came out to my best friend

[gazza18]

as some of you may know from my other posts, i have now fully accepted who i am and feel comfortable with my sexuality and am slowly comong out of the closet. i just thought i'd give a lil update of how that was going. on friday nite i was at a bar wif my best friend wen he made a very homophobic remark and i asked him what his problem was with gay ppl n he said he didnt no its just how he felt. i asked him what would he do if his friend was gay? he said he'd have to accept him and would be fine with it, and wished he knew some gay ppl so i took this as my opportunity to say something and just blurted out, you do, me. the response i got was reli unexpected, he just hugged me, said he was fine with it and then apologised if he ever offended me or made me feel bad and said tht he will always b ther for me and not to wori bout othr ppls opinions. thts wen i realised how gd of a friend he is, despite his homophobic tendenecies, he has accepted it and treats me the same. i feel proud to have him as a friend and hope that i get the same response from my other friends whom i plan on coming out to tomorw. should be an eventful day but ive been told that they will be acceptin as they hav othr gay friends. hope everyone else has as good a coming out experience as ive been having

 

[jcaster42987]

thats really good, Im glad your best friend accepted everything well. the worst thing that can happen is have them freak out and not want to talk to you anymore. hope everything goes well in the future. Atleast you know you have someone to support you for when you come out to other people.

 

[trawler69]

Well done Gazza, that took some guts and the response of your friend was great. It is so good that recently so many people have been taking the plunge and coming out and the responses have all been so positive. Everyone who reports a positive outcome is helping those who want to come out and many can learn from your experience. Thank you so much for sharing it. I hope it goes well with your other friends, I'm sure it will and you now have your best mate to back you up.

I am really and truly happy for you. Well done again

 

[vamp]

Good for you Gazza. It's a wonderful feeling isn't it? He truly is your best friend. I just came out to my best friend this past weekend and it still hasn't sunk in. Enjoy your friendship with him. It's going to be a whole lot better now because of your honesty

 

[gaddou]

I think that if you accept yourself other people will eventually do. It may takr a little more time than your friend. i wish you ll the best i your comming out. i have been out for about 40 years but I never flunk it in other people face. I in the other hand have been always honest ehen I have have been asked. Good luck to you.

 

[billybob109]

awesome!! your was just as good as mine recently!

 

[StudboySeth]

I'm happy that it went so well for you. My friends all know now, well, I guess they always knew. Except a few--one is a gay guy that has the worst gaydar ever, and when I told him he was floored, even though it was at a gay bar and the girl we were with kept asking him to ask me if I was for sure while I was in the restroom...but he didn't and I told him after she left. One of the other ones used to be my best friend, then roommate (which led us to trouble anyway) and he stopped talking to me and started sleeping at his girlfriend's house every night. Oh well, his loss I guess.

But yeah, I'm happy for you. It'll get easier the more people know. I was surprised how well everyone took it when they found out.

 

[Eagle653]

What an absolutely great story. You're right--he's a great friend and definiately a keeper!

 

[luminum]

Congrats! You're lucky to have a friend who is open midned enought o reconsider his opinions, especially when you've come out to him

 

[Just_Believe18]

Cool. Thanks for sharing.

 

[boy-i-wanna-make-u-sweat]

That's fantastic. I would never have had the guts to do that after he made a homophobic remark. But considering the outcome, I may even have to reconsider my opinions of straight people

 

[playwithme]

Some people make some homophobic remarks like that just because it is a pretty common thing to do. Hell even I do it! That doesn't mean that, deep down, they have a major problem with gay people though.

Thanks for sharing your story. I'm glad it's working out good for you Wish I had more friends like that!

 

[tomind]

Something similiar happened to me - I finally told my best friend that I was gay and like your friend he had made some comments and so I didn't want to tell him if it meant I was going to lose his friendship. I still remember that night I told him I had something to tell him and he said ok and then I got emotional and he looked at me and said No matter what it is I am here for you and I love you and nothing is going to change that. I told him and he stood up and I did as well and he hugged me and said that our friendship means the world to him and he was proud of me for telling him. It was an amazing experience.

A while later, I felt I had to do the same with my oldest godchild and so one night we went out to dinner and I told him as well. He looked at me and said he had figured it out a while ago and he said that it didnt matter at all - he said he sees me as another dad and told me he loved me.

When coming out - you will be amazed how many people really don't care if you are gay or not.

I currently have a podcast where I talk with people from the GLBT community and there are some amazing coming out stories that you can listen to - hope you will check it out. www.rambleredhead.com

 

[RicanDAB]

Gazza -- that is wonderful ... it does feel good doesn't it?

 

[G-Lexington]

Congratulations on both coming out, and straightening (ahem) out your friend. As he said, some straights just need to meet and know someone gay to get them away from any homophobic tendencies they might have.

Welcome to the other side.

Lex