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Came out to my friend

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So I was having dinner out with a good friend of mine I haven't seen in a while. Eventually the conversation turned towards whether I had finally found any cute girls. I was like "Dude! I'm gay."

He apparently thought that I was kididng at first, but then the conversation rapidly steered to another topic. Other than my cheeks seeming to turn crimson red for the next several minutes, I managed to hold my composure and our meal proceeded uneventfully. Before parting, he invited me to have dinner at his place to sample his girlfriend's cooking. We shook hands as usual.

This is the first person I've come out to in the last 14 months - and the first "real" person outside of my family (not that you guys aren't real, especially you Jay). I guess the world didn't end, and now I won't have to entertain his silly questions about the status of cute girls.
 
Good tactic -- I'll have to try that one sometime. I am at an age where I am tired of putting up with the assumptions that I have a girlfriend, should be looking for them or any attemps to engage me in typical straight-boy ogling.

Good for you for putting it out there - your friend's avoidance of the revelation is in fact HIS problem.
 
Congratulations!

I love the matter-of-fact response to his question. You're right--you won't hear that question again!

Glad things went well. It'll be interesting to see if he ever veers onto the topic again and, if so, how.

Congratulations, again! ..|
 
Good for you mate. A lot of people could gain confidence from your courage and make that move they need to, as you did. (*8*)
 
congrats! Short and sweet and too the point! no beating around the bush! That's a boy! good luck at that supper party of yours! :)
 
Well done, and it is a good respone, straight out and no BS, the easiest way to go.
 
kevin7620 said:
So I was having dinner out with a good friend of mine I haven't seen in a while. Eventually the conversation turned towards whether I had finally found any cute girls. I was like "Dude! I'm gay."

He apparently thought that I was kididng at first, but then the conversation rapidly steered to another topic. Other than my cheeks seeming to turn crimson red for the next several minutes, I managed to hold my composure and our meal proceeded uneventfully. Before parting, he invited me to have dinner at his place to sample his girlfriend's cooking. We shook hands as usual.

This is the first person I've come out to in the last 14 months - and the first "real" person outside of my family (not that you guys aren't real, especially you Jay). I guess the world didn't end, and now I won't have to entertain his silly questions about the status of cute girls.
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I like it man. The direct approach.... and I hope you didn't agonize for a long time over your announcement. From the way you describe it I figure you must blurted it out. Sounds like a fine way to handle it and although your buddy didn't make a comment I'll bet that he heard it and will have some thoughts about it.
Damn fine friend. I say way to go and good luck with the direct approach with your other friends.
later. :-)
 
You handled that very well, and your friend sounds like a real friend. I too get tired of telling people i'm gay too, it really pisses me off when they just assume i'm straight. And yeah, sometimes even when i say i'm gay, they just laugh it off. The friends of mine that know and are cool with it are keepers, the rest just fall away. I've had some friends just stop speaking to, some get angry that i did'nt tell them sooner, a few that wanted to fight me, one that spit in my face and told me i deserved to die of AIDS and burn in Hell forever. But people like that i don't need anyhow, so fuck 'em.
Your friend might have been shocked at the news, so just give him time. The fact that he made further plans with you is a good sign. After going to his place for dinner, invite him to yours. When he seems comfortable, let him know that your boyfriend would like to meet him. The world needs more straight people who can be friends with gays, this is a good start.
 
^ Wow, your "friends" did all that? How awful! They should be kicked in their throats!

I recently had a discussion w/ 2 of my close girlfriends from high school. One is totally accepting, and one is homophobic growing towards acceptance.

She told me, "I accept YOU, but you've gotta give me time to adjust. Just don't tell me anything pertaining to your love life." I was offended, so I replied,"So you can tell me all the fucking graphic details about your sex/love life but I can't? WTF? I'm 2nd class citizen now?" It took her a minute to soak it in when she replied,"No, you're not...I'm tripping, you just gotta give me time." We all went out the next weekend. Something in her demeanor reads acceptance mixed with cleverly disguised shame towards me.
 
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