changing sexual desires lol

[Lewis1]

ok im 23 yo virgin who likes guys but wants to hold out hope for women
alright when i was younger i just used to want to have sex with a guy

now everything has changed i really get turned on by voyeuristic situations and a bit of exhibitionism

is that weird or am i adapting to not getting any ? lol

 

[josher]

"Voyeuristic situations and a bit of exhibitionism" with men, women or by yourself?

Some psychologists would suggest that when one's natural sexual impulses (e.g., having sex with another man) aren't being fulfilled, people may turn to fetishistic or inappropriate sexual behaviors as a substitute.

 

[Lube]

There's no reason to "hold out hope for women" if you really want men.

And there's no reason to be a virgin when you're 23.

Accept yourself. Accept that you like men.

And get on with your life. You'll be much happier.

 

[KaraBulut]

"Voyeuristic situations and a bit of exhibitionism" is fine but it's not a good substitute for personal interaction.

What you've developed is a fetish. The problem is that you've developed this fetish because you're avoiding interpersonal and sexual interaction with people.

 

[G-Lexington]

KB nailed it, I think. There's nothing wrong with voyeurism or exhibitionism (so long as they remain on the right side of the law), but the rest of your post suggests that you've developed these kinks as a way to keep yourself from moving forward with your same-sex attraction. So long as you're "getting off by looking" or "getting off by showing", there's no need for personal contact, let alone a relationship. So you don't have to commit to being gay - you're just "getting off your own way". I'm guessing if you embrace the gay a bit more, you'll find it more rewarding.

Lex

 

[Lewis1]

omg im totatly becoming a freak

 

[KaraBulut]

omg im totatly becoming a freak

Hmmm.... maybe not a freak but humans were meant to interact with each other and a healthy sex life is part of being a healthy person.

So, maybe it's a good time to rethink things?

 

[G-Lexington]

Yeah, "freak" may be too strong a word. You just have been busy putting up walls rather than face what's beyond there, and I think if you take a good look at your situation, and take some positive steps, you can avoid that and get back to living.

Lex

 

[tonyboy]

ok im 23 yo virgin who likes guys but wants to hold out hope for women
alright when i was younger i just used to want to have sex with a guy

now everything has changed i really get turned on by voyeuristic situations and a bit of exhibitionism

is that weird or am i adapting to not getting any ? lol

Lewis1...

holy cow man.. you are not a freak as you suggested on one of your posts ^..

I know you well enough to know that you are just a guy like most of us... you want so much to have a mate..... you may find a female to date or get close to... but I know you my friend... You just take your time... you will find the right guy for you.
You are a very, very fine guy. It may take more time than you wish. But you won't be doing yourself or any girl you may meet any favor by trying to be someting you are not..

It's up to you my friend..
tonyboy

 

[Telstra]

"Voyeuristic situations and a bit of exhibitionism" with men, women or by yourself?

Some psychologists would suggest that when one's natural sexual impulses (e.g., having sex with another man) aren't being fulfilled, people may turn to fetishistic or inappropriate sexual behaviors as a substitute.

wow, that is educational and interesting.

Just curious about fisting if you understands why ..

 

[Shattereddreams]

Do what your heart tells you to do !