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Bisexual guy drives me mad.

Disturbance said:
He did want a relationship, it is just that I wanted it more, almost obsessively.

I didn't let him know that though.

As for co-dependency issues, I don't really know. I never wanted to be alone. I want to belong to someone. And I'm not sure I want this to change. I feel very very lonely most of the time, I felt this most of my life really, and while it has some benefits from time to time, I don't like it.
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Move on....stop obsessing....leave your home and socialise with people....
 
^Get over your poor self esteem and meet people rather than dwell on the thought that people may not like you.

Pretend you are the mirror image of George Clooney....you'd be surprised how people will respond when you grow more faith in your ability to interact with people minus the fear of failure....this strength of purpose is within you waiting for you to begin developing your birth right to celebrate your life...Good luck for you deserve to be loved, and to love another in return...
 
kallipolis said:
^Get over your poor self esteem and meet people rather than dwell on the thought that people may not like you.

Pretend you are the mirror image of George Clooney....you'd be surprised how people will respond when you grow more faith in your ability to interact with people minus the fear of failure....this strength of purpose is within you waiting for you to begin developing your birth right to celebrate your life...Good luck for you deserve to be loved, and to love another in return...
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I had an accident and I got out of the wheelchair 6 weeks ago. I can walk again, but I get really tired real fast. Doc said everything will be as it was, but it will take time. The thing is, that I could do little else than eat and sit around all day, and I have grown fat. Now, I can't manage to lose weight, as I don't dare to risk an injury. I grow frustrated and furious over this, and I am thoroughly disappointed. I feel ugly, disgusting even. I wouldn't have sex with myself, and as long as I feel this way, I can't be confident, and I don't even want others to desire me, as long as I can't honestly say that I look good.

I know this sounds very vain, but I am hurt by this.
 
Do you for a while. Develop interests that allow you to not feel lonely when alone. Find comfort with friends. Trust me, I'm an extrovert and I hate being alone, but if you can't stand it, that's a sign of a problem that has to do with yourself, not the lack of others.

So do that for a while, as you're gaining strength. See what you can do about your eating habits while that's happening. And once you have the capacity, hit the gym hard. Cardio that shit out of your body. Do it for YOURSELF, not so guys will like you more, but so YOU like you more.

And THEN go back into dating. Not before. Or you're setting yourself up for a lot of emotional self-harm.
 
Now it makes more sense why you were so hopeful when you began chatting with this guy. You need to work on both your mental and physical conditioning if you are to be rid of the cycle of feeling bad about yourself, eating and then feeling worse. Talk to your doctor about safe physical activity and see if physical therapy can be ordered. In any case break your current routine by whatever means you can. Add something new to your life even if it's just reading for pleasure or to learn more about a specific topic. And, if it's not reading, find something of interest to help change your mood and fill up your time. It will help get you away from self medication through food.
 
Disturbance said:
I had an accident and I got out of the wheelchair 6 weeks ago. I can walk again, but I get really tired real fast. Doc said everything will be as it was, but it will take time. The thing is, that I could do little else than eat and sit around all day, and I have grown fat. Now, I can't manage to lose weight, as I don't dare to risk an injury. I grow frustrated and furious over this, and I am thoroughly disappointed. I feel ugly, disgusting even. I wouldn't have sex with myself, and as long as I feel this way, I can't be confident, and I don't even want others to desire me, as long as I can't honestly say that I look good.

I know this sounds very vain, but I am hurt by this.
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You are the remedy....stop complaining....and set about rebuilding faith in your self that will reflect your absolute need to restore your confidence...no amount of words of encouragement from us can do what you must needs do.....to this end you must begin the process of recovering from your ordeal...
 
after dating a bi guy when i first came out and he cheated on me with a women within the first week i've always said never trust a bi guy haha
 
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