Can't imagine being in a relationship again

[iamthesean]

Ok,

so I'll give some backstory.

I came out to myself at around 17, and to most people before I turned 18. Since, I've been in long term relationship after long term relationship...with like usually only a few months of being single inbetween...until last summer. I haven't been in a relationship since.

Now, this doesn't mean that I haven't been meeting people, having pseudo/fleeting short things with a few people.

some of these relationships were NOT healthy, one was downright abusive, both emotionally and physically...and it's taken a long time to come back from that headspace.

I've spent a year alone essentially, and taken this time to work on me, sort out my issues, get back in shape, get back to loving myself, get back the bonds in my meaningful friendships (which are amazing)...and I'm happier now than I can remember being..

that being said...I feel like i've kinda quit bothering with guys...like I'm at the point now where I don't take them seriously, or I don't even feign interest like I used to...

as far as relationships go i see them as a means of getting intimacy/closeness, and/or sex....and for both cases, I have extremely intimate/close relationships with my best friends...and i can still get sex here and there when i really need to...and i can't even imagine myself with anyone in terms of being together...

has anyone else experienced this? is it a life sentence? temporary?
i hope what i wrote made sense and didn't bore ya'll to death there lol

 

[G-Lexington]

There's nothing wrong with remaining single if that's what's floating your boat right now. That just means you're not actively looking for a relationship, and that's totally fine.

But what oft-times happens is...you'll meet somebody. And you'll click. Maybe not immediately, but eventually. And it'll be a much stronger bond than anything you've experienced before. That's the point when you'll most likely stop being single and hook up again.

Lex

 

[Txgoodoldboy]

Well, I looked in my crystal ball, and saw one meaningless relationship after another. (Joking) It sounds like another stage in your life. Cupid might strike tomorrow, or it could be a year from now. Love is something to be thankful for, even if it is a minute, or a lifetime. Hoping you find the love of your life.

 

[iamthesean]

thanks guys.

the thing is, i don't see this as a negative thing at all...like so long as i have my friends and family around...i can see myself being very happy single for a long time.

but yeah, IF someone actually hits me so hard that they CLEARLY can make my life better/happier...it will knock me right off my feet, and blow me away, and at that point, i will stop being single. I'm just glad that i've gotten to the point where I refuse to go into a relationship UNLESS that is there. ..which i think is healthy

 

[G-Lexington]

I think you're in a good spot. You're not afraid of relationships, but you're not trying to be in one just to be in one.

Lex

 

[Corny]

I think you're in a good spot. You're not afraid of relationships, but you're not trying to be in one just to be in one.

And that's (like mentioned before) the best situation to end up in one

 

[iamthesean]

randomly enough, day after i post this, i get like 3-4 messages on every site i'm on...went on a date today with a nice, cute (not hot, but cute) guy, and got a picked up while on this date :S lol

however, i still feel like "FUCK YOU GUYS!"