chances of a condom bursting / liquid residue after anal sex

[Faselhase]

Hi! I would like to ask for your advice. I've just had sex with a man I'd never met before. I was passive. After we'd finished, I found out he was HIV-pos. He did use a condom but he was going really hard at it, so to say, and I'm worried that it might have burst... He assured me that it hadn't burst, but he's scum, as it turns out.
Also, I checked later if there was semen in my anus. I didn't notice anything obvious but there was a bit of a liquid residue (sorry, this is unappetizing), not much. It was translucent and slightly viscid. I've noticed it before when I used to have sex with my ex-boyfriend but we never used a condom so I can't tell if it's semen or not (I'm not experienced). I think it could have to do with the fact that I of course washed myself thoroughly beforehand - do you think it could be some faecal matter diluted with water? (I'm getting more and more appetizing)
So I have two questions: what are the chances of a condom bursting? And is it normal that after anal sex with a condom there is a bit of a liquid, translucent residue in the anus? Please answer.

 

[BlondeCanadian]

lube??.... or could it be sweat? or something like that?

 

[looseliam]

There are other reasons for liquid/discharge around/out of the anus.

The fact of the mater is hypothesising is useless. You must go into damage control. Go get yourself tested, then retested 3 months post. Should you choose to engage in sexual activity, make sure to use condoms.

I do hope all turns-out well for you.

 

[KaraBulut]

The only way to answer your question would be if you had a rape kit done to determine if there was semen present. In the absence of that exam, there's no way to be sure.

You're a candidate for post-exposure prophylaxis (PEP). Unfortunately, you're in a location where I can't offer you a suggestion for a location for counseling to determine what your options are.

 

[attallaborn]

not to sound like your parent but you get "risk" when you have random, risky sex. the "risk" you took is the "risk" you are living in now.

i'm no angel, as i have given two blow jobs to guys i hardly knew (one of them i found out was a stripper, yuck). i figured it was safe, as you can't transmit hiv through oral.

well, something worried the shit out of me and i went online and found out there is a low chance you can catch hiv through oral. a "low" chance to me was still enough to scare me senseless. but porn actors have oral unprotected, right? see how stupid i was?

i'm almost positive i don't have hiv but i am going to get checked soon, for health and peace of mind. although i have never had "sexual intercourse" with someone i didn't know and HAVE NEVER had unprotected "sexual intercourse" with anyone, there still is a possibility that i could have been exposed and that scares the hell out of me.

needless to say, the last time i gave a guy a blowjob (and only a bj) i used a condom. lol, he was pissed and never called me again but i know i didn't catch anything lol. don't do it again and please go get tested.

 

[TurdPuncher]

Hi! I would like to ask for your advice. I've just had sex with a man I'd never met before. I was passive. After we'd finished, I found out he was HIV-pos. He did use a condom but he was going really hard at it, so to say, and I'm worried that it might have burst... He assured me that it hadn't burst, but he's scum, as it turns out.
Also, I checked later if there was semen in my anus. I didn't notice anything obvious but there was a bit of a liquid residue (sorry, this is unappetizing), not much. It was translucent and slightly viscid. I've noticed it before when I used to have sex with my ex-boyfriend but we never used a condom so I can't tell if it's semen or not (I'm not experienced). I think it could have to do with the fact that I of course washed myself thoroughly beforehand - do you think it could be some faecal matter diluted with water? (I'm getting more and more appetizing)
So I have two questions: what are the chances of a condom bursting? And is it normal that after anal sex with a condom there is a bit of a liquid, translucent residue in the anus? Please answer.

you do know that your anus has a mucus lining, that usually gets shed either if you use an anal douche or enema, and after a good fucking. it is clear and slippery. it's what usually coats your turds to faciliate easier passing thru the rectum.

either stop sleeping with strangers or stop being ocd, either or. otherwise your sex life will suck, and not in a good way.

 

[treanir]

So I have two questions: what are the chances of a condom bursting? And is it normal that after anal sex with a condom there is a bit of a liquid, translucent residue in the anus? Please answer.

I would say the liquid in your anus is either the mucus lining (see TurdPuncher's reply) or, far more likely, lube.

I've only had a condom burst once and we both knew immediately. We could hear it snap and I felt it. It wasn't like someone popped a balloon inside my rectum (THERE's a nice mental image for you!), but I definitely felt it burst. And the sound is unmistakable. So if it had burst for you, I reckon you would've known.

I don't think there's anything to worry about in your case. However, you should get tested, just in case (every sexually active gay man should).
HIV shows up three months after infection, so get tested for every STD known to man in three months. Then again three months after that.

When it comes to HIV, I would say be vigilant, but not overly paranoid. The most important thing is to educate yourself. Know the myths and the risks and use that knowledge to make educated choices.

 

[Faselhase]

Ok, thank you. I see shouldn't worry too much but I will get myself tested in a three months time

 

[fed1983]

I once had a condom burst. We didn't hear it burst or anything, but it was pretty obvious when I came and pulled out, since it was a mess, and his anus was covered in cum, so I think you'd realize if the condom broke. I don't think the liquid you describe is cum at all. It seems to me that it's lube, sometimes I feel the same too when I bottom and I use lube.

BTW, if you didn't use lube, do use it! Lots of it. If you are well lubed, the chances of a condom bursting are lower.

Another point to be made, is that even if an accident happened, and he did come in your ass (which I think didn't happen), there are more chances that you didn't catch anything than that you did!

Another point is that, a person who knows about his HIV+ status is safer than a person who thinks is negative but is positive. Why? Because if the HIV+ is under treatment and taking his medicine, his viral load in his blood will be lower thanks to the treatment, and he'd be more wary about having safe sex (I hope). I read that recently infected people are the most dangerous since the viral load is really high at the beginning. So, when having sex with strangers, treat them all as if they were pos.

So relax, prob you didn't catch anything. There are plenty serodiscordant couples (one positive, the other negative), and taking the necessary precautions, they can live healthily without transmitting the virus to the other.

So I think you'll be fine, but still get tested in three months and let us know. Congratulations for having used a condom!

 

[jstud]

He should have told you he was HIV positive before he fucked you. What he did was basically a crime.

 

[palemale]

I had a condom break recently when I was fucking a guy. He supplied the condoms and lube. Both were drug store brand, cheap crap. The lube kept drying out, and the friction caused the condom to break. I noticed, pulled out and put another one on.

Did you ask about his status before he fucked you? He's a low-life creep for not volunteering the information if you didn't.

I had a buddy who got a new bf and bottomed for him bareback. The bf got tested a week later and was HIV+. My friend freaked out, got himself tested immediately and 3 months later. He was negative. So, don't freak out, but get tested, even though you are likely negative still.