Are you too choosy about looks for your own good?

[MarkScott]

Is your attraction too limiting? For example, you only like blonds, thin, young, smooth, VGL, etc? Of course, it is shallow, illogical, and self-defeating, but attraction is kind of hard to alter-just try being straight if you aren't

 

[refujiunderground]

funny thing is that there's so many gay men that live off that principle acting like they're the ultimate judge. the irony of it all is that the same dudes doing it will be the same ones crying about people judging them. it's okay for them to do it where they're basically saying "no old people, no blue eyes, no black guys and etc" BUT yet when it's their turn to experience it, they can't deal with it. they think that people are CRAZY for rejected them or are fucked up in the head. how many dudes can dish it but are ready to cry a river when it's time for them to receive their own mentality against them? with that said, i try to avoid those type of people and look @ them as delusional. in no way i am saying that folks can't have preferences or can't be attracted to whoever BUT just because you aren't attracted to someone or don't prefer a certain physical characteristic of somebody doesn't give them the right to look down on them, belittle them and shit on them as a person. that is just stepping out of bounce and says a lot about that person being a bigoted asshole.

me, i really don't give a fuck because i'm not someone that focuses solely on a guy's looks when it comes to liking a guy. i need something more than that. i always take it that someone who simply relies on their appearance to entice people towards them really doesn't have shit else to offer other than being a trophy or an object. it's old. after awhile, i'm like besides looking pretty, do you have anything to contribute besides being a log? if his personality is that of a douchebag which i've noticed a lot of guys seem to be content with and he thinks it's cute, then he can go mess with whoever will want him. i really have nothing to gain and it's not the end of the world if i don't have a guy in my bed or am not dating somebody. my life doesn't revolve around love and sex so @ whoever thinks that i'm crying in a corner because i'm beating off my dick, as if i'm ashamed to be single.

 

[njcollegekid]

im not sure whether or not im picky, cuz the guys im attracted to are wildly different so i dont know what it is that actually draws me in. but im definitely attracted to too few, id say only 1/10-1/15 of the guys ill see walking around my university interest me.

 

[Corny]

I'm picky, but not limiting. I have a type, but most guys with whom I got serious weren't even my type

 

[maxpowr9]

I find it amusing that I keep thinking I want another "geek" like myself but I keep ending up with "jocks". At least from what I learned with dating is that I may "emotionally" connect with a geek but physically, there is nothing there.

 

[darden]

when it comes to dating, I often find myself attracted to guys who aren't conventionally pretty but have amazing hearts <3

 

[Scealle]

Not really. My friends thinks I am really picky because I have been single forever. But whenever I tell them whom I am interested in, they either do not approve my tastes/criticize my taste or thinks I can fall madly in love with a homeless beggar on the street lol. My life is hard

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

figa reply this a 1

if a millons a humans eva figa a think
millions humans no a job
ans lot a hand time is guess

thankyou

 

[JPGhost]

Why I did that? I didn't change myself to get a serious date. If you wanna get to know someone, you dont have to change of who you are, that is a bad ingredient to start.
I change my haircut- grow facial hair or buy a nice clothes (self-maintenance) to nail a guy whose my type. How often we look at profile and read that our guy has his own expectation?
So ...I just want to impress, to make him happy. I want him to enjoying myself while not pushing too hard to like me..'cuz it's not cool to have a date whose totally self-centered, dont listen and dont care of your interest, isn't?
Facial hair, body hair are all superficial but I think it's not wrong to wear it for special occasion

and btw..once he saw me, he'll know how wild/mild my facial hair is...he must apt to limitation too.

 

[JPGhost]

I find it amusing that I keep thinking I want another "geek" like myself but I keep ending up with "jocks". At least from what I learned with dating is that I may "emotionally" connect with a geek but physically, there is nothing there.

Because you're a geek with jock-body

 

[darden]

I feel like when 90% of guys say they're attracted to geeks/nerds, what they really mean is that they're attracted to models wearing glasses.

 

[JPGhost]

^ how true is that? ^^

 

[MarkScott]

but im definitely attracted to too few, id say only 1/10-1/15 of the guys ill see walking around my university interest me.

Funny. I think that is a staggeringly high number. So you must see hundreds of people a day at your university you would be interested in.

 

[earlgrey]

I'll have to find him attractive to a certain degree, and that may increase after getting to know him.

But then blonds, thin, young, smooth is the complete opposite of what I'm attracted to anyway.

I feel like when 90% of guys say they're attracted to geeks/nerds, what they really mean is that they're attracted to models wearing glasses.

Same impression, hahaha. Well dressed, fitted clothing, as though they didn't put much thought to it but spent all morning in front of the mirror, with black framed glasses.

 

[eastofeden]

My #1 "choosy" condition...I am rarely attracted to any man who sees himself through other people's eyes. I get bored really fast because I beleive if they will oppress and objectify themselves they will also oppress and objectify me.

The rest of my list has almost nothing to do with looks.

 

[dereperez]

I don't have a particular type but I know what looks good to me when I see one.

 

[medic1]

I have always been an "eye" man , i am a sucker for ANY guy that has , what i think are "The most amazing eyes" .

Does not matter how tall , how old , what colour there hair or there skin are , but , to really connect i need some sort of "mind-link".......................

 

[menRsexii]

i know what i like physically. i feel im not really that picky in what i like. like njcollegekid said, walking around my campus, i spot many guys everyday that i find attractive. my problem is a lot of the guys i find attractive are either "douchey" or straight :/ oh, and also, i would never have the guts to go up to someone and try to act on my attractions... what with my body image issues and all. one day i really hope that will change.

 

[G-Lexington]

From what I've been told, I'm not choosy enough. I've been told "you could do so much better" by about at least three of my sex partners. But judging by the great sex we had, I'm not entirely sure I could've.

I'm not attracted to specific body types or parts. There are things I've found I enjoy more - I seem to like hairier guys, I enjoy big cocks, etc. But I've gone to bed with smooth guys, and the best sex I had was with a guy around five inches. They're vague preferences, and nothing more. Far more important than the physical package is the chemistry. How do I feel around him? Do we "click"? Can I relate to him easily? If so, I'm interested. If not, he could be my ideal physical specimen, and I still wouldn't be interested.

Lex

 

[Beachguyj]

No I"m not that picky.