Confused over BF & his m8

[Emptiness]

Ive been going out for little over 4 months (first relationship). My BF is friends with someone else (we will call him Bill)... who seem to be becoming better friends (they talk on the phone every week, meet up in the city most weeks etc., send each other messages). I was introduced to him earlier on in the relationship and he seemed cool, we chatted, added each other to facebook/myspace. He is really good looking and my BF has always told me he was straight (even tho he regularly goes clubbing at our gay club) - I took his word for it that he was straight (he also has a kid).

Me and my bf went out to the gay club on the weekend (with some of our friends). We sort of had separate groups thats night. I saw my friend there who told me he was there with Bill (they were chatting over msn, and had planned to get to know each other at the club) - he told me bill was 100% gay. During the night, nearly every chance I saw my bf.. he was with bill (dancing, chatting, drinking with) - Bill was not one of the people he was meant to be with. My bf sort of ditched his group to hang with Bill. My friend was also kinda pissed that Bill ditched him, to hang with my BF.

When the club closed, my bf got me in the cab to go home. He said he was going to stay out longer and go get some food with friends. (No sure y I wasnt invited).

When I got home, I had noticed that bill had deleted me from myspace/facebook. (not sure how long ive been deleted for). I added him again to see if he would accept,. and he denied the acceptions.

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I dont get whats going on? I had no idea Bill had a problem with me.. nothing bad has ever gone on between us. Why wuld my bf say he is straight, when surely he would know he is gay (everyone else does).

So confused.

 

[EXTiNCTi0N]

im confused to.
your bf is straight Oo?
and you both have a relationship Oo?

 

[ByronMc]

To be blunt, it sounds to me like you have a pretty clear picture of what is going on, but you just don't want to face it. Tough as it might be, move on. You'll be happier sooner.

 

[G-Lexington]

Maybe you should ask. Not accuse. Ask.

Lex

 

[OCdude]

It sounds like he is hiding the truth about this friend. Maybe they had a past relation or maybe they have something on the side. I agree with Lex /\ .. just ask him

 

[Emptiness]

do i just say it like.. 'are you cheating on me?'
or how wuld i say it?

 

[G-Lexington]

"I'm starting to get some weird vibes. Let me explain.

You told me Bill was straight. That's cool. But I always see him at gay clubs, and my friend Felix says that he's gay. I don't really care whether he's gay or straight, honestly. But you seem to be spending a lot of time with him as of late. You even sent me home while you stayed out with him, without even asking if I wanted to come along. And now Bill's deleted me from his friends on myspace and facebook.

Straight up, is something going on? Because I need to know if there is."

Lex

 

[halubtsi]

Emptiness, I agree with G-Lexington if this is a relationship you want to salvage. If you don't feel that he'd be honest with you, or if you don't want to be broken up with, then break it off with him before he has the chance to break it off with you.

Since this is your first relationship, you probably want it to work out. However, you may want to be the one to break-up with your bf, rather than to be dumped by him. At least you'll be the one in "control" of the ending of the relationship.

 

[Lube]

To be blunt, it sounds to me like you have a pretty clear picture of what is going on, but you just don't want to face it. Tough as it might be, move on. You'll be happier sooner.

Exactly. No point in asking. You'll just be told stories. (Some people are amazingly good at telling stories.)

 

[Jory]

What is sound like is that you been dumped, but your BF is too lazy to end the relationship. So he and "Bill" are hoping that you will get a "clue" and move on I agree with the rest end it before it too late