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liddobiboy

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I've had the biggest crush on this guy for 3 years. Now we are best friends but I decide to still like him. Our whole group is composed of 3 girls and 6 guys. Were all best friends and really close. We all noticed that the guy I liked (I'm still in the clost btw) was hanging out more with... Let's call him darcy, a lot. We all suspected something but never really thought much of it.Until yesterday when I found a note from the guy I like in "darcys" backpack that was 2 pages long telling darcy howuch he loves him and a bunch of things like "I can't believe we tried doing it in random peoples houses." darcy doesn't seem like the kind of guy that would be gay. But I guess he is. They do everything together and they are both my close friends so I call or text then some nights and they would be together. I was also the only one in my group that thought that they were just really close friends but I guess I was wrong. We all hung it last night and I couldn't help but to be upset in the car and I'm pretty sure that tv guy I liked noticed. They weretoo busy flirting in the back seat. I don't know what to do. I know they're in love, but it's just so wierd seeing then together and it hurts like fck. The guy I likes also grew to be like my little brother so I don't know how to react to the whole situation.
 
They're in love, thats beautiful. I think you should continue being his friend and showing your qualities and he will show you whether or not you strike his fancy through a number of cues. Does he flirt with you at all?
 
Oh well. Maybe eventually guy A will drop guy B and then you'll have a chance with one or the other of them. In the meantime just be happy for them.
 
It's hard isn't it? You need to support them and forget you, or at least look elsewhere. Don't risk losing friendships through jealousy.
 
I am truthfully trying my hardest to support them, but another problem i have is i cant support a lot if they dont tell anyone. they set themselves to be straight as hell dudes in public, and a little homo when theyre in the group, but apperently completely when they are alone. I know somewhere along the road ill get over it? but its just really weird when theyre together... everyone feels that, not just me. now that i know what i want to do with myself, we need a way to tell them that we got their back without giving away the fact we know more than they think.. WAAY more than they think. we dont want to be the ones to tell them we know, we want to be told. but from right now it doesnt seem like they arent budging, and we know that it must be intimidating telling our group of all straight guys (besides me of course :] haha ) that they are going out... and even more, having sex. i guess its the straight side of me (being bi) thinking its weird of them having sex, but yeah... idk. its just weird when theyre together... probably just cuhz i know whats going on, and i cant say anything...

and for everyone thinking i could just hook up when they break up. not happening. they are bothhh my best of friends and thats not going to kelp anything... theres a part of me that wants them to not be together, but just friends and me just friends with both of them, but a part of me that wants them to be together, mostly because when i look at them, they really do look like a cure couple... but they dont wanna come out. and i doubt theyre going to anytime soon. its too soon for them, and i know that "darcy" wouldnt want others to judge him from him being gay. i know it sounds stupid of him, but truuuust, he doesnt want to feel it. he hides all his emotions until hes alone at night, and all he can do is call or text someone because of all his stress and shiiiit. i try to be there, but i cant if he wont show emotion outside of his room. the only times i know hes crying or whatever is if hes on the phone with me or on aim... its just hard to support these two when they are both in the closet.

i could only imagine the stress they are undertaking with eachother, and i want them to be able to relieve and vent that stress with me, but they probably dont trust this life secret with anyone but eachother right now. its a double secret theyre keeping, and i just hope that it doesnt stress them out too much... im worried.
 
liddobiboy said:
I am truthfully trying my hardest to support them, but another problem i have is i cant support a lot if they dont tell anyone.

i know that "darcy" wouldnt want others to judge him from him being gay. i know it sounds stupid of him, but truuuust, he doesnt want to feel it.
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Support them by respecting their privacy. If they want you to know, they'll tell you. Otherwise, they don't need anything else other than for you to be a good friend.

It doesn't sound stupid of him to not want others to judge him for being gay, that's what all gay guys go through before coming out otherwise they'd just come out right away. And since you're bisexual, have you come out to them and the rest of the group yet? If not then you can't judge them for doing the same. Go ahead and let them know if you have no problem with it which seems to be the case.

Not to put you on the spot or anything but what were you doing in his backpack?
 
liddobiboy said:
and for everyone thinking i could just hook up when they break up. not happening. they are bothhh my best of friends and thats not going to kelp anything... theres a part of me that wants them to not be together, but just friends and me just friends with both of them, but a part of me that wants them to be together, mostly because when i look at them, they really do look like a cure couple... but they dont wanna come out. and i doubt theyre going to anytime soon.
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I think the gig is up with them. You suspected, others suspected, and now you have confirmation. If they think no one notices their infatuation with each other, they're naive.

All of which is probably besides the point. The point is, you had a mini-crush on one of them, and it naturally hurts to see the object of your affections with someone else. Next time, move in yourself before someone else snatches up a quality-catch. Of course, that would require making yourself known to at least that person. It's a small price for happiness, though.

Good luck.
 
I found this backpack in my car and it was Monday and all my friends had class the next day so I opened it and grabbed the first sheet of paper I saw so I can fnd the owner to return it to and it ended up being this letter.
 
Well I think you owe it to yourself and to your friend to be honest with him. You should ask to go for a drink or go for supper with him and tell him you found the note from darcy.

Then you should support him and encourage his relationship with Darcy. In this case you have to be the bigger man and set your feelings aside
 
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