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Coming Out...

It's not an irrational fear. I believe it's completely natural for you to be worried that someone you care about suddenly won't anymore. Heck, I'm like that with everyone I've told. If you give them time, help them understand if they don't, and show that being gay doesn't change who you are, then they will be there for you.
 
I have been thinking about this too, if they like me (or in terms of family... love me) now they will like me after I come out because I'm a gay man now. The only difference is that after I come out they will know that I'm gay. I won't act any different... thanks for the input!
 
By the way, this is wrong, and in a way, it's also part of internalized homophobia and the fear of of coming out.

You WILL be different. Not just irrationally, in their eyes, but in reality. Coming to terms with yourself and shedding the burden of the Big Lie change you in so many ways. I can honestly say that I've rebuilt myself in the last two years and to a big degree I am no longer the person I was before. But it is never simply a change. If you believe in yourself and do not hate yourself for being gay, it is always an UPGRADE. You become a better person, stronger, more compassionate, more understanding and conscious to the world around you. Do not fear the change, and others will embrace it too.
 
Rolyo85 said:
By the way, this is wrong, and in a way, it's also part of internalized homophobia and the fear of of coming out.

You WILL be different. Not just irrationally, in their eyes, but in reality. Coming to terms with yourself and shedding the burden of the Big Lie change you in so many ways. I can honestly say that I've rebuilt myself in the last two years and to a big degree I am no longer the person I was before. But it is never simply a change. If you believe in yourself and do not hate yourself for being gay, it is always an UPGRADE. You become a better person, stronger, more compassionate, more understanding and conscious to the world around you. Do not fear the change, and others will embrace it too.
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Excellent point! I can't wait to stop living the lie and just be myself.
 
Great posts by ROLYO84 in this thread, although you did make a Freudian Slip somewhere in the last few sentences of post # 19 ;) :p
 
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