Cleaning out.. Too much??!

[bottomboywyo]

So I met an awesome guy my junior year of college. After a year of dating we decided to move in together and things have been pretty good. But our schedules conflict (I work evenings and weekends and he works weekdays and mormings) both of us are extremely tired all the time. But there are times when we both want it at the same time. Right before he's about to go to pound town he asks "wait are you clean" I tell him no, but that he can just take off the condom and throw it away. He insists, I go take a shower douche out. Yet, by the time I'm all done I'm not even in the mood anymore.

Should a couple after 1 and a half years care so much?

Should I just clean out everytime I think I'm going to get laid.. I heard its unhealthy by clearing the good bacteria in your rectum frequently

Would taking fiberpillls help for a more solid/cleaner bowl movement?

Thanks

 

[nycguydowntown]

To answer your question---should a couple care so much after 1 and a half years? I don't think so if you have showed that day. You can't be expected to go douche every time you two get in the mood.

 

[Shyboyjoy]

Although I never had sex, none of the guys that suggested fuck me asked me to clean out.... One of them, as I mentioned in my post about my 1st date, even wanted to do it bareback... So I guess it really depends on the guy?

 

[LuckysRevenge]

You should at least shower, especially if you're bare backing.

As for the condom, the smell or appearance of feces is a huge turn off for most guys.

I don't think his requests are absurd.

 

[BiMike]

Would taking fiberpillls help for a more solid/cleaner bowl movement?

Thanks

Eating plenty of fibre in the way of veg or taking some fibre supplement should certainly help in keeping you clean. I agree with others that for quite a lot of guys it can be a turn off.

 

[Seasoned]

I know guys who mostly bottom who eat on a regular schedule with plenty of fiber and apparently bm on some sort of schedule.

Here's what I suggest:

Get in the habit of nightly showers and use soapy fingers and work inside a bit. That's enough unless you haven't had a recent bm. If you're feeling full an occasional enema should be ok.

 

[innocentbychoice]

Even if not being a 100% clean down there can be a turnoff I know for sure that once you live with your boyfriend it's kinda hard to be paying attention to your anus all the time, I mean it's not like your life revolves around bottoming so...There are times when you can be in the mood and not be clean and that's expected. Yeah maybe the smell of shit is a turnoff but it's more of a turnoff to take away the spontaneity of the moment and to request someone to take a 20 minute shower before having sex. Pfff. I would just suck him off and not let him penetrate him if he can't deal with the consequences.

 

[eastofeden]

I have been with my BF for almost 29 years and it would be a huge turn off for me if he ever did anything extra and we have probably fucked somewhere near 8000 times with no incident. He has never cleaned out anything intentionally...just normal good hygiene and common sense. Anything more would turn ME off.

Obsessively clean people kinda freak me out and it would be a mood killer whether I was a top or a bottom at the time. It would also be a dealbreaker for me.

 

[LuckysRevenge]

So it's fine to have shit all over your dick and the sheets?
I guess it depends on what kind of sex you have. If you have aggressive sex where you're digging deep in there, then yes, cleaning is necessary.

 

[innocentbychoice]

So it's fine to have shit all over your dick and the sheets?
I guess it depends on what kind of sex you have. If you have aggressive sex where you're digging deep in there, then yes, cleaning is necessary.

So I'm guessing you sleep with people who got diarrhea.

I mean no normal human being will just shit all over the sheets and dick when having anal. Maybe some stains in your pee pee if it gets really rough. Sounds like their problem is not hygiene per se.

 

[KaraBulut]

Reminder: this is a no flame zone.

There's a discussion in H&W in the Stickys about the Enema Controversy. Seasoned is correct in saying that if you have normal bowel habits (e.g. no IBS or other issues with emptying the rectum), then a washcloth and or a soapy finger is enough to remove mucus from the anus. For those who are especially squeamish, a syringe-bulb type enema like Fleets is usually enough.

Since you're having issues with keeping your interest during all of these rituals, maybe your boyfriend needs to join you in the shower to keep you entertained?