Can someone explain what I am feeling?

[Lewis1]

Ok I am (24) but I am one of those guys most older ppul feel
comfortable talking to about mature subjects, (politics, world
problems, news, ect.) And, if they are half way decent looking I find
I am really attracted to them. (these guys range from about 38-50.

So yesterday I was at a school concert event and this guy just
randomly started talking to me he looks about 44. He works at the
school and coaches basketball & football. He was so nice & genuine
just so down to earth. I was just swooning almost. Even though i was
there for the concert once we started talking the concert seemed
irrelevant. He is married with kids. I did not get gay vibes from him But i wanted to kiss him within like 20 minutes of talking lol

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Another story

There is this Jehova witness guy that comes by my house sometimes
And the first couple of times it was about the church but the second 3rd & 4th have been him checking up on me to see how I was doing and just having regular conversation. And one day he gave me a ride way across town and i was so thankful. He is just really nice but he is about 50. He doesn't look that old though and I cant stop thinking about him. Again he is married.


Why am I feeling this attraction to these older gentlemen based off of our conversations? I haven't felt this way before about older guys

Can anyone shed an insight?

 

[G-Lexington]

There's nothing wrong with being attracted to older guys.

There IS something wrong with being attracted to older married guys. Especially JWs.

See if you can find out what's behind the crush. Carry the fantasy forward a bit. How do you see it going? Do you enjoy the thrill of "getting somebody to jump the fence"? Do you picture a "nuturing"-type of relationship? You appear to enjoy the idea of getting "approval" from older guys. I mean, I never had trouble finding other 25-year-olds to have meaningful conversations with when I was that age. Not that I minded talking to older people about stuff then, but I didn't feel I had to look in that direction in order to have a good conversation.

Lex

 

[Lewis1]

There's nothing wrong with being attracted to older guys.

There IS something wrong with being attracted to older married guys. Especially JWs.

See if you can find out what's behind the crush. Carry the fantasy forward a bit. How do you see it going? Do you enjoy the thrill of "getting somebody to jump the fence"? Do you picture a "nuturing"-type of relationship? You appear to enjoy the idea of getting "approval" from older guys. I mean, I never had trouble finding other 25-year-olds to have meaningful conversations with when I was that age. Not that I minded talking to older people about stuff then, but I didn't feel I had to look in that direction in order to have a good conversation.

Lex

I honestly don't know what to think. LOL i know I am not the only 24 year old they can talk to but, I am just saying alot of older ppul talk to me . I dont enjoy the idea of being some sort of homewrecker lol them being married is just a coincidence. And these guys have initiated convos with me not like im seeking out married guys. I could see me in a relationship with an older guy. I do feel that older guys can provide some nurturing to a relationship.

 

[boiseboy]

I think you said it yourself. It's coincidental that they're married. Maybe you have an attraction to intelligence, and you're finding that in older men and it's attracting you. It's a coincidence that they're married, but that just means you're S.O.L.

That's common for everyone. Finding interest in someone who's a.) unobtainable or b.) taken.

 

[hylas]

haha, the religion-phobe in me would kind of love if you would get it on with that jw guy. but of course you shouldnt. it would be wrong wrong wrong.

anyway, i dont know what it is with you and conversations, but whatever floats your boat. maybe you are just attracted to older guys, and the conversations just seems so special because thats the only times when you have contact with older guys? or maybe you actually are a gay guy who doesnt only go for looks? anyway, i think you are a lucky bastard. i think there are a lot more older guys into younger guys that the other way around. so go and have fun!

 

[rareboy]

the conversations just seems so special because thats the only times when you have contact with older guys?

There's nothing wrong with being a daddy chaser.

You feel flattered by the attention from the older guys because you see them as being experienced and able to appreciate your intellectual and spiritual depth. It fills the need for approval by your own father.

At the end of the day, it is safe to have their interest because they aren't necessarily looking for a blowjob or to tap your ass.

But I agree. You have to evaluate what you want from this. Just the attention? A mentor? Casual sex? A lover? A partner?

Some of the best sex you're ever going to experience is with older guys, because, face it, practice can make perfect.

But it probably would be good for you to develop a better understanding of yourself first.

And to those who think that proselytizing Jehovah's Witnesses or Mormons don't have feelings too.....they do. But they actually believe in what they do so much that they are willing to subject themselves to the rudeness and abuse that some would heap upon them.

And some of them actually like cock too.

 

[Lewis1]

haha, the religion-phobe in me would kind of love if you would get it on with that jw guy. but of course you shouldnt. it would be wrong wrong wrong.

anyway, i dont know what it is with you and conversations, but whatever floats your boat. maybe you are just attracted to older guys, and the conversations just seems so special because thats the only times when you have contact with older guys? or maybe you actually are a gay guy who doesnt only go for looks? anyway, i think you are a lucky bastard. i think there are a lot more older guys into younger guys that the other way around. so go and have fun!

LOl what would be so wrong with trying something with the jw guy ?
i am a guy who does not go for looks really and some of the guys seem even hotter after i start talking to them. LOL i dont get off on conversations but its just different

 

[Lewis1]

There's nothing wrong with being a daddy chaser.

You feel flattered by the attention from the older guys because you see them as being experienced and able to appreciate your intellectual and spiritual depth. It fills the need for approval by your own father.

At the end of the day, it is safe to have their interest because they aren't necessarily looking for a blowjob or to tap your ass.

But I agree. You have to evaluate what you want from this. Just the attention? A mentor? Casual sex? A lover? A partner?

Some of the best sex you're ever going to experience is with older guys, because, face it, practice can make perfect.

But it probably would be good for you to develop a better understanding of yourself first.

And to those who think that proselytizing Jehovah's Witnesses or Mormons don't have feelings too.....they do. But they actually believe in what they do so much that they are willing to subject themselves to the rudeness and abuse that some would heap upon them.

And some of them actually like cock too.

well um i dont know if i can be a daddy chaser lol this just happens this way
& i think i might want them to want a blowjob lol cause i want to jump their bones half the time

i think your right im kinds confused as to what i want or need
i think i want a mentor/lover relationshiopcc