Can't cum

[floridaboy]

so my boyfriend & I have been dating for 7 months. At first I had no problem, I came whenever we fucked. We'd see eachother only once a week because he works and I'm still in school, so we'd make the most of the time we had

But lately it's been harder to finish. I have no problem getting hard, or keeping it hard, just finishing. He doesn't have this problem, he always cums first. I'm the top and he's the bottom, and the problem isn't that I want to try being bottom, he's fucked me plenty of times, I'm just not that interested in bottoming.

What does JUB think about this? Any advice to help me cum

 

[floridaboy]

Today I was over at his place and I didn't even cum, I just told him I was tired (with a throbbing hard-on)

 

[cgymike]

When you masturbate on your own is there any difference (ie do you cum in a reasonable amount of time). If there is a difference, you may be having some anxiety with him. What does he say about it? Since it was working OK at the start something happened between the two of you assuming it's not some change in you. But remember not cumming isn't the be all end all of sex. If you enjoy everything else it may be just some anxiety about premature ejaculation? Because as a top once you have cum the topping is usually over pretty quickly.

 

[floridaboy]

when i jerk off it is within a resonable amount of time, probably 5-10 minutes with porn. And he doesnt say anything, after i tell him "im tired" or something like that he believes me.

There isn't any anxiety about premature ejaculation, he cums if barely touches himself, so i dont have to worry. I dont know why im having trouble now, i can cum just fine by myself, and i used to be able to cum when we had sex.

Nothing has changed between us relationship wise. Last month was out 6 month anniversary, and we had sex then, everything went fine.

 

[Seasoned]

Are you on any medication? If not, have you tried masturbating less in order to see if that would change your ability to cum?

 

[evanrick]

performance anxiety.

 

[floridaboy]

No medication other than maybe ibuprofen if I slept funny and my neck hurt

And it's not performance anxiety, like I said I don't have to worry because he's really sensitive and can cum pretty fast

 

[Ohiospeedo]

When you top your boyfriend, is his ass tight? I think that the problem may be is that when you are jerking off, perhaps you are doing it too tightly. So when you top your bf, you don't feel the same sensation. If this is it, I suggest that you jerk off just a little bit lightly. Loosen your grip a little bit.

 

[Ohiospeedo]

Otherwise know as Death Grip - http://www.gabriellemoore.com/lasti...-grip-of-death-letting-go-and-lasting-longer/

 

[MorrisseyX]

Has the OP tried different sexual positions? I don't want to sound crude, but is the OP topping his boyfriend in the missionary position, doggy style, or the one where you are laying down on the bed and your boyfriend is sitting on your cock?

Sometimes different sexual positions can make a difference in cumming? Also, is the OP using adequate lubrication? The right amount of lubrication can make a difference?

Has the OP ever tried having anal sex with porn on a television screen in the background could that make a difference?

Has the OP ever asked his boyfriend to role play or is the OP into erotic fantasies? Sometimes when a couple role play an erotic fantasy can be a real turn on for a couple to try something new?

 

[sixthson]

Are you having enough non-sexual time together before the sex where you can relax and just love each other? Are you having enough foreplay?

 

[123kid]

What types of condoms or lube are you using? Are they different from what you used before?