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Bi guy falling for friends bf!

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Hi all,

Just needing some advice, i'm a 22 yr old bi guy (no one knows yet) i've not had a proper relationship yet but found myself recently getting a serious crush on my friends (girl) boyfriend. They have a kid together but lately whilst spending alot of time with him without her we're always making 'gay' jokes about doing each other, in quite some detail sometimes. We also talk about our cocks quite a lot and it really turns me on. We were playing a board game the other night and as i passed the dice over i pretended to be gay and stroke his hand as i passed it to him and he did it back jokingly. I just can't stop thinking about doing him even though it would be really disrepectful to my friend? Part of me wonders is he slightly bi?

I sometimes just want to go all out and flash my cock at him or just jump on him but don't know if its just his sense of humour?

Advice please :(
 
umm.... advice? stop flirting with your friends' bf, and don't try to hook up with him.

you already know that though, so i don't know what you want to hear.

he has a child. he has a gf. it's true that that doesn't mean he isn't gay or bi, but what it does mean is that you shouldn't be wanting to destroy his family.


and what's more, when you do come out, if he's straight, it's probably going to make him feel really awkward.
 
It's a big world out there. Look elsewhere. Not only is he already spoken for, he's partnered with your friend. Do you want to lose them all. Their kid needs you as an uncle.
 
i know i'd never hit on him because i wouldn't want to feel awkward or destroy their family but he acts like such a tease sometimes :(
 
i have a straight friend who flirts a lot. he thinks it's funny. (and it kindah is) every so often, when he's doing that, that i DO start to think of him sexually, but the bottom line is he's straight.

in your case, he has a child and wife. that's your bottom line. and you should never overstep that.
 
Omg that would be so wrong if you break up a family for a trill ! Shame on you ! Lol I mean it sounds hot but still control yourself !
 
Hi all,

Well this thread kinda gave me a wake up call, i wouldn't want to break up a family at all but annoying who you find sexually attractive.

A bit of an update though, he was at mine the other day and i had jog pants/shorts on and 'bulging' a little and he looked at my bulge and said 'your offering quite a bit aren't you?'. An hour later i was getting changed whilst he was in the toilet and he walked in on me in my tight white pants, looked at my crotch and went back out. So i said its ok and he walked back in looking a bit awkward and said man your packing some aren't you.

Now is that me overthinking things or does that sound a bit like he has bi-sexual tendencies? lol
 
Man you are determined to get someone to tell you he's interested.

This is really common you know. Gay/bi guys in the closet obsessing over the guys in their vicinity, hyper-analyzing every. little. thing. - reading innuendo into every comment, meaningfully interpreting every brush - but in the end, even if you knew for certain, where does that info get you?

What are you going to do with it? Come out? Try to fuck him? What?

Say you have your answer? Where do you go from there?

In a sense, what you're asking us to provide is wish fulfillment. Someone to tell you that he wants you so you can live that possibility vicariously in your head - and really there's nothing wrong with that - so long as you realize it's a fantasy, and reality has consequences.

We get threads in here all the time about people who've crossed the line and fucked up friendships and lives because of it.

So say you know, what do you do about it? The underlying problem, which you haven't addressed, is that the reason guys in the closet have these kinds of crushes, is because they are safe. You probably have a pretty good idea that this isn't going to go anywhere, so there's no gamble for you. You don't have to come out, you don't have to risk rejection, and you don't have to face guys who will have to know you are gay/bi upfront.

You can go through life having these crushes on unobtainable guys, or you can come out and put yourself in the path of men who will actually want you. Your choice, your life, think about it.
 
I said in my last message i would never act on it i just wanted an opinion on whether his comments we're a bit non straight.... no need for a lecture making me feel bad!
 
You don't have to feel bad, we know the game because we've ALL been there. Take it as an expression of solidarity.

What you should do is think. You're not going to get a guy spending your time worrying about the above. You need to get your happy ass out to where there are available men who want what you do.

Trust me, it's so much better when they want you back. The game you're playing is a waste of your time. Don't spend valuable youth on illusions. Trust me, down the line you'll regret it.
 
You are both being immature.

Stop it.

This flirtation is totally inappropriate and simply has to stop.

Think of how this would appear if it were a guy and a girl carrying on this way in front of one of their partners. It would look threatening and inappropriate. Well the same is true when it is the two guys doing it.

Get yourself a real bf to fuck around with and treat this couple and their kid with some respect.
 
You have all these feelings bottled up inside. You need to let them out in order to relieve the sexual tension. The next time he makes a comment about "what you have to offer" say something like "If you were available I would jump your bones but you're already taken so it will never work out between us" say it with a wink and a smile. Get your feelings out and you will feel better.
 
Sure, part (maybe most?) of it is you. But why not call him on his actions? Something like this:

"Since I'm a good friend of ______(gf's name), and I think I'm a friend of yours, I think I should tell you that you might be crossing a line. If you're just having me on, I'm ok with that. But sometimes I just can't tell. And I'm worried that if you act that way with others, they might really misunderstand."

This way you get to let him know what you're "getting" in the interaction AND let him know that it could be interpreted in multiple ways. He needs to know that--even if you're the one who's misreading it.
 
Just need to clear up, i'm still a closetted bi sexual so he thinks i'm straight as do everyone else but lately i'm finding it harder and harder to stop thinking of him. I'm getting a bit obsessed.

I can't stop looking at his ass or his package but he's not helping being so flirtatious too.
 
You're fucking cranked up horny around him and need to get laid.

I guarantee you once you're getting it regular from somewhere else, you'll see this for what it is.
 
There are many things you can do here, including meeting other guys, but getting with this one is not a valid option.
 
unknown dude said:
Just need to clear up, i'm still a closetted bi sexual so he thinks i'm straight as do everyone else but lately i'm finding it harder and harder to stop thinking of him. I'm getting a bit obsessed.

I can't stop looking at his ass or his package but he's not helping being so flirtatious too.
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If he thinks you're straight then why would he be flirting with you?

This is the question I always have... If you aren't out yet then he has no way of knowing you like guys so why would he be interested in flirting with you?

He's just being a guy... Guys make gay jokes all the time... and if they are chummy with you it's because they like you as a good buddy... it's not flirtation, it's straight male friendship.
 
If you are going to hook-up with him you are not the best friend. If you are attracted to him that's normal. Unless the best friend is ok with that.
 
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