Confused.

[okinetic]

Dear all,

Pls pardon my english as its not really good. I have posted here previously, but this is somehow like the continuation of it.

1. He is straight (at least this is how he told me and people around)
2. We been hanging out together from early this year
3. Occassionaly he came to my house or viceversa, sleep together cuddle each other and have a chat .. sometimes until few hours.
4. Last week, i told him our relationship somehow like a partner... he said if his gf found out, she will kill me sort of thing. .But i asked him lets keep this as a secret for both of us where we enjoy both our company etc..
5. He somehow agreed. But he is very reluctant the word "partner" or "bf" ...
6. I gave him a kiss and he didnt reject anything.

Questions : What do you all think from your experience? Is it he is gay but reluctant to accept it or something? He told me its like a darksecret or something. I assured him why should i tell anyone around me on this..

Few days been thinking, should i continue to meet him or just leave for the good sake of him.

 

[TX-Beau]

??

If he told you his dark secret is that he's gay why do you need further advice?

 

[okinetic]

A quick fix :

Actually i did ask him be a partner..since we both enjoy..he said he not mind.. and is happy too..

Maybe i'm too insecure on his answer..

 

[G-Lexington]

It sounds like he's willing to be with you only when he can sneak away from his girlfriend. In addition, there may be some point he won't go beyond. Maybe he'll let you kiss him, but he won't kiss you. Maybe he'll kiss, but he won't let you take his pants off.

You'll have to decide if this is going to be enough for you.

Lex

 

[okinetic]

G-lexington : You're right! Totally agreed with you. Thats the situation now..He wont reject, but he wont give either. Should i continue or better stop it all together..

 

[Seasoned]

Don't leave for his sake. Leave for yours. Find someone who can give you more. Take care of yourself. As with all advice, take what you want and leave the rest.

 

[Reality101]

Whether he is gay or not isn't really the issue. He has a gf and though you feel like he is your bf, his secrecy and deception will likely drive a wedge between what the both of you share. Tread those waters carefully. I do think that you should end it. Don't let him use you.

 

[okinetic]

Actually, i would like keep this as secret as well... it's very hard to find someone with same thinking. I mean i did told him if i have a GF (since i just broke up) ... there need to be understanding there.

But honestly, i do appreciate all the advices here. Thanks guys!

 

[KaraBulut]

Same guy?

Same advice, then.

 

[tonyboy]

he is gay, you are too.

If you want to just stay secret lovers, well then do so. no harm in that if that is what you two want to do...

If you ever figure out that you want a b/f then you will have to find someone that is willing to be one..

Many guys just want to have a secret b/f... that is how things are for many people..
If that is how you wish to do things, well then far be it from me or anyone on jub to tell you otherwise..

If you don't wish to commit yourself to him nor he to you,well then just meet in secret.
I don't think that is the way to go my friend... but if that is how you two wish to handle it, well then that is how it is.
Best of luck to you.

 

[rareboy]

Dump him.

Be a proud and out homo.

 

[G-Lexington]

It sounds like you both know what you're doing, and both know what you're in for. So I don't see any reason not to continue.

Lex