NightRaider
JUB Addict
Yes that certainly is a question by many and can be a difficult thing to do as well.
In this modern day there still is a large percentage of homophobia around and it cannot be taken lightly.
It's serious and it continues to complicate the lives it touches. From losing a job to being denied an apartment to getting beat up or even killed. Now some may say that I am being ridiculous or just taking being Out too seriously. I think not...
So often I hear from many who are Out say every one must come Out to free yourself and stop living a lie. I disagree. Free yourself? To what? To being a topic of conversation at the water cooler or your neighbors? Now on a serious note losing friends or being alienated from your family or possibly having your face slammed down to the pavement and having your ribs kicked in. Most people do not like homosexuals and much of the tolerance is thin even in the family situation. Unfortunately I have seen all these things. Don't misunderstand, I cheer on all the Pride crusaders and all the activists because if it wasn't for their fight we would not be as accepted as we are today and the rights we do have would not have come to pass.
Recently I gave some advice to a friends son. He is 18 years old and he is afraid and confused about coming Out. I tried to help him make that very important descision for himself. Although advising him I never once told him what he should do assuring him that this descision must be entirely his and how he wants to come out or not or just how wide he wants to open that closet door and allowing him to realize that coming Out is not for everybody.
There are far too many pressuring our youth to come Out totally. This is wrong and I say Stop It!
There is a whole lot changing and going on in the teen years physically and mentally.
Life is confusing enough during the teen years without being pressured to come Out.
Yes advise them and be that helping hand or shoulder for them to lean on but let them make their own decision custom tailored for their own set of circumstances they have.
Pride season upon us and there will be many wanting to come Out but let them do it on their own terms.
For those who are thinking about coming Out and are concerned about your own circumstances please think very carefully about the pros and cons of doing so. Here is some advice that will help you make that decision.
If you chose to be Out, tailor your Outing to suit your own life situation. Everyone's is different.
Never allow anyone to pressure you into coming Out. True friends don't do that.
Don't rush it! Take your time and make the right decision for you.
Make yourself aware of the positive things and the ramifications. (Not everyone will like you being gay)
If you only want to come Out to a few friends that's OK! and feel comfortable with that. You don't have to be Out totally.
Now just feel good about being you....
NightRaider
In this modern day there still is a large percentage of homophobia around and it cannot be taken lightly.
It's serious and it continues to complicate the lives it touches. From losing a job to being denied an apartment to getting beat up or even killed. Now some may say that I am being ridiculous or just taking being Out too seriously. I think not...
So often I hear from many who are Out say every one must come Out to free yourself and stop living a lie. I disagree. Free yourself? To what? To being a topic of conversation at the water cooler or your neighbors? Now on a serious note losing friends or being alienated from your family or possibly having your face slammed down to the pavement and having your ribs kicked in. Most people do not like homosexuals and much of the tolerance is thin even in the family situation. Unfortunately I have seen all these things. Don't misunderstand, I cheer on all the Pride crusaders and all the activists because if it wasn't for their fight we would not be as accepted as we are today and the rights we do have would not have come to pass.
Recently I gave some advice to a friends son. He is 18 years old and he is afraid and confused about coming Out. I tried to help him make that very important descision for himself. Although advising him I never once told him what he should do assuring him that this descision must be entirely his and how he wants to come out or not or just how wide he wants to open that closet door and allowing him to realize that coming Out is not for everybody.
There are far too many pressuring our youth to come Out totally. This is wrong and I say Stop It!
There is a whole lot changing and going on in the teen years physically and mentally.
Life is confusing enough during the teen years without being pressured to come Out.
Yes advise them and be that helping hand or shoulder for them to lean on but let them make their own decision custom tailored for their own set of circumstances they have.
Pride season upon us and there will be many wanting to come Out but let them do it on their own terms.
For those who are thinking about coming Out and are concerned about your own circumstances please think very carefully about the pros and cons of doing so. Here is some advice that will help you make that decision.
If you chose to be Out, tailor your Outing to suit your own life situation. Everyone's is different.
Never allow anyone to pressure you into coming Out. True friends don't do that.
Don't rush it! Take your time and make the right decision for you.
Make yourself aware of the positive things and the ramifications. (Not everyone will like you being gay)
If you only want to come Out to a few friends that's OK! and feel comfortable with that. You don't have to be Out totally.
Now just feel good about being you....
NightRaider