Came out to my brother.

[MichaelS35]

Long time lurker, first time poster. 22/m/toronto

Well, I just told my brother that I was bisexual. It felt pretty damn awkward, haha. When he was about to leave after Chistmas dinner, I just asked him,

"You mind if I talked to you outside?"
"Yeah sure"
[step outside]
"I know this is kinda coming out of left field, but you know I'm bisexual right"
"Yeah, I kinda had the feeling ... [insert awkward silence] ... Allright"
"yeah,"
"Okay"
We shake hands and he leaves.

I was unsure whether to hug him or not. felt incredible weird and uncomfortable.

It's pretty freaky, haha. I was pretty anxious because I wanted to tell him when he came over but just had to kinda ambush him while he was leaving.

He should be coming over tomorrow, aswell.

I feel pretty amped up/anxious/weirded out/million other emotions, haha.

Hopefully it's a step in the right direction for me, as I've dealt with depression/self-loathing in my past and am just beginning to gain some confidence in myself.

That's all folks!

 

[DeafFoxDemon]

Just relax!! and congradulation for coming out to him!

 

[G-Lexington]

Welcome to JUB! Just one question - were you not telling HIM the whole truth, or US the whole truth?

Lex

 

[MichaelS35]

Maybe, I dunno. Maybe saying 'bisexual' is half-assing it. Really, all I know is I'm not exactly straight.

 

[MichaelS35]

You have a good point. As bad as it sounds, I've always felt as if being homosexual/bisexual/whatever was a personal shortcoming for me.

 

[G-Lexington]

Nothing wrong with "gay", and nothing wrong with "bisexual". I personally object to people trying to "ease the sting" or "test the waters" with the bisexual tag, though. Because it perpetrates the idea that there IS no bisexual - just gays who aren't ready to commit fully. And that ain't the case - there are plenty of bisexuals who are really and truly bisexual.

If you want a label to wear, you can try on "questioning" or "queer" or "not-straight" or "still working on it". No rush.

>>>I've always felt as if being homosexual/bisexual/whatever was a personal shortcoming for me.

Work on getting beyond that. Because being gay/bi isn't any more a handicap than being left-handed is. You might have some more obstacles in your way due to it (the same way left-handed people do), but that's not because you're inferior. I'm living a great life, and that's not in spite of being gay - it's in part BECAUSE of it.

Lex

 

[Lube]

Congrats! It is weird at first, but then you feel so

F R E E ! !

 

[KaraBulut]

It is difficult to get through that first coming out. And it is hard to find a way/time to tell family members and friends.

What was missing was that your brother didn't have a chance to tell you how he felt about it. And it may be that he needs some time to process it all.

For now, just be casual and enjoy the Christmas holiday. At some point in the future after the holiday/family stuff is done, go have a drink and tell him a little more about how to you came to this conclusion and some of the background to it. Knowing more of the story will help him understand and it will help set the tone of honesty for the future.

 

[nautiboyjeff]

Sounds like it was no surprise to him either. So when/if you come out as gay, probably won't be much different.

Most of the time, anyone close to a person knows....often times they are in deep denial (e.g. mothers especially).

Good luck