Coming out in High school

[tall510]

Hey guys, I was wondering if any of you came out in high school. What the experience was like. Did you face alot of ridicule?

 

[fabuloussqueal]

I came out when I was 16 to my friends and by 17 my parents just assumed I was bisexual [and would hump a tree if I could]. By my junior year I was one of the few openly queer kids in by redneck high school [either a farmer or a sports star].

People are actually very open about it. Most either didnt care, supported me entirely, or kind of feared me.

The best reactions however, come from the teachers.

 

[biscottiboi]

I didnt come out in high school although it would have been obvious to anyone with gaydar! I only had girl friends from 10th grade on. I had some good guy friends before that but they fizzled out when they started getting serious with the ladies. If only they knew that I wanted to do nothing more than to suck on their cocks every minute we were together!! One of my friends I think figured it out. I touched his dick numerous times just messin around and he even put it in my mouth. I was so scared I just sort of bit it so he would take it out. I hated myself for doing that. That was just something I couldnt do back then even to myself is acknowledge that I was gay. I only knew I liked the boys and how they felt, smelled, and what they were packin! I would go home after the weekend at his house with blue balls! Okay, Im off of the subject a bit. I think I came out when I was 22.

 

[eddielee]

In High School a few close friends knew I was gay. I went to High School in a small southern town. To come out at school would have been a disaster. During the time I went to school, gays were not tolerated. If I had come out, I would have been beaten up daily. I think things are a little better now. Back when I was in school if they even suspected you were gay, they made your life a living hell.

 

[dynk]

I came out in the 8th grade. When I got to High School I was already out. Most people accepted it, besides I was always called upon to help the jocks with their studies. The fact that I was on the basketball team helped my being accepted I think. I also got to have a lot of sex at school.

 

[Swellegant]

I was lucky to grow up where I did, in a big city adjacent to a gay-mecca metropolis. I was out all through high school, but I never really had to "come" out... I was just a big nelly queen and didn't care what anyone thought (so long as they all liked me ), and there was never a problem for me.

My first high school, an ethnically diverse urban school of 3,300, I mostly flew under the radar, despite all of my eccentricities... I was targeted more for being white than for being queer. In a school that was forty-eight percent African-American and forty-nine percent Asian, I didn't even register on the school's social hierarchy.

My second high school was a tiny 100-student arts magnet school where being gay was considered rather chic (three or four of us were). And it was the first half of the 80s, after all, Boy George and Duran Duran and Adam Ant and all the rest of those foppish lipstick-wearing Englishmen were all the rage.

 

[theatreboi]

i actually began the coming out process the summer before 9th grade, so i had a pretty good time getting it out there at school too. my really close group of friends sorta abandoned me though. i girlfriend from 7th and 8th grade was the best. she and i are still really close and she always wants to know about my love life. it's so cute. anyway, yeah, i didn't really tell people after about the first semester of fresman year, i just acted like i wanted and let people either ask me or figure it out for themselves. most of the teachers were really awesome too.

 

[thegreenfury]

i came out in the 10th grade to all of my high school friends and then last year to my parents. i'm 21 now, and i've never been ridiculed. i've met people who are uncomfortable with it, but they've all been very adult about it. i have known people with horror stories, and, perhaps, the only way i survived is because i'm not very effeminate; but i never hide it. i live in the south, too, so maybe i'm just lucky.

i choose to believe it is more than luck, though; my friends are all wonderful, as are my folks, and they've been very kind. i think you'll find that the real friends will get over it, if they are bothered to begin with, and the ones who dont arent worth knowing anyways.

 

[doctorsun]

I never did, but sometimes I wish I had. Maybe it would have made me interesting and people wouldn't have ignored me so much.

 

[WillMc88]

I actually came out to my best girl friend in 7th grade. I went to a really small redneck school with like 800 students tops (K-12). She was very supportive and everything. I don't think she really understood it anyway, she didn't know what gay guys do or anything like that.

She kept the secret for a whole year, before I decided to come out to more people in 8th grade. It's actually really funny now, because nobody woulda thought I was gay, because I didn't show it at all. My friend and I were always together, and everyone thought we liked each other! It was hilarious . So in 8th grade, I told another close friend, then another, then a few more. The next day, everyone in my grade and even a few Freshmen knew. Who knew I was so popular ? Go figure. Well, things were pretty normal at first. Actually, most people didn't believe me and just thought I wanted attention! It was pretty frustrating.

My close friends stayed with me, but after awhile people started freaking out, mostly the guys in my class. So there was that, and the fact that my Dad had just recently found out as well. He was, and is, totally opposed to it. My parents were divorced and my mom was the only supportive member of my family. To think it was the person I was the LEAST close to who stuck up for me! Talk about being torn and confused. I was only like 13.

So.... I got homeschooled because I couldn't take the tormenting and ostriscization. I went back Freshmen year and that's when I started finding out who else wasn't completlely straight. I eventually discovered that two guys and like seven girls in my grade were gay/bi! I developed an on/off friendship with both guys and one of my classmates confided in me that she was bi. Well, long story short (too late, I know ), I'm a senior and once again homeschooled.

That's my story. To anyone in a similar situation, I'd advise against coming out in highschool, because highschool sucks enough as it is. If you think it'd be a good idea, make sure you have some form of support from your family or close friends. I honestly don't think I would've made it through in one piece if it weren't for my two best friends who were supportive beyond words! So, if you can wait, then wait until you're no longer at the mercy of teenagers .

If anyone's interested, I actually have entries at diaryproject.com about these events as they were happening. Just let me know and I'll find them. I hope this story helps in some way.

 

[blue_eyedguy]

I'm a senior at an all guy high school so I've often thought abou tthe fact that in a school of 1,000 guys, about 75-150 are most likely gay. Even more are probably bi or curious. Ive often had fantasies about some of the guys I hang out with that I suspect might be gay or bi.

I'm not out at all and have no plans on coming out. I think I'm more curious than anything. I don't see myself ever having a long term relationship with a guy... who knows. I can see a lot of people being supportive...but then again...I can see a lot of people being horrified.

Anyone who comes out in high school is brave in my book.

 

[Soilwork]

Worse.

I got outed in high school.

A former fuck buddy of mine got caught by his parents with a bunch of women's underwear, and he blamed it on me.. woudln't be so bad, except his brother then went to school the next day and told everyone that I had been wacking off in his Mom's panties.

But I lived.

I never would have thought for a second when I was in high school that I'd EVER actually have a boy friend, and I NEVER EVER EVER EVER would have thought I'd be out at work, or to my family or anything.

But here I am.. out.. to my family and with a BF who I love and who loves me.

So.. hey.. everybody loves a happy ending, right?

 

[Aaron]

I wasn't out in high school. I was out during high school in most other parts of my life, but no one at high school was worth it. Two years after graduation I don't speak to one of the 400 people I graduated with.

 

[theatreboi]

BUMP!

It's such a shame for good threads to go to waste.

 

[backpacker]

No I didn't, but I think in my high school it would have been OK. There was one kid who was obviously gay and I never once heard an anti-gay comment about him. He was in my gym and showered with the rest of guys. He was also one of the nicest guys in the school, so that may have had something to do with it.

Had I realized I was gay at the time, he probably would have been my first boyfriend. He hinted around with me a couple of times, but I wasn't smart enough to take the bait. I guess his gaydar worked pretty well. Did I mention he was also one of the best looking guys in the school.

 

[RicanDAB]

I did not, and no regrets there. It was a Catholic school and back then things like that were better left unsaid. However, I don't know if time has changed things.

 

[M4P]

I would have been risking my life if I came out in High School. I graduated in 1983 from a small country high school of 300 students. I went through enough grief because they suspected I was gay. Had they known for sure I might not have lived to tell the tale - no kidding!

 

[theatreboi]

^That was one of the pluses to coming out in high school that I was looking forward to as well. It never happened. For 4 years I was the only out gay in my school and I didn't even get to suck a D for all the problems it caused me.

 

[HiddenMalePassion-]

I'm starting senior year on the 5th, sometime this year I plan on telling my mom, my closest friend, aunt and uncle know right now.

 

[Jory]

IF I cane out in High School I would have been expelled