biases

[aethelreddansforth]

is it acceptable to have biases, or prejudices?
i dunno what's up lately, as in recent years I've had strong negative feelings towards women who are very hot. I think society spoils them, and I'm often proven right about hot ladies. hot men by social standards tend not to be the same. but hot ladies are far worse. hot ladies tend to be very stuck up, and assume everybody has to dote to them. why? they're people. nobody has to be doted over in any absolute sense. I actually enjoy being rude to them. it's funny. even if they bump into me in public, I shout at them. i don't see why this is wrong.

people commonly say there is a right to be racist or sexist. so then people should translate this on a right to hate pretty women, or in practice any group imaginable.

I can admit I'm imperfect. nobody has completely good thoughts, and people who say as such as liars and trying to delude and mislead others. i find pretty women do this often. they, for instance, say this shit like "looks don't matter". Yes, they do matter. tell people misinformation and lies doesn't help, and harms people. The road to Hell is paved with good intentions.

 

[aethelreddansforth]

furthermore, pretty women are shit in the workplace. they have no real interpsonal tact. for them, everything is a competition. they cannot mentally filter shit. for them, it's all bout "who looks nice?" fools. yes, i admit i detest them. and? tell that to the KKK head the next time you see him, or stfu! lol. i won't let any pretty bitch plot against me in the workplace, since she likes to socially manipulate and control shit.

 

[fredroy]

Sure, you can have biases and prejudices. It's built in. If I'm out in the woods I'd be rather prejudiced about getting close to a buffalo or a bear.

Ford or Chevy or Dodge? Oh wait, you're in Europe. I'll guess England by your user name. I guess it might be more like Alfa Romeo or BMW or VW. Or Mini Cooper vs Golf.

Blonde or Brunette or Redhead?
Hot German stud or a hot Italian stud?
Jägerschitzel or Lasagna? Tough choice there.
Agnetha or Anni-Frid?

I worked with a woman that could have passed for Farrah Fawcett. Great gal. Fun to work with and wicked smart. She wanted me to give her a baby but I passed, I was too young and stupid to become a father. I kick myself sometimes about what could have been. Shrug.

I've known a few guys that were totally "hate faggots". No one was asking them about this. Everyone else at the party was gay, no one was trying to hit on them. But once they had some naked time a few months later with a guy they got un-angry. Does that grok?

Maybe you are in the closet about women. It's cool to like men and women. If the women are "hot" there's something in your head that is attracted. So be nice. You might have a great roll in the hay. You might meet the love of your life and have twenty children.

Life is well, life, you only have one, and events happen. Have fun.

 

[KaraBulut]

There's an exercise that I often do where I change one word in a sentence to give me a better idea of whether the statement is extreme or whether my own biases are clouding my opinion of it.

For example:

...I'm often proven right about Jews. hot men by social standards tend not to be the same. but Jews are far worse. Jews tend to be very stuck up, and assume everybody has to dote to them...

or

...I'm often proven right about gays. hot men by social standards tend not to be the same. but gays are far worse. gays tend to be very stuck up, and assume everybody has to dote to them...

The question is, "Is it fair to take a personal experience with someone and extrapolate that everyone in that same group are all the same?".

The answer is, "No".

You may have issues with women that you work with or with a particular female that you know.

When you extend your problems with these people in your life and generalize that all people who share some quality with those few examples (whether it be their gender, sexual orientation, ethnicity, or another quality), then it's likely that the problem isn't that group of people. It's more likely that the issue is you and how you're dealing with the examples in your own life.

 

[aethelreddansforth]

There's an exercise that I often do where I change one word in a sentence to give me a better idea of whether the statement is extreme or whether my own biases are clouding my opinion of it.

For example:

or


The question is, "Is it fair to take a personal experience with someone and extrapolate that everyone in that same group are all the same?".

The answer is, "No".

You may have issues with women that you work with or with a particular female that you know.

When you extend your problems with these people in your life and generalize that all people who share some quality with those few examples (whether it be their gender, sexual orientation, ethnicity, or another quality), then it's likely that the problem isn't that group of people. It's more likely that the issue is you and how you're dealing with the examples in your own life.

Jews don't act in an inherent way, and are not shaped to do so. being anti-Semetic is mega-cringe. hot women are shaped this way. and they lack the integrity to realise it. there is more to life than looks or sex. people who say differently are liars, literal teenagers, or just shallow asf.

 

[aethelreddansforth]

Sure, you can have biases and prejudices. It's built in. If I'm out in the woods I'd be rather prejudiced about getting close to a buffalo or a bear.

Ford or Chevy or Dodge? Oh wait, you're in Europe. I'll guess England by your user name. I guess it might be more like Alfa Romeo or BMW or VW. Or Mini Cooper vs Golf.

Blonde or Brunette or Redhead?
Hot German stud or a hot Italian stud?
Jägerschitzel or Lasagna? Tough choice there.
Agnetha or Anni-Frid?

I worked with a woman that could have passed for Farrah Fawcett. Great gal. Fun to work with and wicked smart. She wanted me to give her a baby but I passed, I was too young and stupid to become a father. I kick myself sometimes about what could have been. Shrug.

I've known a few guys that were totally "hate faggots". No one was asking them about this. Everyone else at the party was gay, no one was trying to hit on them. But once they had some naked time a few months later with a guy they got un-angry. Does that grok?

Maybe you are in the closet about women. It's cool to like men and women. If the women are "hot" there's something in your head that is attracted. So be nice. You might have a great roll in the hay. You might meet the love of your life and have twenty children.

Life is well, life, you only have one, and events happen. Have fun.

Eh? I consider myself bi. However, I don't see any woman who is hot as viable, frankly. i won't excuse her since she's hot. i don't need to nor wish to. sex isn't all. I can acknowledge somebody as pretty and not let that "force" me into purely positive associations. People can control their thoughts and perceptions. your "scoping" is pretty comical, actually.

 

[aethelreddansforth]

. Do people challenge this person? but then I'm "bad" for not liking pretty ladies. hahahaha.