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Coming out, hopefully tonight.

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So I'm come to the realization that it's time to come out. It's not exactly a decision I relish making, but in talking with a friend recently--the only one who I've told, as of yet--I realized that it's just more and more pointless, and that I'm not going to have any semblence of a sane life in the closet.

But I've gotten to the point now that I think I can do it. I'm about to graduate, May 18th. So the work these last few weeks has really been keeping my mind off of it. Well, I should say that I wasn't going to allow myself to come out because it would throw me off of an incredibly tight work schedule, and I was close enough to a nervous breakdown without having to go through that process.

But I just submitted my last college paper, ever. Granted, I have to defend in on Friday, but that's just a formality. With no more school work in the way, I think I can finally be honest with people, because I have nothing on my plate.

Before I graduate, I just really want to be honest with my friends, some of whom I despair that I may never see again in my life. After 4 great years of friendship, I feel I owe them the truth, as much as I owe it too myself. Plus, I kind of want to see what Senior Week would be like being out of the closet. At least to my friends.

I'll either do it tonight, or Friday. [Everyone's going home for the weekend, and then coming back on Monday. So I might just tell people on Friday, let them leave and deal with it without having to be around me, and then regroup.] In any event, wish me luck!
 
Best wishes! It will feel like a 50 lb. weight has been lifted off your shoulders in a few days.
 
Good luck! You will feel so much better once you do it... I know I did. To finally be able to be yourself is the best feeling.
 
Good luck and congratulations on coming out and on your graduation! Let us know how it goes.

I agree with the others--I'm sure you'll feel liberated.

All the best.

..|
 
Good luck, PSCGuy! I'm also about to graduate (one final and two projects left), and I have been considering coming out in my last two weeks in college. Another senior at my school whom I recently met (see my thread) "came out" through facebook (e.g. added "interested in men" to his profile) about two weeks ago, and I had tempted to do the same but everytime I hesitated just before pressing the button. I have also considered coming out to my Freshmen-year roommate, who is a wonderful person and my best friend in college. I'm very sure he's going to take it positively but I'm don't feel he needs to know. I think at the moment my "revised" policy is to tell the truth if somebody asks.
 
A few days after you come out and you find (hopefully) that everyone is okay with it, you'll go through a period of "why the fuck didn't I come out sooner". And coming out will feel 100 times better than finishing your schoolwork. Once you've come out let us know and we can get to work on helping you overcome your misguided support of the Flyers. Penguins are going to wipe the floor with the Flyers, and besides, Sydney is way hotter than anybody on the Flyers.
 
thats funny. because after i graduate, i plan on coming out as well..i wish you the best..by the way, i graduate in august of this year; so, like you my closet days are going to be over..
 
Just a little update. :)

I told a couple friends tonight! One of my roommates, and one of my other good friends. We were going out the the mall to pick up some video games and some Mother's Day presents...

And I just worked up the nerve to tell me roommate that was there. He told me "You know this doesn't change anything, right?" And that actually meant a lot.

Right after that, literally during our conversation, my other friend came over, and I just told him too. Still have a bunch of friends to go--and the entire family--but this brings the total up to three. And I'm very happy right now. :)
 
Hey! That's great to hear! I think you'll find that the people you are most close to and the people you surround yourself with are the one's who are the most accepting! Great job! :-)
 
^^^
No kidding. Number 1 was impossible; I think I almost cried, which I don't do. Number 2 was hard. Number 3 was almost... easy.
 
Congrats PSC!!!!! Awesome job!!!! And now you've got some guys around you who you can be yourself around and who understand and see you a little better too!

Its a brave step and one you should feel really proud of... you just started the journey of finding and sharing the real you! Congrats again!
 
PSCGuy said:
^^^
No kidding. Number 1 was impossible; I think I almost cried, which I don't do. Number 2 was hard. Number 3 was almost... easy.
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I was like that too back in school, i ended up telling ppl to beat other ppl to it lol, im glad it turned out good for u
 
Just an update. Because I'm self-centered like that.

Graduation is tomorrow, and so far I've told 6 friends of the 7 I think I care to tell. The other remaining friend will be around for a month or so after graduation, so I think I'll tell him then.

And all positive results! My one friend asked me how I didn't like tits... but that was because we were both a little drunk. I forget how that conversation started. I think he asked me if I liked boobs, and I decided I wasn't lying--because 2 of the 3 people in the room knew by that points--so I told him despite having a few drinks. At it was still a good decision.

It's almost like... I'm normal for the first time in a while! Now I just have to find a boyfriend. :)

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Unfortunately, after graduation, all my college friends--the ones who know--are leaving. And I'm moving back home to an environment where nobody knows. Oh well. I suppose I have to start this process again.
 
Congrats, hijo. Coming out is like ripping a band-aid. It's scary as hell but once it's over, it's so much better. Welcome to the sun on the outside of the closet! :)
 
It's a lot easier to find a boyfriend once people know that's what you're looking for. :)

...and welcome to the other side. ..|

Lex
 
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