As a married Dominant bi guy who has been in several Dom/sub or Master/slave relationships, I can tell you with certainty that finding a good, sensible, caring, sane Top can be difficult but well worth the time and effort expended in finding one. I have broken four new guys in and trained them on an ongoing basis and all four were curious about sucking at first but after two or three times with me, they were finding the act to be very gratifying and satisfying for them as well as myself. As a Top, it is always a turn on to see a once somewhat reluctant new convert turn into an eager and able cocksucker and boi. Two of my partners are sill seeing me as they feel the need and neither needs any coaxing at all to simply drop to their knees, open my pants and start doing what they have learned to love to do.
if you are considering the slave lifestyle, I can't stress to you in strong enough terms that you must exercise caution and be patient. I am not so sure that you would do well with a hard core 24/7 master or one of the countless wanna-be's out there posing as Dominants. Many who claim to be Dominants are more concerned about their own getting off and pleasure than yours and such an encounter can be not only damaging because when it is over,you know that you have simply been used and then discarded like a used condom. Some guys like that but many do not and as said, such an encounter can leave scars.
My ways have always been to consider my pet's needs as well as my own and in fact, to put his needs before my own and thus ensure his enjoying the encounter and will usually guarantee that he will be back for more when he feels the need strong enough - and he likely will. He serves me but I lead him into it slowly and never force him or get frustrated with him if he says that he isn't ready or into something. treat him right, and it's a matter of time before he will find himself willingly doing things that previously were "off limits".
For example, my first boi initially said that he really wasn't bi or into homosexual acts but he just wanted to be dominated and humiliated. he would have preferred a woman he said but we live in a small town and when he read my Craigslist ad, he figured that he'd try it with a guy. We met twice to visit and discussed his limits before getting together to play and it was an excellent Session! It lasted almost three hours with me being fully clothed until the end when he actually asked to suck my cock. The Session ended with him kneeling before me jerking himself to orgasm as he sucked me - awkwardly at first but he learned fast. His cumming with his mouth full of cock was the first step in conditioning him to mentally equate sucking cock with his own pleasure and that technique has proved itself to work very well. Now, he wants me in his mouth when he cums and he is always eager to suck and honestly, he now gives head better than any woman I have ever been with. I mean to tell you that this once very straight and masculine, happily married, professional businessman is now one of the most eager and talented panty wearing cocksuckers that I have ever known. I have found that men are usually much more enthusiastic about sucking cock than women and generally speaking, they simply suck better than a woman because they actually enjoy the act rather than they do it out of a sense of obligation. There are woman who love to suck but I have yet to meet one who can do it as well as another man can. Us boys seem to have a natural ability and once properly initiated, men seem to have more of a desire to do it than most women. Not too many will argue that once a man has had a cock in his mouth, there is no going back to being totally straight - ever.
If you are serious about the slave role, take your time and learn what to watch for and avoid in a potential Master. here's a short list that I would suggest
1) Never get into a scene with someone who you have just met in a bar or who you have met through an ad in adult personals. Always meet him in a public place for coffee and communicate, thus getting somewhat of a feeling for him as a person. If a guy isn't willing to spend some time talking and communicating, then he is only looking for a fast cum and generally, he will have little if any regard for you as a new potential boi. If he isn't willing to meet a couple of times and email or just communicate, that is a good indication that he is not what you are looking for if you want safety and something ongoing.
2)You must be comfortable with your Master right from the start. If you meet a potential Master and you are at all uncomfortable with him, follow your instincts and walk away. Just meeting him does not oblige you to do anything.
3)When you talk and visit with a prospective Dom, make eye contact as much as possible and listen carefully to what he has to say. Bullshit usually shows through fairly quickly and if you are going to subject yourself to another person sexually, then it is always better if he is for real and sincere. Some guys just like to teach and will do so in a manner that they know will lock you into the lifestyle and that guy may take you as His own pet exclusively.
4) Before getting together to Play, make sure that the limits and parameters are understood and established. This requires communication and if he isn't willing to spend some time doing this - my advice is that you walk away.
5) Go into your first encounter with the understanding that things proceed at a rate of speed that YOU are comfortable with. A Session really is much more about the submissive than the Dominant and his getting his rocks off. He should be willing to proceed slowly if that is your wish, and he should NEVER force you to do anything that you really are not ready to do. His job as a Top is to lead you - not to push you.
6) ALWAYS have a safe word so that if things get uncomfortable, that word is a signal that no means "NO" Any self respecting Dom will respect your limits and unless he views you as a one time piece of ass, he will have sense enough to know that a boi broken slowly will always be a boi forever.
7) I'd always recommend finding one guy to Play with on an ongoing basis and if possible, have an exclusive relationship. Most Doms will likely have several bois but as the sub, you will likely find serving just one Master to be much more satisfying. I say this because with each encounter, he will learn more about you and what turns you on and He will likely be able to "read" what your needs really are and work towards meeting them. Many times, the Dom will recognize traits that the submissive isn't even aware of within himself and he will gradually work towards bringing those deep seated needs to the surface. Nothing is sweeter than a good "connection" between a willing submissive ( slave, boi, etc.) and his Master - IF the Master cares for His boi as he really should. It isn't romance but rather the discovery of one's self and the fulfilling experience of having needs that the sub may not even know or understand that he has, met and filled. Submitting to a good Master can be very satisfying and yes, it can even help a failing marriage as happened with my first pet. he had needs that his wife refused to discuss and when he met me, these needs began to be met and he claimed that things were much better between he and his wife because he no longer experienced the rejection to his submissive needs and they enjoyed a good vanilla sex life. His outlet became seeing me every few weeks for a Session and the desires and needs would fade away after he left here.
The D/s life is really misunderstood and has gotten something of a bad reputation because of so called "Doms" who really just get off bullying and preying on weaker men and women who have very real needs. I think that a large part of the negativity that the lifestyle receives in the eyes of society are because there are those who abuse trust and even get off on hurting other people in bad ways. Some will likely poo poo this post but I am passing on what I was taught by One much more knowledgeable than I and I can say with total honesty that His teachings have withstood the tests of time and experiences very well with both male and female subs.
Hopefully, this will help you a bit on your journey and I wish you well. .