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BF still has a manhunt account

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Been dating for 7 months, became official last month.
He still has a man hunt account which he logs on maybe once or twice a week.
I have a 'fake profile' which I guess it kinda bad, but i wouldn't need one if he didn't still have his pic up there.
It says "Looking for new friends - if going out for dinner or catching a movie sounds good to you, send me a message or IM!"
In the looking for section it just has 'friends' selected.

Should I be worried?
Would you bring it up if you were in my position?
 
LOL

How would u bring it up !!! I have a fake profile on manhunt and I SAW YOU !!!

I mean IMO it's way worst to have a fake profile than a regular one.
U could still problly talk to him about it

But i wouldnt be too worried If i was you
 
Ditch the fake profile and talk to him about how you feel about the profile. I'm assuming you already knew he had a profile before you made the fake?
 
cherrybomb said:
Should I be worried?
Would you bring it up if you were in my position?
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Yes, I think you should be worried. About him. Would you want to be a relationship with someone (you) who creates a fake account to check up on his boyfriend instead of asking him about it?
 
cherrybomb said:
Been dating for 7 months, became official last month.
He still has a man hunt account which he logs on maybe once or twice a week.
I have a 'fake profile' which I guess it kinda bad, but i wouldn't need one if he didn't still have his pic up there.
It says "Looking for new friends - if going out for dinner or catching a movie sounds good to you, send me a message or IM!"
In the looking for section it just has 'friends' selected.

Should I be worried?
Would you bring it up if you were in my position?
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How does his having his pic up there and looking for friends cause you to NEED a "fake" profile? And by fake profile I assume you mean you are pretending to be someone else, and not just using your own name as a joke profile.

Another question, you both have been dating for 7 months, and only officially became a couple last month. Was there any talk about exclusivity during the "unofficial" time or were the two of you deciding if you wanted a relationship. If there was no exclusivity implied or expressed, why wouldn't he keep the account.

Now that the two of you are official, what is wrong with him having friends? Are you really as insecure and clingy as your post makes you look? If so, I expect he'll be changing his profile back to actively looking quite soon.

Man up and don't act like a clingy insecure bitch or you just might scare him away.
 
Willie was a little harsh, IMO, but he speaks the truth for the most part. Have you had a talk about exclusivity?

If he wants friends I can understand that. I can also understand you feeling a little insecure about him having friends he met off Manhunt. I can't understand creating a fake profile rather than just talking to him about this.

You put yourself in a bad spot because you have now done something to violate the trust of the relationship. At some point you're going to have to fess up to the fake profile or if you won't do that, you should delete the fake profile ASAP.

I know I repeated myself a bit from my last post, but it bears repeating.
 
It's not a big deal. You're doing the same thing, except he's being more honest to have a real profile while you're hiding behind an assumed identity.
 
You're overdue for a discussion about it.

There's only so many times that one can have "dinner" with guys off a hookup site before someone wants "dessert".

If it bothers you, let him know. You can say that you trust him but if he's meeting guys from a site like Manhunt, he's making it very difficult to maintain that trust.
 
I would be more worried about you for not trusting him. Like his profile said, he's looking for friends only. It's just a matter of trust.

I still have my manhunt and a4a active even though I am in a relationship at the moment. I clearly stated on both accounts that I'm in a relationship and only looking for friends. TBH, once you put stuff like that you are pretty much dead on those sites anyways...rarely anyone contact me on there anymore other than the people I knew in real life.

And my bf knows I still have them active, we joke about it.
 
He's still shopping for someone better than you.

Confess. Tell him about your fake profile.

Be realistic and recognize that it appears like it is just a rush to betrayal.
 
rareboy said:
He's still shopping for someone better than you.

Confess. Tell him about your fake profile.

Be realistic and recognize that it appears like it is just a rush to betrayal.
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I get where you're coming from Rareboy, but I kinda disagree.

There's no need to divulge who's done what, and where he may have seen a profile. It could be Manhunt, MyWasteofSpace, or Farcebook, etc...

My recommendation is now that they are "a couple" the OP should just bring up the topic of "social / gay networking sites" in general and discuss the issue. While I'm an old fart over 30 and not into social networking sites that much, it's a fact of life for yung'uns.

To the OP: Just be honest about how you feel about them with your boyfriend. If you both decide to delete the accounts then y'all can delete them and get a joint account or something. If he wants to keep his, then you may want to consider staying with the use of condoms all the time in case he is sleeping around. Additionally, make sure your ground rules for your relationship are very, very, clear. Do you have an open relationship? Monogamous? One boy on the side? Etc....

Remember, jealousy is about our own feelings of shortcoming vs. the shortcoming of the other person.
 
Yeah, you're on there with a fake account, you wouldn't need one if you trusted this guy you're dating.

You either trust him or you don't, and if you don't, you need to get out.

If you're already spying on him like that, him deleting his account isn't going to solve your trust issue, you'll just take it up with something else.

Perhaps next you'll start hacking his email, because you never know who he's talking to in there.

There's no such thing as preemptive distrust. You either trust him until you have proof you can't, or you spy and stress and eventually drive him away and fulfill your own prophecy.
 
you know, despite its reputation, manhunt can be for more than just sex.

I've met some friends on there that I sometimes go out with etc but never did anything sexual with.
 
^ But in situations like that there's really nothing wrong with it. You haven't defined the parameters of your relationship. He might see you as a friend with benefits, while you might want to date exclusively.
 
My boyfriend also has a manhunt account, and so do i actually.

The issue is not whether either or both of you have a manhunt account or not, but whether you trust each other or not. If you dont trust him, tell him, and work oit out from there.

He doesnt have to have a manhunt account to cheat on you, he can easily do that around the corner if he wants.
 
Hatter, you can always have the conversation with your current guy about exclusivity if you want. There isn't any force holding you back except yourself.
 
It could be a problem... or maybe he just likes the attention?
 
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