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tallguy23

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I have a friend whose relationship with me has been strange for some time. We met about two years and become fast friends. We didn't see each other regularly but we we would hang out every 1-2 months and had a great time.

I last saw him at my birthday last summer (2016). He and his husband stopped by and stayed for maybe an hour. He made a strange comment to me about not having a lot of gay friends there. I went to the bathroom and when I came back they were gone. They didn't even text/call later to say that they pulled an Irish exit.

I've tried to hang with them a few times since then but I've had no luck. I eventually stopped trying. I've also learned lately that all of their friends are white gay men and they're both pro-Trump. Not that this is a big deal but I have a very diverse set of friends (race, religion, gender, sexual orientation,etc.)

Am I being overly sensitive or was their behavior rude? Just want to get an outsider's perspective.
 
Doesn't sound like much of a friend to me. Whay they did was incredibly rude, and I wouldn't give them any more of your time if I was you. A friendship needs to go both ways, so just forget about him and move on.
 
No, you should not consider him as a friend anymore.
This has happened to me in the past. I meet a guy, we hang out, we talk a lot, I consider him as a true friend, and one day he disappears for no reason. I realized he wasn't as much as a friend as I thought.
 
tallguy23 said:
...Am I being overly sensitive or was their behavior rude? Just want to get an outsider's perspective.
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Some friendships just run their course and fizzle out. Consider their lack of good manners to be the final fizz. Your time could be better spent with people that you have more in common with (and hopefully have better social etiquette).
 
You were never "friends," you were acquaintances.
 
TX-Beau said:
You were never "friends," you were acquaintances.
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That is how it seems to me, as well. But was the time you spend with him just doing things or was it a friendship that included being interested in each other's lives. Having a great time doesn't always include some basic tenets of friendship, such as growing closer to each other. Does he know your favorite sport, or hobby, what your favorite activity is. Are you part of his circle of friends? Ever met them? One of the criteria women use for assessing friendship is introducing their friends to each other. Of course, some women don't.
 
Very weird. Anything missing?
 
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