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Come out to mum!!

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For this year I had set myself the goal of coming out to my mother, but I didn't know that she had the same idea in mind...

Yesterday my mother was watching the news, and I was sitting on the couch playing guitar, very close to her. Then they showed in the news something about a law for homosexuals living in partnership, and they went asking people on the streets for their opinions. When that finished, my mother turned to me and asked: 'what do you think?' I answered what I thought, and then asked her what she thought. Then she went on talking about homosexuals and homosexuality for an hour!! This was strange because she was never sooo interested in the subject, so it was a bit suspicious. Even if there was a moment of silence, she would bring the topic back again with a comment.
Overall, the kind of things she said was that she was now more open to that, and that some years ago she had some doubts or rejection for homosexuality. She was indirectly telling me that now she was open to hear me. So, after an hour talking about other homosexuals she said: 'what about you? how do you project yourself for the future? Cause you never talk to me, so I don't know what goes on with you...'
After a moment of hesitation, I said: 'you're wanting me to speak, so I'm gonna do it... I like boys'
She reacted very soberly and asked me if it was true, if I was not kidding her. I told her not, so she said it was OK, and asked me some questions.
I knew that there were many things going inside her, even though she didn't show it, so I asked her: 'how are you feeling?'
As soon as I asked that, she confessed that it was weird, and she didn't know how to feel, she broke down and started crying, I went to hug her and she said that she loved me so much and that she was with me, but in fact she was shivering and crying. I also felt weird to see my mother in that state, but I knew that that was exactly what was going to happen, and she was aware as well that she needed some time to grasp the idea.

It was funny, because she confessed that she started suspecting some weeks ago, when she expressed her worry to her psychologist about me, that I never talked to her about girls, or never brought any girl home, so the psychologist suggested that maybe I was gay, that she should ask, but she never dared to asked directly, that's why she kept on talking about homosexuality for an hour, which was a bit ridiculous, to see if by that way I could come out to her.
This was just yesterday night, so I have to see when she comes home from work how she is doing, if she's still in state of shock or not.

Sorry if it was too long, but before I came out to her, I always enjoyed reading every little detail of other people's come outs, because I felt it like an inspiration for me, so I hope that you can find my story interesting or useful.
 
Hi fed, what a great story--thanks for posting it. As you're aware, you really just confirmed what she'd already suspected. Yet, that confirmation still sometimes leads to tears, etc.

I think it's neat that she found her own way to bring it up and get this out in the open. I hope that it leads to a new level of communication and closeness between you two, even if there is some short-term temporary awkwardness about it. Not only does she need to get used to the idea, but you need to get used to the idea of her knowing. In the end, you'll all feel better about it.

Congrats! Is she the first to know? Do you now plan to tell others? Good luck, regardless! :=D:
 
Congrats about that, nice to see you wenrt disowned or anything. Im sure things will be like normal once shes got used to the idea :D Once again well done!
 
I am pleased for you mate, that took some guts but your Mom was great about it too. I'm sure she will be fine about it just give her a bit of time and answer her questions honestly, she is bound to want to make sure and that it is not just a phase. It is nice that you shared your experience here as it will help others in your situation. (*8*)
 
congrats~good for you! I have yet to come out to my folks & have to suspect they think or know cuz i never have talked about girls or brought one to dinner or home. but I just cant seem to bring myself to do it to them. I guess we (my folks & I)are just soooo used to that "big pink elephant sitting in the corner" that no-one talks about, that we just go with the flow. its not how I would like to have it, but i just cant. I am an only child(not that it matters) but I feel it would devastate them this late in their life.. I envy you!!
 
Yay, your mom is a real hero. I love her. Be gentle and let her go through some of the aftershocks. She may have a whole bunch of baseless but honest worries about you. She sounds like a brave person and you are lucky to have her.
 
Hey Fed,

Mate you handled that so beautifully...and your mum....well that took an amazing amount of courage from her as well. Both of you should feel so proud that you have a close enough relationship for this to happen.... its so great to see.

Dont misinterpret your mum shaking and crying Fed... she had most likely built herself up for weeks trying to find the strength and time to start that conversation. It would have been unplanned at that time but the news gave her a window of opportunity and she grabbed it. The best part is...so did you.

She would have had a flood of adrenalin, waves of fear, shock, love...all washing over her. The thing is though Fed she said all the right things. She did all the right things.

Use this new found openness and honesty to grow closer to your mum mate. Just be there for her over the next few days and answer her questions, help allay her fears, tell her what her courage and acceptance means to you. She smart enough to know who you are and that youre the same wonderful caring loving son that she raised. Shes hoping you wont change...so with time you'll be able to show her that your still you too.

Congrats again Fed... its such a great story... and the ending that you deserve!
 
feel very inspired by this to come out to my parents, would hope they have the same reaction
 
Sounds like shock, but I'm sure everything will be fine. Congrats! Thanks for posting it! :)
 
Thanks for the beautiful comments. My mother is doing better now. The worst was the day after I came out, she couldn't stop crying at work (fortunately she's alone at her office). So she made an "emergency" call to her psychologist and fixed a date for that day, and after it she felt much much better. Then she came back home and we talked a lot, and I tried to talk to her as much as I could, so as to help her in this acceptance period.

Anyway, I was prepared to all these moments, because I had read many of your stories, so I wasn't any frightened when I saw her crying or trembling because I knew that was natural, so I was strong at the moment. As I told her a bit kidding and a bit serious: "mum, I'm with you, you know I'm with you no matter what, because I love you and I accept you just as you are"
 
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