Being a Bottom & Making my experience better

[Superboy Untamed]

It's actually kind of odd really but I know I am meant to be a bottom(tried a top and it wasn't for me really) but it's like a struggle for me and it becomes less fun and more "Okay let's get this over with."

I have had the 'pleasure' of meeting some super hot guys but not being able to really just let loose and take the dick basically without it hurting.

A. Of course initial penetration hurts
B. Once inside....and I am used to it, it then sort of hurts with it poking what I think is my prostate(usually doggy style).

I am VERY tight...very much so(which I guess is good for tops lol) and I am just looking for a way to make myself enjoy sex because I always feel embarrassed that I cant perform the way I want.

Though one thing is a plus for being tight...LOL it never fails, the guy cums rather fast because he doesn't ever expect me to be as tight as I am so it usually doesn't last long lol.

 

[62624rd]

Do you use any type of lube. If you do not ... I suggest that you start to use some. The first time i tried to bottom I was to tight and the top could not enter me. We made/tried two attempts the first night. The second night i went to him to try again but i was to tight. Three years later a met another guy but this time we used a lot of lube and he gave me some poppers to relax me. Side note the poppers did relax me but i did not like he effects it had on me. So he would go slow and use a lot of lube on our future hookups.

 

[palemale]

It's actually kind of odd really but I know I am meant to be a bottom(tried a top and it wasn't for me really) but it's like a struggle for me and it becomes less fun and more "Okay let's get this over with."

I have had the 'pleasure' of meeting some super hot guys but not being able to really just let loose and take the dick basically without it hurting.

A. Of course initial penetration hurts
B. Once inside....and I am used to it, it then sort of hurts with it poking what I think is my prostate(usually doggy style).

I am VERY tight...very much so(which I guess is good for tops lol) and I am just looking for a way to make myself enjoy sex because I always feel embarrassed that I cant perform the way I want.

Though one thing is a plus for being tight...LOL it never fails, the guy cums rather fast because he doesn't ever expect me to be as tight as I am so it usually doesn't last long lol.

Find a top that loves to rim. I have a buddy who likes to eat ass like it's his first meal after being lost in the desert for a month. He really can work it, get his tongue in, and do it for a long time. He has a very, very thick, 9" cock. I'm very tight, too, but don't have any trouble taking him because his rimming relaxes me and makes fucking very pleasurable.

 

[IowaGuy]

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You are a very lucky man.

 

[KaraBulut]

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A. Of course initial penetration hurts
B. Once inside....and I am used to it, it then sort of hurts with it poking what I think is my prostate(usually doggy style).

I am VERY tight...very much so(which I guess is good for tops lol) and I am just looking for a way to make myself enjoy sex because I always feel embarrassed that I cant perform the way I want....

Is these anything in your life that you can think of that you did excellently on the first few tries? Probably not- most people have to try a new thing a few times... and maybe even practice a lot.. before they feel like they've mastered it.

Why should bottoming be any different?

If you want to be able to relax and enjoy a good pounding, it's time to buy yourself a toy and a bottle of lube and spent some time practicing on your own. In the Sticky section of the forum in the "All About Ass" thread, there's some older threads that discuss how to retrain your ass to relax. In short, a reasonably sized butt plug or dildo is all it takes. Take the time when you don't have any pressure and work with the toy until you can insert it without force and leave it in place until you relax completely. Then repeat until you get the hang of it.

After this, with a little foreplay you should find it easier to let go and be in the moment with the real deal.

 

[Superboy Untamed]

I guess it just bugs me because I am a bottom...and I am not exactly a virgin or anything yet it is like by now I should be used to it

 

[KaraBulut]

I guess it just bugs me because I am a bottom...and I am not exactly a virgin or anything yet it is like by now I should be used to it

You may be a bottom. The point is to be a better bottom.

 

[ndavies]

Before I met my husband I was an anal virgin, but (no pun intended), I had played with myself with toys...a lot. It used to be hard to get anything in there but over time it got easier...not surprising. Practice makes perfect.

My husband is VERY generous below the belt and he was shocked that I was able to take him the first time with no problem. He's been around the block a few hundred times and said the only people that had taken him SO easily were known to be the most bottom of bottoms which I was clearly not.

Practice with toys. Go to Amazon and buy yourself an 'Anal Trainer Kit' so you don't suffer the experience of the checkout at the adult store. Gradually step up in size. Don't be afraid to stick things up there if you want to take a dick(s) and enjoy it more.

 

[palemale]

Before I met my husband I was an anal virgin, but (no pun intended), I had played with myself with toys...a lot. It used to be hard to get anything in there but over time it got easier...not surprising. Practice makes perfect.

My husband is VERY generous below the belt and he was shocked that I was able to take him the first time with no problem. He's been around the block a few hundred times and said the only people that had taken him SO easily were known to be the most bottom of bottoms which I was clearly not.

Practice with toys. Go to Amazon and buy yourself an 'Anal Trainer Kit' so you don't suffer the experience of the checkout at the adult store. Gradually step up in size. Don't be afraid to stick things up there if you want to take a dick(s) and enjoy it more.

The first time I bottomed, the guy was 9" and thick. I had never played with my hole or used a Dildo It was fine, and I'm quite tight.

 

[IwaoHarada]

Definitely it is a question of practice and training. Use lube, try a toy to stretch you. You know all those kinds of stuffs that will make you more comfy with something up your rectum.