Attraction to trans guys?

[gumshoe]

After meeting a few trans people over the last few years, I've discovered an attraction to trans guys. Most, if not all, of the guys I've met that I know to be trans were always so incredibly attractive and extremely nice. I would definitely date a guy with the qualities I look for in a guy knowing that, while he identifies as male, physically doesn't have a penis.
I also know that trans girls, people that identify as girls but have a penis, don't interest me.

I would never know how to approach such a situation though because I feel like they wouldn't want you to draw attention to the fact they're trans but I also feel like I'd need to acknowledge that I know they're trans and that it's cool with me. Even just making this topic feels not really right because I'm being exclusive. Not that I have to worry about that now as I have a bf but I'm wondering if anyone here has had experience?

 

[Seasoned]

I don't think my attraction is of a sexual nature, but I have a definite interest. There is something about the exaggerated femininity that I find interesting.

I think you start out by being friendly with a smile, an offer of a drink and just begin a conversation.

 

[cinnamontea]

lately yes. fo some reason i find them more guy-ish then most gay men...not too manly, just hve this 'i'm a dude and i play sports and drink beer' vibe. and i find them incredibly appealing...not sure why.

 

[jmadaf]

I love to suck cock, but there is something sexy and beautiful about a cute femboy who dresses-up I find them irresistable.

 

[Rolyo85]

I have never met a transgender boy (that I knew was transgender), so I can't say. However, I really like men physically, so I don't know if I could get romantically involved with a guy like that. I guess it would depend on the guy...

 

[hylas]

well, im not trans myself so i might be wrong, but i imagine its ok to express your interest in certain attributes (like being trans) as long as you do it respectfully. on dating sites, people regurarly express interest in my ethnicity; some do it in a way that makes me feel desired and wanted, and some do it in a slightly creepy, objectifying way.

 

[CrazySantaClouds]

I doubt that would ever happen with me. I'm 100 % gay and like men : that would be the "man" image that has been imposed by society on our brains in our generation and the ones before and it is not of an effeminate one.

Yet, what I just said is also a load of bullshit, since it really depends on the guy like Rolyo said. Also, I've never been attracted that much to the primary sexual characteristics of a guy (that'd be penis mostly) as opposed to secondary (muscle tone, Adam's apple, (lack of) body hair, broadening of the shoulders, etc). My point is, if he's a trans, he'd be trying to look as much as a girl as possible and most of the things I dig about guys won't be there.

Interesting topic though... Psychological striptease of the transsexual fetishism.

 

[Cedric]

Transguys are just as varied among themselves as cis-gender guys. There's the hyper-muscular and masculine type like Buck Angel and then there's the "doughy" type like Chaz Bono along with every other look that's out there. There are so many different "types" of transguys that I think it would be hard for anyone to say that they are or are not into them because there's so much variety.

 

[gumshoe]

I doubt that would ever happen with me. I'm 100 % gay and like men : that would be the "man" image that has been imposed by society on our brains in our generation and the ones before and it is not of an effeminate one.

Yet, what I just said is also a load of bullshit, since it really depends on the guy like Rolyo said. Also, I've never been attracted that much to the primary sexual characteristics of a guy (that'd be penis mostly) as opposed to secondary (muscle tone, Adam's apple, (lack of) body hair, broadening of the shoulders, etc). My point is, if he's a trans, he'd be trying to look as much as a girl as possible and most of the things I dig about guys won't be there.

Interesting topic though... Psychological striptease of the transsexual fetishism.

The thing is is that I'm not interested in transgirls (male-to-female, girls with physical male parts but they live as female), I'm interested in transboys. Guys that physically don't have a penis but are otherwise living as a guy.

 

[gumshoe]

Transguys are just as varied among themselves as cis-gender guys. There's the hyper-muscular and masculine type like Buck Angel and then there's the "doughy" type like Chaz Bono along with every other look that's out there. There are so many different "types" of transguys that I think it would be hard for anyone to say that they are or are not into them because there's so much variety.

That's true. And that's why when I make a topic like this, I can't help but feel like I'm being disrespectful because I know that I'm lumping them into one group and I know it's unfair to do that.

 

[cliffdweller]

I have a dear friend who is a transman, and probably would have dated him at one point, if the situation had been right. I've never had sex with a transman (but I would if the opportunity arose, without hesitation), but I have had sex with a couple of transwomen.

 

[evanrick]

my friend has an affinity for the sexually androgynous types, idk if that counts as a trans affinity but he talks about transsexualism jokingly from time to time...very complicated lol