactly where, as well as who is the "wife" - which are actually the same damn question. Undue and unwelcome inquiries about your sex life in general.

Always watching the shadows and never leaving the bar too drunk.

 

[rareboy]

Unfortunately...this.

 

[ShadowCat]

Lets see being ones insurance beneficiary.
Being ones medical care directive.
Adoption because still some agencies would rather give a kid to a meth head mom and a pdo father just because they are straight than 2 normal gay people!
Constantly watching your ass so you dont get jumped.
PDA!
The open relationship thing why are you even together?!

 

[Charon]

Finding out that you're both bottoms.

Joking aside, this thread reminds me of (self-loathing) straight allies who use us as an example of a perfect, wholesome, loving relationship when they criticize hetero relationships. Yeah, because infidelity, bickering, murder, etc, never happen in gay relationships, lmao. Never let the truth get in the way of a good story, I suppose.