Boyfriend and Christmas

[bleedlikeme]

My boyfriend wants to come to my parents christmas dinner lunch with me which is cool.
The problem is they don't know im gay. And that he is my boyfriend.
How can I deal with the situation?
Could he pass as a friend?

 

[AussieGuy91]

I suppose it's possible, maybe your "friend" didn't have any family in the area this Christmas and you offered him to spend it with yours.

 

[greyhorse]

Shouldn't be a problem just being a friend ......
And where is that pic in your profile gallery from - that is so beautiful

 

[gwailo]

I hope this isn't offensive because I'm not trying to be but is he flamboiant? Are you worried his mannerisms would out him or both of you?

My bf swears he acts straight but he is totally gay. He's not trying to act gay but it is almost immediately obvious.

If you think you can both keep it mellow, there shouldn't be a problem.

 

[chance1]

ideally you would introduce him to them as your bf - that's honest and real

ideally you would come out to them prior to them meeting him

are you on the road to coming out to them?

not sure holidays are the time to manage this dilemma - makes it more complex but each family is different

best of luck with this

 

[KaraBulut]

How long have you been together and how ready are you to tell your parents?

 

[rareboy]

It shouldn't matter at all what he is or how he acts.

It would be a pretty piss poor family if they didn't have room at their table for a friend of a child.

Take him.

You don't have to explain anything to them.

 

[texan_slant]

Borrom line - if he's your friend, then he should pass as a friend.

 

[altlover85]

How does he feel about being your friend instead of your boyfriend?

 

[Echoes]

if you both are okay with it there shouldn't be any problem.

 

[cocksucker4use]

How does he feel about being your friend instead of your boyfriend?

UH, yeah. This is the key. If he is cool, there is no worry.

Your family probably already thinks something is up. Like at your age you should be bringin the gurl or goin with HER....etc. But, families often have an infinite capacity for plausible deniability and will welcome your buddy along DADT.

Or you could start making out at the table, grab his hand, put a ring on it and tell your family why he is the best top you have had in weeks.

 

[Seasoned]

Have you been to his family home as his boyfriend? I'm assuming he knows your in the closet. Is he trying to force an issue or does he just want to be with you for Christmas? How do you feel about the possibility of being asked the are you gay question by your parents or a sibling? Do you have ant desire to come out to your parents before Christmas?

I know that I've asked a lot of questions, but the holidays can be fraught with a lot of emotion. As a friend, sibling or uncle to you I'd say bring him. You would already have asked if it's ok so when he arrives just introduce him by his name. Perhaps they'll catch on.

The final question I have is, if they catch on and hou confirm what type of reaction would you expect? Think through this carefully if you are convinced the reaction would be negative. Your boyfriend ought not be caught in any crossfire.

I wish one of my children were gay. It would be great meeting a partner. Good luck to you.