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being bi sucks ass
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hey man, no need to get in a rut. dont be too hard on yourself! being bi is a good thing because you get the broad perspective. you're just in a state of confusion.. dont commit suicide!! sooner or later you'll find someone, just hang in there!
BlueStreaker
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We've all been at a tough spot in the road, and this is just one of those. Nothing to throw everything else away on. You have a good thing there with your best friend, being understanding of your situation and all. If you feel you should tell your other friends then do it, if they are true friends it won't matter that you're bi, they should be your friends because of who you are regardless.
If you think you really need help, though, it would be in your best interest to seek it out. Whether it's a professional or just someone to talk to about everything, do it. The first part is admitting you need help, and you've done that in your post, so now you just need to seek it out and start getting that help.
We're all here for you if you need us, and you shouldn't be afraid to talk to your friends at home. Every little bit will help.
If you think you really need help, though, it would be in your best interest to seek it out. Whether it's a professional or just someone to talk to about everything, do it. The first part is admitting you need help, and you've done that in your post, so now you just need to seek it out and start getting that help.
We're all here for you if you need us, and you shouldn't be afraid to talk to your friends at home. Every little bit will help.
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yes, being bi suckass. A lot of girls does not like it when you tell them you're bi. Yet, you just have to deal with it by being honest. If she doesn't like it, its her lost.
Being bi puts you at double of the chance of finding a partner
LOL...
so if one girl runs away, find another!
Being bi puts you at double of the chance of finding a partner
LOL...so if one girl runs away, find another!
Romantico
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I always felt being bi was a advantage. I also had a guy I fell in love with who reacted in disgust when I expressed my love for him. It hurt real bad. I have lost friends both gay and straight who think my sexual orientation is a sham and a excuse. Things can surely be tough for us. I had the same fears you had and even started a thread asking if women accept bi men.
I made sure I brought up my bisexuality early and I think its what saved me. Waiting in my opinion makes it worse. If my GF left me after I told her I was bi I would have been hurt but eventually relieved that I didn't "settle" for someone who did not like me for me. I have a friend who uses a corny saying but there's a lot of truth in it. He says, "You Have to go through the Crappy before you can be Happy." Look at it as a payoff and your eventual happiness is something you've earned. A year ago I was just getting out of a relationship with a guy and didn't want to go into another one. Well, fate had other plans and I have never been happier than I am now. All the confusion that I had went away. When you meet someone you truly love things become very clear.
We don't pick who we fall in love and true love does not recognize gender,politics,race, or anything physical. I've been exactly where you are dude and I had days where I felt it would be so much easier to just do myself in. Somehow I got through it and so will you. Being bisexual is awesome. Its made me a better person. I feel I am more honest because I am bi. I am in touch with my feminine side in a way where I connect with my girlfriend in ways she has never experienced. I am more confident and sure of myself because of my bisexuality. I am who I am because of it. Bisexuality defines who we are like being gay,straight, or transgender defines other people. In my opinion you should embrace you bisexuality and not shy away from it. Show people how we are and debunk a few of the myths and stereotypes while your at it. Just think, you could lead by example and show people how we are. My GF tells her other friends that bisexual men make better boyfriends than heterosexual guys. At first they laughed it off but she tells me they are always asking her questions about me and my bisexuality.
Good luck and be strong!
I made sure I brought up my bisexuality early and I think its what saved me. Waiting in my opinion makes it worse. If my GF left me after I told her I was bi I would have been hurt but eventually relieved that I didn't "settle" for someone who did not like me for me. I have a friend who uses a corny saying but there's a lot of truth in it. He says, "You Have to go through the Crappy before you can be Happy." Look at it as a payoff and your eventual happiness is something you've earned. A year ago I was just getting out of a relationship with a guy and didn't want to go into another one. Well, fate had other plans and I have never been happier than I am now. All the confusion that I had went away. When you meet someone you truly love things become very clear.
We don't pick who we fall in love and true love does not recognize gender,politics,race, or anything physical. I've been exactly where you are dude and I had days where I felt it would be so much easier to just do myself in. Somehow I got through it and so will you. Being bisexual is awesome. Its made me a better person. I feel I am more honest because I am bi. I am in touch with my feminine side in a way where I connect with my girlfriend in ways she has never experienced. I am more confident and sure of myself because of my bisexuality. I am who I am because of it. Bisexuality defines who we are like being gay,straight, or transgender defines other people. In my opinion you should embrace you bisexuality and not shy away from it. Show people how we are and debunk a few of the myths and stereotypes while your at it. Just think, you could lead by example and show people how we are. My GF tells her other friends that bisexual men make better boyfriends than heterosexual guys. At first they laughed it off but she tells me they are always asking her questions about me and my bisexuality.
Good luck and be strong!
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Don't jump into the whole "Hey I'm bi" thing right away. Date the girl a while then slowly give hintz. Man I'm gonna be 28 and I'm still curious and stuff. I have no Idea what I'm doing but I've learned at least as much as I've told you. Hope it helps.
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First off, don't hurt yourself. I went through some of the same crap, but I never had anyone who I could talk to about it. Life's little hang ups aren't that serious. It doesn't seem like it now, but this will blow over and you will be fine.
Atleast you have a good friend who is still there for you. Good on him for loving you as a friend regardless, and consider yourself lucky he does. It sucks having a male friend you like but can't be intimate with, but I think most gay/bi guys experience that sometimes. No dfferent than straight guys having a crush on a girl they can't have.
Appreciate that friend and use him as a resource or just someone to share your troubles with. He sounds like a caring friend who will be there for you. If you think you need someone else to talk to, you can always come here. I will be glad to talk to you whenever you need it. I'm 28 and have been through alot of the same stuff you're going through.
Secondly, I don't think you need a shrink. You're growing and learning. Life sucks sometimes, that's just kinda how it is. But it only sucks for a while and then it gets better, trust me. You have people to share your thoughts with, so use them! There's nothing wrong with you that requires professional help. You are a normal young man experiencing normal stuff. Yeah, being bi complicates things a bit, but it's really not all that much different than some of the crap everyone else goes through. Just a bit more complex. You can get through this and you will, and you'll be better for it.
My third comment is that if one girl, or guy, rejects you for whatever reason then so be it. It sucks, I know, but you need to be happy with yourself. If you're happy with yourself, more people will like you and a rejection here and there won't be such a big deal. That probably doesn't sound easy and it may not be, but it is do-able, and we here can help you with that.
Before you think seriously about doing anything to yourself, please take some of this into mind. Think of your family and the people who love you. Think about whether or not you think ONE person's opinion is worth more than your entire LIFE. And please, come here and talk to me or someone else first. You can PM me and I'll give you my MSN or Yahoo or cell number. I'll help you in any way I can.
Stay strong brother.
Atleast you have a good friend who is still there for you. Good on him for loving you as a friend regardless, and consider yourself lucky he does. It sucks having a male friend you like but can't be intimate with, but I think most gay/bi guys experience that sometimes. No dfferent than straight guys having a crush on a girl they can't have.
Appreciate that friend and use him as a resource or just someone to share your troubles with. He sounds like a caring friend who will be there for you. If you think you need someone else to talk to, you can always come here. I will be glad to talk to you whenever you need it. I'm 28 and have been through alot of the same stuff you're going through.
Secondly, I don't think you need a shrink. You're growing and learning. Life sucks sometimes, that's just kinda how it is. But it only sucks for a while and then it gets better, trust me. You have people to share your thoughts with, so use them! There's nothing wrong with you that requires professional help. You are a normal young man experiencing normal stuff. Yeah, being bi complicates things a bit, but it's really not all that much different than some of the crap everyone else goes through. Just a bit more complex. You can get through this and you will, and you'll be better for it.
My third comment is that if one girl, or guy, rejects you for whatever reason then so be it. It sucks, I know, but you need to be happy with yourself. If you're happy with yourself, more people will like you and a rejection here and there won't be such a big deal. That probably doesn't sound easy and it may not be, but it is do-able, and we here can help you with that.
Before you think seriously about doing anything to yourself, please take some of this into mind. Think of your family and the people who love you. Think about whether or not you think ONE person's opinion is worth more than your entire LIFE. And please, come here and talk to me or someone else first. You can PM me and I'll give you my MSN or Yahoo or cell number. I'll help you in any way I can.
Stay strong brother.