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confused by the confused

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Okay so my story starts about a week ago. I went to an indoor water-park/hotel with my best friend and my dad and my cousins. during the first day me and my friend, we will call he K, went around the park looking for hotties. we gave all of them nicknames cause were kool like that! so there was tatoo guy who had a huge tattoo on his back, freakle guy, who had a bunch of freakles but pulled them off, sleeping guy, and socks guy, who was whereing socks in a water park! lol. anyway back to the story. at night there is nothing to do after 11! everything is closed. so me and my friend walked around. after a while we started talking to these 2 girls. then freakle guy came to the lobby and we where all talking after like a half hour the lobby was filled with 20 or more 14-20 year olds all bored with nothing to do. we where having so much fun. i started talking to this guy we will call him J, after me and K went to our room i couldent stop thinking about J i just met him but hes so cute and we hit it off. one problem. hes straight.

The next day in the water park we saw J and we went in the wave pool. in the pool he was all over me! takling me, playing around that kinda stuff. then i was under water and he pulled me up. i said "wat was that" and he said " i saved u" then it was time to go home :(

A few days later J added me on facebook. his profile says straight, and it says "im a skater who wheres skinny skate jeans but im not a fag." and stuff like intreast: girls.
anyway i was talking to him on aim and i was like u guys probly missed me at the park
and he said "i did" i was like aww. he then said not like that lol. then we talked a while and i said "u live 5 hours from me" and he said id drive it" i was like ud do that 4 me? and he said ya. i said ur sweet and he said thanks. then i said i g2g text me. and he said and i qoute exact words..."KKK BYE SWEETY"

i then texted him what was that? and he said "i felt like saying it" so i asked him if he would do anything with a guy he said i guess. and then i said does this freak u out and he said kinda but not really. so we stopped talking about that and i learned all about him. his favorites, his family, college, everything. the next day i was talking to him on the phone and i told him i thought he looks cute with short hair cause he just cut it. he said my girlfriend like it long (his profile says single) so i was like wtf? y did u say all those things to me if u have a girlfriend. he said he was joking with the sweety but still says hed try stuff with a guy

so iv been texting him still but keeping him at a distance. then i told my friend a girl to hit on him. and he told her hes breaking up with his girlfriend and would hook up with my friend(a girl) i told him she was just kidding cause she has a bf.

anyway. i keep getting mixed signals from him and i dont know what to do or think or say. help me out. is he intreasted? is he bi? gay? straight? i really like him but how do i deal with a confused guy? im confused by the confused!
 
I would wait before you make that judgment. From what it sounds like, you two just met recently. He's sounds playful, that's for sure but I don't have enough info to make that determination. I wish I could be more helpful, but I'm lost on this one.
 
He know you are gay and says he would try stuff with a guy. Given everything else you wrote, I would say you are probably the guy he would try stuff with. He's closeted and afraid of people finding out. Whenever pushed enough that he feels his "manhood" might be in question, he reverts to his old cover up tactics. Don't expect if you hook up for him to all of a sudden come out of the closet.

Trying to be with guys who are at this stage can be very frustrating and often leads to hurt feelings. Only you can decide if the pros out weigh the cons. Good luck.
 
Sounds like standard issue curious 20-something.

He sees it as innocent flirting.

You see it as hints and symbols that he wants to get into your pants.

In the end, it's really about you wanting to get into his pants. And who knows? You might.

But you can expect he'll go back to looking for a girlfriend shortly thereafter.
 
As back and KB have suggested, there's a decent-to-good chance this guy will give you a shot in bed. That said, it's most likely that it'll be a one-time, let's-see-what-this-is-like sort of thing. Or, perhaps, he'll make it an occasional, down-low sort of thing. It's very unlikely that he'll be a regular, full-on, he's-my-boyfriend sort of thing.

So given that, you're faced with a decision. Do you pursue it or not?

...yeah, I thought so. Just do your best to keep your expectations low, play safe, and do your best to salvage the relationship afterwards.

Lex
 
I agree with what G-Lexington and KaraBulut just said...the voices of reason. :D

You're interested, he's confusing you, but you need to build that rapport with him of friend, close friend, and whatever else to see where it goes. Expectations factor heavily in the outcome, so relax and enjoy the friendship for now!
 
so guys, i texted j today and this is how it went...

me: "wats up cutie"

him: "just listening to system of a down"

me: "never heard it u should play it 4 me one day"

him: "i will"

me: "thanks boo"

him: "boo?"

me: " does that bother u"

him: "not really"

me: so ur my boo"

him " i guess"

me: "do u have feelings 4 me?"

him: "not in that way"

me: " then yd u say u where my boo"

him: " i wasent thinking"

soo confsing:confused::confused::confused::confused::confused::confused::confused:
 
What do I think? Find yourself a guy who's actually interested in you, and doesn't make you read tea leaves into text messages looking for clues that maybe possibly something might someday happen. :)

Lex
 
so guys, i texted j today and this is how it went...

me: "wats up cutie"

him: "just listening to system of a down"

me: "never heard it u should play it 4 me one day"

him: "i will"

me: "thanks boo"

him: "boo?"

me: " does that bother u"

him: "not really"

me: so ur my boo"

him " i guess"

me: "do u have feelings 4 me?"

him: "not in that way"

me: " then yd u say u where my boo"

him: " i wasent thinking"

soo confsing:confused::confused::confused::confused::confused::confused::confused:


wtf are you stupid? this couldn't have gone any worse...|
 
so guys, i texted j today and this is how it went...

me: "wats up cutie"

him: "just listening to system of a down"

me: "never heard it u should play it 4 me one day"

him: "i will"

me: "thanks boo"

him: "boo?"

me: " does that bother u"

him: "not really"

me: so ur my boo"

him " i guess"

me: "do u have feelings 4 me?"

him: "not in that way"

me: " then yd u say u where my boo"

him: " i wasent thinking"

soo confsing:confused::confused::confused::confused::confused::confused::confused:

WTF. Are you dumb?
 
me: "do u have feelings 4 me?"

him: "not in that way"

me: " then yd u say u where my boo"

him: " i wasent thinking"

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just cuz he was pressured into letting you call him your boo doesn't mean that he wants you.
 
personally facebook/myspace whatever it says does not really mean anything. alot of times people are not out to everyone and would not put it all over the internet like on facebook. He he flat out told you that he would do stuff with a guy then what are you waiting for?
 
If you talked to him face to face rather then texting u might get a better indication of how he is thinking but, you shouldn't pursue him the way you are just let him figure out on his own if he is down to trying anything with a guy.
 
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