Bisexual and married, need advice

[LSC1962]

I am a bisexual, happily married guy. My wife does not know about my bi side.
I have been playing in secret, safely, for a couple of years. I did not "discover" my bi side until about 3 years ago.

Is it normal, as a bisexual man, once you have man to man sex, that your interest in hetero sex wanes a bit? My wife works a lot and is mostly tired when she gets home, so sex is usually on the weekends, when we are not so busy.

But I find that when I connect with a male sex partner, I really love it and I love to get off with a man. I prefer to bottom, but I will top as well. My current partner also will switch. I find I dream of having sex with him a lot during the daytime when I am alone at home. I get so horny that I have to masturbate, either with or without sexual props.

1) Is this all those years of pent up "man sex" sexuality just coming out now in this short period?
2) should I be worried that my hetero desire will eventually die off, if I continue with gay sex?

I tried to take a couple of days away from thinking about man to man sex, but it is back today, I cannot deny it. I want to keep this private and discrete as well.

 

[kidwicked]

Sexuality is a spectrum and as you get older your tastes change and evolve. No your "desire for straight sex" will not die off! for example (I'm a gay man. when I was younger I preferred to bottom but in recent years i'm more of a top!)

Second. You should try and be honest with your wife if you can about these bi-sexual desires. Allot of couples have open marriages and maybe your wife will be okay with you seeing men? But the important thing is it's 2025, people are Gay and Bisexual! Don't sneek!

 

[BiBtm64]

I am a bisexual, happily married guy. My wife does not know about my bi side.
I have been playing in secret, safely, for a couple of years. I did not "discover" my bi side until about 3 years ago.

Is it normal, as a bisexual man, once you have man to man sex, that your interest in hetero sex wanes a bit? My wife works a lot and is mostly tired when she gets home, so sex is usually on the weekends, when we are not so busy.

But I find that when I connect with a male sex partner, I really love it and I love to get off with a man. I prefer to bottom, but I will top as well. My current partner also will switch. I find I dream of having sex with him a lot during the daytime when I am alone at home. I get so horny that I have to masturbate, either with or without sexual props.

1) Is this all those years of pent up "man sex" sexuality just coming out now in this short period?
2) should I be worried that my hetero desire will eventually die off, if I continue with gay sex?

I tried to take a couple of days away from thinking about man to man sex, but it is back today, I cannot deny it. I want to keep this private and discrete as well.

I think that sex with another man is a whole different experience, especially when you receive anal or give a blowjob. You discover the new sensation of being penetrated, rather than being the one who is sticking your dick in a woman. It's new and exciting. For many of us, there's a sense of realising of latent desires that you might have suppressed for a long time.

Compare these new feelings and excitement with having had heterosexual sex with the same woman for years, even decades. It's understandable that you want man sex more and you think about it more. Your desire for man sex goes up, and your desire for heterosexual sex wanes. That's normal for you and for many of us in similar situations.

You ask whether you should be worried that your desire for hetero sex will eventually die off. Let's break that down.

Firstly, will your desire die off at all? That depends on you and your wife, and what you feel that you get from hetero sex. Speaking for myself, hetero sex is a much closer connection with someone I feel close to, and the physical feeling of my dick in a vagina is not something that I can replace with man sex. I love eating pussy and a man doesn't have one. Hetero sex will always have a place in my life. You can ask yourself if you feel the same way. Are man sex and hetero sex both enjoyable and important for you? Only you can tell.

Second, if it dies off, should you be worried? Again that depends on you and your wife. Will she feel like she's missing out on something she enjoys? Will she suspect that you're having an affair if you don't want it from her? If the sex with her stops, maybe the consequences are something that you should consider and talk through with her. If not having hetero sex does not cause any problems in your relationship, she doesn't desire it, and neither do you, then I don't see a problem. Short answer - why worry?

I say keep enjoying gay sex if it's enjoyable for you. It should not be a problem if desires change, so long as it doesn't affect you and those people who matter to you. In particular, your wife, and whether she will ultimately find out, or whether it would be better for you and fairer for her to be honest with her.

 

[SmoothRythmic69]

I am a bisexual, happily married guy. My wife does not know about my bi side.
I have been playing in secret, safely, for a couple of years. I did not "discover" my bi side until about 3 years ago.

Is it normal, as a bisexual man, once you have man to man sex, that your interest in hetero sex wanes a bit? My wife works a lot and is mostly tired when she gets home, so sex is usually on the weekends, when we are not so busy.

But I find that when I connect with a male sex partner, I really love it and I love to get off with a man. I prefer to bottom, but I will top as well. My current partner also will switch. I find I dream of having sex with him a lot during the daytime when I am alone at home. I get so horny that I have to masturbate, either with or without sexual props.

1) Is this all those years of pent up "man sex" sexuality just coming out now in this short period?
2) should I be worried that my hetero desire will eventually die off, if I continue with gay sex?

I tried to take a couple of days away from thinking about man to man sex, but it is back today, I cannot deny it. I want to keep this private and discrete as well.

I'm bi but I'd say I'm more straight than bi, as not into dating or kissing men. For me it's the raw erotic horny fun you can share with a guy without the emotional hassle that can come from sex with women. I love women and pussy but also enjoy cock, my own and other's. A night of hanging out with a like minded fuck buddy, cruising porn and pleasing each other's cocks is totally different to a hook up date with a chick. Don't stress too much. It's because it's so fun without the problems, making it jump to the top of the wank bank list. I will often only consume smooth gay twink 69 videos and shemale videos for month's even though pussy is by far my favourite. It is what it is as I always say

 

[BiBtm64]

That's always an excellent approach, when someone writes a detailed description of their situation and asks for advice, is to talk about yourself. Works really well.

 

[magicdick]

I am a bisexual, happily married guy. My wife does not know about my bi side.
I have been playing in secret, safely, for a couple of years. I did not "discover" my bi side until about 3 years ago.

Is it normal, as a bisexual man, once you have man to man sex, that your interest in hetero sex wanes a bit? My wife works a lot and is mostly tired when she gets home, so sex is usually on the weekends, when we are not so busy.

But I find that when I connect with a male sex partner, I really love it and I love to get off with a man. I prefer to bottom, but I will top as well. My current partner also will switch. I find I dream of having sex with him a lot during the daytime when I am alone at home. I get so horny that I have to masturbate, either with or without sexual props.

1) Is this all those years of pent up "man sex" sexuality just coming out now in this short period?
2) should I be worried that my hetero desire will eventually die off, if I continue with gay sex?

I tried to take a couple of days away from thinking about man to man sex, but it is back today, I cannot deny it. I want to keep this private and discrete as well.

Rule #1 - When it comes to sex there is no normal. Rule #2 - Don't worry about something that hasn't happened yet. Easier said than done, I know. I'm like you. When I fantasize about sex (i.e., when I'm not sleeping) these days it's always about being with a man. Getting fucked. Getting a facial. Getting a mouth full of cum. Sucking his nice balls. But if you stood a great looking guy with a nice cock and a gorgeous women naked side-by-side, I'd go with the woman. When my mental senate takes a vote, it's always 51 to 49 in favor of the woman.

 

[magicdick]

I think that sex with another man is a whole different experience, especially when you receive anal or give a blowjob. You discover the new sensation of being penetrated, rather than being the one who is sticking your dick in a woman. It's new and exciting. For many of us, there's a sense of realising of latent desires that you might have suppressed for a long time.

Compare these new feelings and excitement with having had heterosexual sex with the same woman for years, even decades. It's understandable that you want man sex more and you think about it more. Your desire for man sex goes up, and your desire for heterosexual sex wanes. That's normal for you and for many of us in similar situations.

You ask whether you should be worried that your desire for hetero sex will eventually die off. Let's break that down.

Firstly, will your desire die off at all? That depends on you and your wife, and what you feel that you get from hetero sex. Speaking for myself, hetero sex is a much closer connection with someone I feel close to, and the physical feeling of my dick in a vagina is not something that I can replace with man sex. I love eating pussy and a man doesn't have one. Hetero sex will always have a place in my life. You can ask yourself if you feel the same way. Are man sex and hetero sex both enjoyable and important for you? Only you can tell.

Second, if it dies off, should you be worried? Again that depends on you and your wife. Will she feel like she's missing out on something she enjoys? Will she suspect that you're having an affair if you don't want it from her? If the sex with her stops, maybe the consequences are something that you should consider and talk through with her. If not having hetero sex does not cause any problems in your relationship, she doesn't desire it, and neither do you, then I don't see a problem. Short answer - why worry?

I say keep enjoying gay sex if it's enjoyable for you. It should not be a problem if desires change, so long as it doesn't affect you and those people who matter to you. In particular, your wife, and whether she will ultimately find out, or whether it would be better for you and fairer for her to be honest with her.

Good answer, babe. You should start a clinic. I'd be your first patient. If it weren't unethical for you to suck and fuck me. Hard. Large load. Multiple times. Kiss me deeply and spit my cum in my mouth. Now I'm all worked up. I want you to dominate and use me.