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Can gay friends be just friends

ourgaysite

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I am best friends with my friend who is also gay. We tried dating years ago but eventually decided we didn’t work as a couple. We have lived as roommates for the last few years and hang out all the time. All of our closes friends understand that we are just friends but few people in the gay community seem to get it. Most gay guys that I come across assume that we are dating or friends with benefits even if I directly tell them we are just best friends. I would like to know what you think. Can gay friends be just friends?
 
depends. If two guys have known each other for a while and got past any initial crushes, sure. But in my experience if i meet someone I really like and there is a choice between dating a friendship... Id pick dating (though that choice isn't always available sometimes they aren't single, or they don't like you sexually, or you don't like them sexually)
 
I've got plenty of gay friends I've never slept with. Or want to. Maybe that makes me weird, but I'm quite happy with it.

Lex
 
Gays can be friends with gays of course. I think its great to have a gay friend of *friends . You guys could share all the details and gossips ;) I always wanted to have a gay friend.(*8*)
 
yeah, some of my best friends are gay. but those gay friends I'm not physically attracted to. if I was (and they were too), it could complicate things.
 
yes of course they can be friends without sex, thats an ignorant assumption. but, is it at all awkward being best friends with him after being involved at one point? What kind of relationship do you have, tell eachother everything, or hang out buddies just for a good time or what?

oh! and Do you keep your touching boundaries or because you've been there already are you more touchy with eachother?
 
Caaake said:
yes of course they can be friends without sex, thats an ignorant assumption. but, is it at all awkward being best friends with him after being involved at one point? What kind of relationship do you have, tell eachother everything, or hang out buddies just for a good time or what?

oh! and Do you keep your touching boundaries or because you've been there already are you more touchy with eachother?
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It's never been awkward for us after we decided to be just friends. The breakup was mutual. Neither of us had sexual feelings. We just thought at the time we should date just because we were such good friends.

We are the type of best friends that tell each other everything. We are never touchy feely. That has never been an issue.

I just get annoyed when so many guys think we are together even when I directly tell them we are just best friends.
 
ourgaysite said:
It's never been awkward for us after we decided to be just friends. The breakup was mutual. Neither of us had sexual feelings. We just thought at the time we should date just because we were such good friends.

We are the type of best friends that tell each other everything. We are never touchy feely. That has never been an issue.

I just get annoyed when so many guys think we are together even when I directly tell them we are just best friends.
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ohhh thats pretty great!! Good friendship you have there. That sucks you have to keep defending your relationship, i really hope that doesn't put a strain on your friendship.
 
yall talkin hogwash

of course it can happen

but eventually about 80% one friend is most likely gonna be attracted to one friend

you like guys
you have a guy friend
you get to know him
he may be cute
your gonna wanna tap that

its best to form friendships with guys whom you do not find attractive imo
thats the best way to ensure yall might remain just friends
otherwise someone is gonna star cathing feelings or lust lol*|*
 
I wouldn't really know as I don't have gay friends, but it makes sense. That's like saying all straight people are attracted to each other. I have a friend who's a girl. I'm not into her like that. Even though she's pretty.(she's a headcase though...)
 
Gay friends are the best. They are the ones I feel most comfortable with.

We can chat about anything. Go out, dance, chase boys and at the end of the day have a good laugh about our adventures.

It's when one of the friends might have a little crush, then it becomes a problem. And it happens at first, but once you get to know someone a crush can easily fade and a friendship can blossom.
 
Well from the 'gay community's perspective, if two gay guys can be together and be comfortable around each other- that usually signifies an intimate relationship for a lot of people because, of the 'coming out' internal process that many gay men go through. It can take up a lot of courage for a gay man to even be with another gay man in front of other people because that kinda 'solidifies' their homosexuality you know, a-and gets people talking.

Also does it really matter? Certainly you can see how it's easy for them to get that impression.

I try to choose friends based on common interests or like a mutual understanding of something. I just don't go to a gay community center and be all 'CAN I BE YOUR FRIEND?'

But I might try that, cause I'm kind of desperate right now heh.

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ourgaysite said:
I just get annoyed when so many guys think we are together even when I directly tell them we are just best friends.
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If it's so annoying, then youtwo need to make another friend and the 3 of you hang out. Better yet have a few friends and hang out in big group.
 
This question's always in my mind. Not only gay-friendship but also guy-girl ones too. I guess there must be a close gay friendship somewhere. But do they ever fuck each other, I really don't know.
 
It seems that no matter what the relationship is, people think something's wrong with it.

I've heard people say that gay friends can't have gay friends. I've got plenty of gay friends. And no, we don't sleep with each other. I don't even think the idea ever crossed my mind. And now there are other people wondering what our hang-ups are. "Why aren't you having sex with them?" Um, because I have no interest in having sex with them? And I'm assuming they don't have much interest in having sex with me, either. Maybe I'm weird, but I don't think every one of my relationships has to have a sexual component.

Lex
 
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