Bi-guy with a bi-wife

[Darvin]

Update on my life. My bf turned out to be my forever mate. After almost 10 years exclusively with him, I dont feel like Bi anymore, I just want to be with him. And we just got engaged!

 

[SeaCore]

That was an unexpected revisit!
Thanks for the update.

Also, I know it's 8 years ago but screw Lube, they created a strawman of you and acted like a total douche because of it.
Glad to hear you and your partner are happy! It'd be neat to hear a little bit more about your journey with your boyfriend but I get it if you're not really interested.

 

[Darvin]

I know right... ive been busy living... but yea happy to share how we made it work out... where should I start?

 

[NortonRider]

I'm bi-guy with a stronger gay leaning.
I have been toying with the idea of getting a bisexual wife.
My idea is to have an open marriage, where I'm allowed to have one male lover and she's allowed to have a female lover. So there's honesty within the relationship and we could conform to "social norms" and be able to fully express our sexuality.
I know I'm gonna get heat in this forum for "trying to conform to societal" expectations...but my biggest problem would be to lie to my "wife" and do something on the down low.. so ye!s my ideal partner is a bisexual girl, it's easier for her to understand what I'm going thru in life. Who knows one day we would be only exclusive with each other.

So here's my question to ya'll..
1. Do you see this working?
2. Does anyone know of a couple who made it work out for them?
3. Do you think I'm not thinking through some other issues?

thanks JUBbers!!

I have that relationship right now. We have been married for 32 years. About 15 years ago she told me she wanted to have the touch of a woman. She was starved for it because her mother was cold and never even hugged her much. It was the perfect time to tell her I was seduced as a teen by an older guy and liked it, wanted to do it again.

So instead of bringing someone into our marriage, we decided that each could play safe separately. Doesn't happen all the time, but it's been working out for us. We have a good honest relationship for the most part. Cant tell her I had anal sex last night for the first time tho, usually she pegs me because she is paranoid about it.

I am unsure if you can create what you want, mine just happened out of an hones relationship that was already good.

 

[NortonRider]

I once knew a happy bi couple.

They had more years together than most gay couples.

It will be tough, but you could make it work.

I used to go to a site called polyamory.com. Check it out.

Poly is a specific type of lifestyle where for the most part, people have a Primary Love, then 1 or more Secondary Loves. It is usually all done with contracts between them all and STD paperwork. It is sometimes about a 3some, but more about one person being able to love more than one person.

We researched this all when we first decided to play, but it was not what we were looking for.

 

[imariver]

Without reading the entire thread, I'm going to put my 2 cent's in here.

My wife (of thirty years) and i were in the bi lifestyle for over twenty years. I still am, but she is not anymore (different story). She's ok with me having sex outside our relationship, as long as I don't do it behind her back AND I don't do anything stupid! If I meet other guys, I ALWAYS tell her. I also, never have sex with other women, (again, another story) only men. This situation has worked out fine for both of us. I have listed myself as Gay, because I think I lean more towards being Gay than bi, but then again, I don't know the definition of "Gay" either.

 

[Darvin]

Its interesting that it had worked for male female couples, wonder what happens if you are in a male male relationship and you ask to create your own family

 

[imariver]

Its interesting that it had worked for male female couples, wonder what happens if you are in a male male relationship and you ask to create your own family

Can you elaborate? Not sure what the question is.