Birthday.. Stupid gift.. What to do?

[ellen87]

Hi guys,
I got a little problem.

My birthday is very soon, and my friend is giving me signs for my present.
But.. I know a little what gift he will give me.. the only problem is that it's a gift i hate! I thought I told him enough about it!

The present is a digital photoframe with pictures of the 2 of us.
I hate such frames! And i thought he knew that!

What to do? I don't know if i can look suprised when i get it, cause i really don't like it! But i can't make it to tell that i don't like it!

And i know.. It's a present, and i should be happy with it. But we're almost 4 years together now..

 

[G-Lexington]

Start telling him precisely what you really DO want. It doesn't have to be something you desperately want, but make it something you DO actually want. "I'd love tickets to the orchestra with you" or "my birthday is coming up, and I'd really like a nice jacket to wear when it rains".

Lex

 

[hackingnomberr]

Four years, and he's getting you that?! Hahahaha.
You definitely need to tell him what you actually want though, whenever I don't tell people what I want I always get random BS.

 

[puka-pride]

I got a digital photo frame for christmas once...

but i didn't get a memory card with it.. and i still haven't gone out to buy one (it always slips my mind)

so its just on my wall collecting dust doing nothing till i remember to buy the card

 

[KaraBulut]

Either you should tell him or you should have a friend tell him what you do want.

Or you could completely wimp out and change the image to a picture of you and then regift it to your parents.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>It might not be the most expensive or elaborate gift, but I think it actually sounds pretty thoughtful.

Taken in a vacuum, a digital picture frame full of photos together IS a very thoughtful gift. But taken in context - where the OP makes it say he doesn't like these things, and he thought he made his distaste for them clear - it's not a thoughtful gift at all. A gift needs to take into account the likes and dislikes, the wants and needs of the recipient.

Lex

 

[ellen87]

Well, it isn't about the price. My present for him last year was a weekend trip to Paris last year..
Well, I thought about it.. and i came to the conclusion.. I can always put our vacationpictures in it.
At that way i do something with the vacationpictures in stead of just let them on my computer..

 

[rareboy]

^ Well aren't you just the stoic.

Well there, that is one major crisis in your life averted.

 

[syoBsUtsuJ]

LOL ... if there isn't a memory card, do what we all do and just REGIFT it to someone else! I got one of those for Xmas, and I usually just have it at work on my desk; others seem to appreciate it more than me.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>if there isn't a memory card, do what we all do and just REGIFT it to someone else!

You can do this with a gift from a boyfriend of four years? Isn't he gonna wonder what happened to it next time he comes over?

Lex

 

[The_Reaper]

When it comes to gifts, one shouldn't be too particular.

However, I do feel that your partner/friend needs to understand a little about who you are. Being able to buy someone a gift, more importantly, a gift they like shows that they understand you and know who you are.

If you've made it clear that such a gift really doesn't reflect your personality, or your sense of taste, then your friend should recognize this and soul search for something that does reflect you.

Personally, a digital picture frame loaded with pictures of the two of you wouldn't be a bad gift in my books. It's somewhat personal, given that he loaded photos of you two on it, but also something that someone wouldn't buy for themselves.

But that's just my opinion.