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Ashamed

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So I was hanging out with my neighbor dave and after some drinks I came out to him
He was shocked but find with it. But that when I realized I'm not ok with I regretted it the moment I said it. And wished I could go back in the closet. I even apologized Dave said it's fine he doesn't care he has a lot of gay bi friends. All of my coming outs have been good no one has a problem except me. I have one friend Zach that I went to high school with and his younger brother is gay so I know Zach wouldn't care but I'm ashamed to come out. I don't like people know. What's wrong with me?
 
So the only person that has a problem is you?

Maybe it'd be helpful to do this thought exercise, someone has just come out to you, what are your first thoughts? How do you respond?
 
Croft85 said:
All of my coming outs have been good no one has a problem except me.
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Symptom.

Croft85 said:
I have one friend Zach that I went to high school with and his younger brother is gay so I know Zach wouldn't care but I'm ashamed to come out. I don't like people know. What's wrong with me?
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The thread title answers the question and provides the cause: "Ashamed"

The question, is this just part of the things that you're going through and your current frame of mind, or is the shame something deeper and more long-term?
 
Maybe "Ashamed" isn't the appropriate word. Perhaps "Scared?" Alabama probably isn't the easiest place in the world to be open about your sexual orientation. I live in rural conservative southern Pennsylvania. I've never felt ashamed of what I am, but I don't shout it from the mountain top, either. I won't apologize to anyone, but I am very careful who I share with.
 
flamingo said:
Maybe "Ashamed" isn't the appropriate word. Perhaps "Scared?" Alabama probably isn't the easiest place in the world to be open about your sexual orientation. I live in rural conservative southern Pennsylvania. I've never felt ashamed of what I am, but I don't shout it from the mountain top, either. I won't apologize to anyone, but I am very careful who I share with.
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That's a good point. Thanks
 
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