Came out to the roommate

[notherenotnow99]

Hey guys,
So I came out to my roommate this week. We've been roomies for a total of 3 years (starting over 4 years ago with a year break in between).
It was funny because he knew exactly what I was trying to tell him before I even got the words out. He said he'd pretty much know since the first year we lived together and was glad I finally told him. Bizarrely he wasn't phased at all. I really didn't expect it to not be a big deal. We've actually hung out more this week then usual.
So I'm pretty stoked. That brings my toll up to my roomie, old roomie/good friend, and my sister. It's starting to get *slightly* easier. I keep getting the urge to just post it on my facebook status....

 

[bluepheonix]

lol congrats notherenotnow, glad to hear things are going well, sounds like you're getting some good support, best of luck for the future!

 

[backpacker]

Congratulations on another successful coming out. Given that your roommate pretty much knew for years, I'm not surprised that it didn't phase him. He knew and continued being your roommate anyway. Obviously he isn't too worried about what other people think either. Sounds like a pretty cool friend.

 

[cmizer]

congrats! no plz no more facebook outings! Its insulting to your friends and family when you post on facebook " Hi everyone i`m gay!"

 

[chillyboi]

Congrats !!!!

 

[ephram314]

congrats! no plz no more facebook outings! Its insulting to your friends and family when you post on facebook " Hi everyone i`m gay!"

When I came out, I told all my closest friends (about 10 of them) and my immediate family. Then I added my boyfriend as my boyfriend on facebook. I don't think there's anything wrong with it, as long as you have told all the people you are closest with. Doesn't matter how everyone else finds out.

 

[Miz1983]

Good for you my friend, glad to read something like that

 

[notherenotnow99]

Hey again guys,

I thought I would just update this post instead of making a new one.

So I talked to my sister this week about me coming out to the rest of my family. She said that she was going to talk to my other sister and she could tell her for me.

Well, she did and I got a call from my other sister today. She was ridiculously chill. Granted we didn't really talk about it much but she said it was all good. She also said my parents probably wouldn't freak out. We then chatted about a bunch of stuff and it was completely normal.

Also, I've decided to come out as Bi. It's weird because lately I've been way more into guys (I just moved to the gay area of my city), but I still don't think I could completely close off the possibility of a woman. I honestly don't know if I'm just fooling myself or I'm in denial because a lot of my gay friends say that there is "no such thing as bi". This makes it very confusing... what do you guys think? I do get hard and enjoy myslelf when I'm with a girl (not with every girl and not as much as when I'm with a guy).

 

[krfflyer]

I disagree with anyone who says "there is no such thing as bi", its been my experience that there very much is such a thing, and you sound like you have a pretty good grip on who you are and what you like, so I say more power to you!

And congratulations on the whole outing thing, because now, whether your gay, bi or straight, you are honestly living your life, and its been my experience that that also is a very wonderful thing.

Good luck to you.

 

[Seasoned]

I'd keep it off of facebook unless you don't mind your employer or every potential employer to pass judgement before they meet you.

 

[LoveIsNow]

I sometimes still say I'm bi, even though, I've never been with a woman, and don't think I ever will. It's just nice to think that I could. Who knows, one cold and stormy night?

 

[notherenotnow99]

So last weekend, I met up with my ex girlfriend. We had some drinks and I really wanted to tell her, so I did. I told her that I was recently dating a guy and that I've realized I'm bi. I acted really casual (much more casual than I felt) when I told her. She kind of took a few moments to absorb it but she was totally cool.
We were joking about different guys' good/bad looks by the end of the night hahah.

It was kind of weird though and I wasn't completely honest (I told her there was only the 1 guy when there has been more). Still, I'm feeling happy with my coming-out progression.

I'm trying to do at least 1 person a week.

Sorry for the rant but I do have one question:
I have a business with 2 very straight guys that have no idea that I'm bi. I know that I should just come out to them sooner rather than later because I'm not going to want to stay working with them if they don't accept me. Should I tell them both at once or separately? Any ideas as to how/when I should bring it up? They're not super homophobic but they use the "that's so gay" slur in like every conversation and they don't have any gay friends. aaargh.