CNN - Gay adoption: A new take on the American family

[gsdx]

The judge overseeing the legal procedure in Dallas, Texas, crumpled up the paper and threw it over her shoulder when she realized they were a same-sex couple, Manford said.

"Get out of my courtroom, I would never do this for you," the judge said, according to Manford. "Children need a mom and a dad."
Americans divided

Ummmm. . . Correct me if I'm wrong, but I thought judges were supposed to be impartial. How do they get away with something like that?

 

[gsdx]

They get appointed by someone so they can get a nice paycheck and fufill the appointor's "social" agenda.

I've seen things like this on Law & Order reruns and I thought it was just for 'dramatics', but now I see where the writers get their ideas.

 

[sixthson]

As a partnered gay man with three adopted children, it has always been my belief that in an ideal world, every child deserves both a mother and a father. The problem is, we don't live in an ideal world.

Our children were Romanian orphans, two of which had been abused, beaten, starved and abandoned. Left where they were, they most likely would never have grown to adulthood. The youngest had a fractured skull and a slow bleed into his brain. They looked like little concentration camp survivors.
I have tears in my eyes even as I recall this now.
Surprisingly, they were never afraid of us and soaked up our love like little sponges. Trust is really the last thing they should ever have had in us as strangers.

So, I would ask this Judge and anyone else who disagrees with gay couples adopting, would our sons have been better off allowed to die or live in an orphanage or on the streets?
As a father, I can say that there is no substitute for a Mother's love, but just because a woman can give birth to a child, does not automatically make her a loving mother. The same goes for a father.
I'd like this judge and the Dobson group, to see our sons today. They are healthy and flourishing. They know love and give love. They understand who my man and I are to them and they understand who he and I are to each other and they are all the better for it!

 

[timnmostud]

As a partnered gay man with three adopted children, it has always been my belief that in an ideal world, every child deserves both a mother and a father. The problem is, we don't live in an ideal world.

Our children were Romanian orphans, two of which had been abused, beaten, starved and abandoned. Left where they were, they most likely would never have grown to adulthood. The youngest had a fractured skull and a slow bleed into his brain. They looked like little concentration camp survivors.
I have tears in my eyes even as I recall this now.
Surprisingly, they were never afraid of us and soaked up our love like little sponges. Trust is really the last thing they should ever have had in us as strangers.

So, I would ask this Judge and anyone else who disagrees with gay couples adopting, would our sons have been better off allowed to die or live in an orphanage or on the streets?
As a father, I can say that there is no substitute for a Mother's love, but just because a woman can give birth to a child, does not automatically make her a loving mother. The same goes for a father.
I'd like this judge and the Dobson group, to see our sons today. They are healthy and flourishing. They know love and give love. They understand who my man and I are to them and they understand who he and I are to each other and they are all the better for it!

If that doesn't sum it up perfectly, nothing will. Thanks for posting from a personal perspective.

 

[Castilian]

As a partnered gay man with three adopted children, it has always been my belief that in an ideal world, every child deserves both a mother and a father. The problem is, we don't live in an ideal world.

Our children were Romanian orphans, two of which had been abused, beaten, starved and abandoned. Left where they were, they most likely would never have grown to adulthood. The youngest had a fractured skull and a slow bleed into his brain. They looked like little concentration camp survivors.
I have tears in my eyes even as I recall this now.
Surprisingly, they were never afraid of us and soaked up our love like little sponges. Trust is really the last thing they should ever have had in us as strangers.

So, I would ask this Judge and anyone else who disagrees with gay couples adopting, would our sons have been better off allowed to die or live in an orphanage or on the streets?
As a father, I can say that there is no substitute for a Mother's love, but just because a woman can give birth to a child, does not automatically make her a loving mother. The same goes for a father.
I'd like this judge and the Dobson group, to see our sons today. They are healthy and flourishing. They know love and give love. They understand who my man and I are to them and they understand who he and I are to each other and they are all the better for it!

Bless you. What a beautiful story.

That judge is a moron. Another child in America will go without a parent.

 

[Kigan2006]

That judge doesn't understand what that decision means.

How they can believe children in homes with two dads or moms are worse off than those in single parent homes is beyond me. Under what they seem to believe, the only fit home for kids is with a mom and dad. So why is it that a single mom or dad can raise a child from infancy to adulthood, yet a gay or lesbian couple is unfit to do so?

*sigh* Ignorance is such a problem, and that judge is one of the most ignorant people i've heard of.

 

[Orlandude]

Judges are not necessarily fair and unbiased. Even many good attorney's will avoid being on a particular Judges' docket if that judge is a rightwing activitist judge or a liberal activist judge. Many judges fall into those two categories. Yes, a judge is SUPPOSE to be fair. But too many are not. Many times, and under a variety of different circumstances, one judge made a ruling that was promptly overturned by another judge. Happens everyday.

By the way, Florida's current law was a result of a legislative body cowtowing to fringe far right elements in the state and apathetic voters. That law needs to be challenged and overturned. To allow same-sex couples to be foster parents and not be allowed to adopt is absurd.

 

[Kigan2006]

Ah yes, there's that too. And what of those bounced from foster home to foster home, when a gay couple may be more than willing to give them a good, solid home and family?

 

[glo-unit]

As a partnered gay man with three adopted children, it has always been my belief that in an ideal world, every child deserves both a mother and a father. The problem is, we don't live in an ideal world.

Our children were Romanian orphans, two of which had been abused, beaten, starved and abandoned. Left where they were, they most likely would never have grown to adulthood. The youngest had a fractured skull and a slow bleed into his brain. They looked like little concentration camp survivors.
I have tears in my eyes even as I recall this now.
Surprisingly, they were never afraid of us and soaked up our love like little sponges. Trust is really the last thing they should ever have had in us as strangers.

So, I would ask this Judge and anyone else who disagrees with gay couples adopting, would our sons have been better off allowed to die or live in an orphanage or on the streets?
As a father, I can say that there is no substitute for a Mother's love, but just because a woman can give birth to a child, does not automatically make her a loving mother. The same goes for a father.
I'd like this judge and the Dobson group, to see our sons today. They are healthy and flourishing. They know love and give love. They understand who my man and I are to them and they understand who he and I are to each other and they are all the better for it!

So perfectly said, so many children are lost every day for horrible reasons. The only ones who lose if responsible gay couples aren't allowed to adopt are the children they could have saved.

 

[GL]

As a partnered gay man with three adopted children, it has always been my belief that in an ideal world, every child deserves both a mother and a father. The problem is, we don't live in an ideal world.

Our children were Romanian orphans, two of which had been abused, beaten, starved and abandoned. Left where they were, they most likely would never have grown to adulthood. The youngest had a fractured skull and a slow bleed into his brain. They looked like little concentration camp survivors.
I have tears in my eyes even as I recall this now.
Surprisingly, they were never afraid of us and soaked up our love like little sponges. Trust is really the last thing they should ever have had in us as strangers.

So, I would ask this Judge and anyone else who disagrees with gay couples adopting, would our sons have been better off allowed to die or live in an orphanage or on the streets?
As a father, I can say that there is no substitute for a Mother's love, but just because a woman can give birth to a child, does not automatically make her a loving mother. The same goes for a father.
I'd like this judge and the Dobson group, to see our sons today. They are healthy and flourishing. They know love and give love. They understand who my man and I are to them and they understand who he and I are to each other and they are all the better for it!

brilliant.

you have my admiration and respect.

and i agree with you 100%... how is that children impoverished and abused is better than being with gay adoptive or foster parents? no matter how these conservatives weigh in on the subject they cannot argue past this simple fact: kids living in gay households are not any worse than those living in hetero households. they can argue till they're blue in the face but the evidence is there...