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Are you living a secret live?

Simon1978 said:
I am wondering, are there any other guys who secretly live a gay live?

Who is still in the closet, only come out to yourself?
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If you are describing yourself, you are not alone. I am not, personally, in that situation, but was for years. I found it too lonely and got tired of covering my tracks. Anyway, as lonnie1 says, there are millions.
 
I am sort of

most of my friends know, because we have discussed it, or because I've stopped covering and they respect that.

(honestly I cannot see why they wouldn't ;))

But my parents don't. I have my reasons, and that is why I chose to live my life far from them.


It prevents a lot of drama, religious drama.
 
Sadly, there are FAR too many of us. I've gotten tired of it all, and with the help of a jubber, see that changing in the future for myself.

Unfortunately, sometimes circumstances dictate us living a lie in order to maintain our sanity; sometimes at the EXPENSE of our sanity.
 
Yes and No....


I have been slowly coming out.....first to myself and now to some friends. Also...I go to a nice gay bar that is close....but not too close to home and....almost have a boyfriend....this weekend....I kind of, sort of have a date. So...things are moving for me...finally...|
 
Uhm...im not out but I wouldnt call it living a secret life. Sexual orientation is not a big deal at all to me. I just havent told many people im bisexual. That's pretty much the only secret I have.
 
i don't feel like living with the label...so im fine in the closet right now.

im not living a secret life or anything though...im not going out and trying to meet girls to put on an act. im myself and nothing would change that if i were to come out of the closet...i probably should just get it over with but once again i dont want the label.
 
I am sort of only my younger brother and 2 of my freinds know because i told them but no one else.........
 
My parents and sister know and are very supportive. As for anyone else in my family i'm not technically out.....though i'm pretty sure two of my cousins know. For example, my Aunt and my Mom came to visit and I just wasn't ready for my Aunt to start asking me questions so I hid my gay books (no, not porn), my Queer as Folk Series set, and a nude male drawing in my room. So to some people yeah, I probably still live a secret life.

All of my friends know and don't have a problem with it.
 
yep yep yep. no one in the whole world knows but me, and i plan to keep it that way. i guess you could say i "swing both ways," but only because i think sexuality isnt defined by "i like boys or i like girls."

with that being said, i still fall [in love? in lust? i get fixated?] for some of my straight guy friends. i'm tired of not being attractive enough, or not being able to act on these things. it drives me crazy every day. and all because i'm afraid of waht people will say.
 
FYI to closet cases, I can always tell. you're not that good at hiding (who is?) but it's ok.
 
There's not really a secret "life" per say, just my private thoughts that are really no one's business but my own. I'm not doing anything that any other person would do except for the fact that I don't date girls, but there could be plenty of reasons for that..
 
student123212003 said:
i don't feel like living with the label...so im fine in the closet right now.

im not living a secret life or anything though...im not going out and trying to meet girls to put on an act. im myself and nothing would change that if i were to come out of the closet...i probably should just get it over with but once again i dont want the label.
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Even if you're openly gay, there doesn't have to be a label. Labels only exists when you allow them to.

As for me...I'm GLBT loud and proud, every day all night. Yes I'm religious and have a lot of conservative friends, but I'm bringing what's considered "different" to light and helping others come to terms with accepting their own sexuality. :)
 
I have told two people I'm gay and only still talk to one of them regularly. Most of my friends aren't homophobic, just uneducated so they say some ignorant shit sometimes. I don't really act phony, I voice my support for gay rights and marriage etc if it comes up, and I don't talk about girls because I don't want to dig myself a deeper closet/hole.

I really wanna come out to two of my friends when they sign online because they're both serving overseas and they'd have time to think it over before I face them. But it's real tough cause even though it should be obvious when a 22 year old has never had a girlfriend, I get the feeling they've considered I'm gay and then think 'nah, no way kramer362 is gay."

The only 'secret life' aspect is my addiction to gay online support groups/forums such as this that I spend way too much time reading these at night in order to relate to others.
 
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