Boyfriend hasn't had sex with anyone but me

[NYClover54]

I took my boyfriends virginity so of course I'm the only one he has had sex with. Now I asked him if it would be a problem if im the only person he'll have sex with for his entire life and he said he probably would. Now we've been dating for a year and 7 months so I'm VERY serious about him. I don't want this to be a problem so im debating whether or not to allow him to have sex with other ppl just so he can say that he has. I really don't feel comfortable with him having sex with other ppl, but at the same time I don't want this to be a problem. What do you guys think ?

 

[Rolyo85]

Have a threesome. That way he'll see what sex is with other people and it will still be something you're doing together.

 

[kineticpsi]

You feel how you feel. You don't need to apologize for being serious about him and wanting to be with him. If he knows you're committed and that you expect the same and he doesn't seem willing, you know what needs to be done. Self-respect, man.

 

[sixthson]

Are you also the only person he has ever been in love with? Do you want him to try out others for that, too? Love trumps sex.

If he has chosen you, that means he feels he has found the best. How can he top that?

 

[racer2438]

I have only had sex with ONE guy... and would not want any more guys back then, in between or now other than him only. He is all I need, we have major fun and our sex play is better now than ever due to our personal growth and experimenting.

my honey of 28+ yrs, I was 18 he 24 when we met in 1984. I had a gf at the time and had sex with her so I was not a virgin persay. But with men I was a virgin.
I was curious and nervous as hell but when it was was all said and done I knew that I wanted more and more.

So I left my gf that day just out of the blue, and stayed with him straight up to this second... and I am so glad I did cuz he is the best thing that ever happened to me.

This Aug 6th 2013 is our 29th yr anniversary and it's also our WEDDING DAY as we are getting married then onto our 6 week honeymoon/Vacation..

I can't wait, yesterday we went ring shopping found a really nice set.. I love my honey with all my heart

 

[nycguydowntown]

Realistically this could be a problem---but every person is different maybe you will satisfy his curiosity for the rest of his life---why don't you wait for the problem to develop (when he comes to you and says he'd like to experience another guy) before you do anything.

 

[rickbell19]

I have only had sex with ONE guy... and would not want any more guys back then, in between or now other than him only. He is all I need, we have major fun and our sex play is better now than ever due to our personal growth and experimenting.

my honey of 28+ yrs, I was 18 he 24 when we met in 1984. I had a gf at the time and had sex with her so I was not a virgin persay. But with men I was a virgin.
I was curious and nervous as hell but when it was was all said and done I knew that I wanted more and more.

So I left my gf that day just out of the blue, and stayed with him straight up to this second... and I am so glad I did cuz he is the best thing that ever happened to me.

This Aug 6th 2013 is our 29th yr anniversary and it's also our WEDDING DAY as we are getting married then onto our 6 week honeymoon/Vacation..

I can't wait, yesterday we went ring shopping found a really nice set.. I love my honey with all my heart

Awesome story! Congrats! I am very happy for you and hope I find the same!

 

[Seasoned]

Your boyfriend is not you so don't project.

 

[camjam]

Why? This way, he is all you`res.

You dont want him to be tainted by being "Used Goods" right?

 

[tonystark121]

Honestly if it is a serious issue with him, then I'm gonna agree with Rolyo on this one. He's not going behind your back and as long as the two of you work out all the rules and guidelines it should go ok. However ground rules are really important. You both need to be aware what would make either of you uncomfortable and you both need to know that if at anytime either of you are uncomfortable you can pull the plug.

 

[mbamike]

If you love someone set them free
If they come back then it was meant to be

 

[camjam]

You could also probably try to do a group orgy. Invite some interested friends over, even straight friends!
They could all easily fit into an orgy, but the straights can be with straights and gays be with gays. More the merrier.
Anyways, my point is, having an orgy, would make it possible for him to try having sex with someone else, but be in close distance and have you watching him the entire time.

If you dont care, you could even invite couples from Craigslist. Just be double sure that if you or he tries anything, make sure they prove they do not have STD`s or Aids or anything like that.

 

[hylas]

we know your boyfriend would like to have some sexual experiences with other guys eventually at some point in his life... but would he like to have sex with other guys now?

sorry for being cynical, but lets face reality, most relationships dont last until death do us part.

so, if hes not itching for some new experiences right now, then why not enjoy what you have and cross that bridge when you get there.

you may never get there. or maybe you will, but at that point your relationship has become so strong that youd easily survive threesomes or some other arrangement that allows him his experiences, even if you couldnt imagine that right now. maybe, at that point, you too would welcome some variety.

 

[NYClover54]

we know your boyfriend would like to have some sexual experiences with other guys eventually at some point in his life... but would he like to have sex with other guys now?

sorry for being cynical, but lets face reality, most relationships dont last until death do us part.

so, if hes not itching for some new experiences right now, then why not enjoy what you have and cross that bridge when you get there.

you may never get there. or maybe you will, but at that point your relationship has become so strong that youd easily survive threesomes or some other arrangement that allows him his experiences, even if you couldnt imagine that right now. maybe, at that point, you too would welcome some variety.

I would like this relationship to be death do us part

 

[Newmercedes]

I have only had sex with ONE guy... and would not want any more guys back then, in between or now other than him only. He is all I need, we have major fun and our sex play is better now than ever due to our personal growth and experimenting.

my honey of 28+ yrs, I was 18 he 24 when we met in 1984. I had a gf at the time and had sex with her so I was not a virgin persay. But with men I was a virgin.
I was curious and nervous as hell but when it was was all said and done I knew that I wanted more and more.

So I left my gf that day just out of the blue, and stayed with him straight up to this second... and I am so glad I did cuz he is the best thing that ever happened to me.

This Aug 6th 2013 is our 29th yr anniversary and it's also our WEDDING DAY as we are getting married then onto our 6 week honeymoon/Vacation..

I can't wait, yesterday we went ring shopping found a really nice set.. I love my honey with all my heart

Very Hot Story,

 

[Newmercedes]

If you love someone set them free
If they come back then it was meant to be

Very Nice.

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I have only had sex with ONE guy... and would not want any more guys back then, in between or now other than him only. He is all I need, we have major fun and our sex play is better now than ever due to our personal growth and experimenting.

my honey of 28+ yrs, I was 18 he 24 when we met in 1984. I had a gf at the time and had sex with her so I was not a virgin persay. But with men I was a virgin.
I was curious and nervous as hell but when it was was all said and done I knew that I wanted more and more.

So I left my gf that day just out of the blue, and stayed with him straight up to this second... and I am so glad I did cuz he is the best thing that ever happened to me.

This Aug 6th 2013 is our 29th yr anniversary and it's also our WEDDING DAY as we are getting married then onto our 6 week honeymoon/Vacation..

I can't wait, yesterday we went ring shopping found a really nice set.. I love my honey with all my heart

Very Hot Story,

 

[egghead947]

I personally think that lovr and sex are two completely different aspects in a relationship and shouldn't be connected. I've thought about this many times and if you know that you two are in love then you should be able to trust that if he does have sex with someone else that its not going to mean anything to him... if it does mean something to him with someone else then were you really even in love. Basically, he's going to be curious as to what other guys are like so let him do it with your consent because he may get horny for something new without you knowing. I say let him, but only as long as he tells you who with.

 

[pilotguy121a]

Maybe it was his way of asking for a threesome...either way, I have only had sex with my BF (who took my virginity) and honestly, there is that curiosity of what its like outside of our relationship. Would I act on it, no.

 

[eastofeden]

If you love someone set them free
If they come back then it was meant to be

^^^THIS^^^

There are potential problems with any path you walk so you have to figure out what you can or cannot live with.

For some people it is a measure of security and confidence knowing their partner has been with a lot of people and chose them...for others it can be a nightmare of insecurity..especially if you are the type of person who compares himself to other people.

...and if you allow him the option of exploring...will you be OK with whatever the results are? Will you be able to accept them? Do you also feel the need to maybe check out other guys and explore sexually yourself?