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I've been at my new job for about a month. There is this one guy a am always trying to sparkle for. I'll spare you all the ways his physical beauty makes my heart swoon. But the lust I feel makes wana do things right there on the busy salesfloor. He is openly gay. While I'm out to a handful. He has a on and off relationship with someone he met on the internet and currently on a break. Our relationship right now is relatively nonexistent. We work in different departments and don't have a lot of face time. I've changed my route so I always walk by but I always seem to be "aloof". There just happens to be a mirror nearby he glances at me as I stroll down a busy hall sending my heart into spasms. But its not much more than that. I'm trying very hard not to delude myself into thinking I have a shot in hell but it's to late for that. I believe I can be moderately goodlooking. I'm tall and thin. People don't flinch when I look their way. The thing is I'm beyond socially awkward. When I get nervous I can't even formulate sentences all I can do is smile and look pretty. Small talk is heartwrenchingly painful I'm afraid he is alot smarter than I am. I've had one boyfriend which I snagged as I was leaving a bar. He put on all the moves but I didn't find them all flattering. So I need help just getting to the first kiss ... Hello I mean hello. I don't wana rush and show him all my cards but I dont wana miss this opportunity.
 
*scratches head*

Why are so many guys trying to nab someone, but not show any outward interest??

That's how you get guys. By showing some god-damned interest! :)
 
Lube said:
*scratches head*

Why are so many guys trying to nab someone, but not show any outward interest??

That's how you get guys. By showing some god-damned interest! :)
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Because everyone wants to be the cool kid. I never understood it myself, but I'm rather blunt. I don't like playing games ...
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Anyways. Back to the OP

So if I were you, I would just go up and say hi.

Don't downplay your intelligence. I highly doubt most people are stupi...wait. I take that back. Most people are stupid, but most people can have a conversation on just about anything.

Oh and I'm not calling you stupid, just many of the people that surround me are ... Touched.

In all seriousness, what's the worst that could happen? He screams, runs out the door, pushing an old lady down, and gets hit by a car? The probability of this are very small.

He'll either talk back and flirt, which will make you vomit rainbows and sparkles; or, he will make very limited chit chat and that will be your que that he's not interested.

The best way to get guys is by being confident. No one is out of your league, it's whether or not they can see thru their own baggage to see how great you are.

Oh and don't judge beauty by how thin you are. There are several guys that are way thinner than me and they look like shit. I may not be skinny but I think I look pretty good overall. It's all about the confidence.
 
I also forgot to clarify ... Don't run up and be I like you!!!! Just introduce yourself and just talk about something, such as work or something about his department. If he's interested he'll talk and the conversation will develop.

It worked for me at least. But once again, I'm a direct person. I say what I think (majority of the time) and mean what I say. I with hold the callous catty remarks though. I try to remain pleasant
 
bw92116 said:
Show a tiny bit of interest, but don't overdo it. Make them chase you.

If they approach you, be friendly and attentive and listen.

Never force yourself on them in any way. If they are interested, they will come to you.

The bold, direct, daring approach can be effective if you know for certain that they are interested in you. Just say, "Hey want to hang out with me Friday?"

Don't ever appear desperate. Appear mildly interested, but that you also have plenty of other options.

Don't try to be sexy. You're sexiest when you aren't trying. Make yourself look good, but then forget all about it and go about your business. People will automatically notice that you're hot without you having to bring it to their attention.

Try to be in a good mood as much as possible. Laugh at what other people say that is funny. You don't have to be smiling every second, but be ready to smile to anyone. Be like a shining golden light that people will be attracted to.

I know that feeling of nervousness when you are around someone you are attracted to. That used to be a huge problem for me. It's almost impossible to get rid of that nervousness. Eventually you just learn to ignore it, and are able to carry on a conversation above it.
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show some interest and do that.
good luck!
 
miyakko said:
Because everyone wants to be the cool kid. I never understood it myself, but I'm rather blunt. I don't like playing games ...
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Anyways. Back to the OP

So if I were you, I would just go up and say hi.

Don't downplay your intelligence. I highly doubt most people are stupi...wait. I take that back. Most people are stupid, but most people can have a conversation on just about anything.

Oh and I'm not calling you stupid, just many of the people that surround me are ... Touched.

In all seriousness, what's the worst that could happen? He screams, runs out the door, pushing an old lady down, and gets hit by a car? The probability of this are very small.

He'll either talk back and flirt, which will make you vomit rainbows and sparkles; or, he will make very limited chit chat and that will be your que that he's not interested.

The best way to get guys is by being confident. No one is out of your league, it's whether or not they can see thru their own baggage to see how great you are.

Oh and don't judge beauty by how thin you are. There are several guys that are way thinner than me and they look like shit. I may not be skinny but I think I look pretty good overall. It's all about the confidence.
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rrrrrg, you make it sound so easy!

this advice sounds good to me, though. me, a virgin.
 
I was very shy in high school ... Painfully shy. You just have accept that you are worth it and just go about your business. I'm too fucking busy with work, school, hobbies, continuing education, and family/partner to give a flying flip of what ever negative garbage dipshit next to me has to say.

I wasn't born confident and I do get insecure, but while I was dating, I never showed. Oh and I did get turned down and have had generally not nice things said about me... But meh. I can't control what others say or think, so I don't bother getting caught up in the drama. I like to see other people's drama. I avoid creating my own.
 
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