Confusion...

[ThickAndCreamy]

Right so about a year ago I met this man, I'll call him Luke for personal reasons. Luke was a stunner, thought obviously straight and a lot older than myself. He had a fiancé whom was pregnant with his child etc, but that didn't stop me from fantasising over him.

He was tall, muscular and an all-round my kind of guy.

He know's everything about me as I do him, we clicked pretty much since day one. I've seen pictures of him naked (due to a past modelling career) and I liked what I saw. I didn't want anything to come out of it, he was a mate, and if I ever lost him I'd be devastated.

Now Luke is one of those men who aren't gay, but enjoy a bit of anal pleasure, be it from a Dildo or not; and I too knew about this so I went to him for advice on my sex life.

Long story short I went around his house one night when he was alone, and we both got very very drunk. That night I lost my virginity to him, and we did it like rabbits. However, he claims to not be able to remember anything so I went along with it; but the signs are obvious? You don't wake up in those conditions from a normal nights sleep.

I left it for months, didn't say anything about it, didn't play on the idea that it would ever happen again. Until I got a text from Luke telling me that he wanted to meet me in a field and he asked that I bought protection. Me being a horny young lad jumped at the thought and didn't even double think anything.

We did out stuff in the field, had our fun. But this time I know he's remembered cause there was nothing involved.

I know this has been long but I don't know what to do right now. I refuse to talk to him about it cause in all fairness, I enjoy the attention he gives me and the sex is even better. But I fear that his other-half might find out, and she was, I couldn't live with myself knowing I caused everything that would happen because of my actions.

How do I go about this situation? Do I ignore it from here on out? Refuse any more offers? Go along with it and have my fun? Confess? (which I refuse to do).

I'm stuck, help.

 

[jensu846]

I was involved with a married man as well, and he was into anal stimulation too. We were buds. Me, him and his wife would go out together to the clubs, it was very awkward, since she never had any idea. My suggestion to you would be not to say anything to him about it, and keep it all to yourself. Never confess. Dont text him first for sex either, let him text you when he is available. Unless you cant handle it mentally or emotionally, I would keep seeing him, especially if the sex is good.

 

[ThickAndCreamy]

Good doesn't explain how sweet the sex is. He's got a well sized cock on him as well, which makes the experience different from any other. I would never dare dream of asking for it first, I knew I would have to leave it to him to come to me. I'm in the same situation really, I get along with his missus really well, we go out and are in general good friends; which, as you said, adds to the awkwardness.

Nonetheless, thank you for your reply it's somewhat relieving having someone answer something that's been troubling you for so long.

 

[SimplyRed]

I hate these types of stories, repeatedly sleeping with someone that's in a relationship and saying "I fear his other half may find out and can't live with yourself".

Anyway. He just wants to fuck. Leave it at that and simply enjoy it.

 

[ThickAndCreamy]

Simply put, but okay works for me.

 

[Rolyo85]

Luke is a closeted homo who is probably in denial. He used you for sex and he's using the fact that you will put up with it.

There is repression and self-hatred and shame in this situation, and it's gonna hurt you. It's already hurting his wife because he's cheating on her with you. This whole experience is degrading and humiliating for everyone involved. Cut ties and move on to an honest relationship with someone decent and not in denial.


And honestly, it's a little repulsive that you are helping someone cheat on their spouse and all you're worried about is the spouse finding out. Way to gain moral high ground.

 

[bankside]

Well it turns you on. Turns him on. Bottom line is though she gets to decide if it turns her on or not.

 

[jensu846]

I knew it wouldnt be long before someone on their moral high horse chimed in! lol. Dont cut ties with him, keep having amazing sex !!!

 

[bankside]

I knew it wouldnt be long before someone on their moral high horse chimed in! lol. Dont cut ties with him, keep having amazing sex !!!

Fuck, all three of them can fuck together while riding horseback for all I care.

That doesn't change how shitty it is to do that behind someone's back.

 

[SimplyRed]

I knew it wouldnt be long before someone on their moral high horse chimed in! lol. Dont cut ties with him, keep having amazing sex !!!

He mentioned the moral high horse when he told his story. I can care less what he does. He can swallow dudes nutt and cough it up when he gets home and save it as a souvenir as far as I am concerned.

 

[Rolyo85]

I knew it wouldnt be long before someone on their moral high horse chimed in! lol. Dont cut ties with him, keep having amazing sex !!!

This isn't high horse. This is a very modestly, completely regularly tall horse. Sex is just pleasure. The only time it should hurt anyone is if you're both into BDSM. And yes, emotional hurt is still hurt. And yes, dishonest is still dishonest. And even if there were feelings involved (which clearly isn't the case), someone was there first, and people should respect that.

 

[Telstra]

If you think sex = sport everything should be ok

 

[ThickAndCreamy]

I know most of this already, but it's good to actually hear it from someone else other than myself. I know it's demoralising and wrong, but from what I hear the only sex he get's is with me, but nonetheless I don't jump at the idea that at any night I could get a text asking me to pop around cause I don't. On both occasions I've never thought of it happening again afterwards.

Just gonna say that the thought of all three of us, together has actually been raised on more than one occasion in the presence of both Luke and his other half. Besides, from what I hear from the pair of them sex is a no-go for them; so I'm sort of his release... I mean, a man stripped of his sexual desires is, what?

 

[Telstra]

I know most of this already, but it's good to actually hear it from someone else other than myself. I know it's demoralising and wrong, but from what I hear the only sex he get's is with me, but nonetheless I don't jump at the idea that at any night I could get a text asking me to pop around cause I don't. On both occasions I've never thought of it happening again afterwards.

Just gonna say that the thought of all three of us, together has actually been raised on more than one occasion in the presence of both Luke and his other half. Besides, from what I hear from the pair of them sex is a no-go for them; so I'm sort of his release... I mean, a man stripped of his sexual desires is, what?

Stop thinking too much.
If you treat sex as fun and not love, everything is ok.

Example:
Porn is fun and make you cum all the time.
Is it love ? No

 

[SimplyRed]

Stop thinking too much.
If you treat sex as fun and not love, everything is ok.

Example:
Porn is fun and make you cum all the time.
Is it love ? No

Well said. I hate all the explaining. Just fuck and have fun.

 

[Kyanimal]

DISCRETION is the Better part of VALOR! Say nothing 'out of class'. 'Go with the Flow', with your eyes wide open.

 

[chance1]

pretty bad fucking karma if you ask me

him cheating on a fiancee and child with a guy is pretty low brow

imagine that you're her

think about it - though it appears you have already - it's not worth it

 

[Rolyo85]

If his marriage sucks, he can get out of it. He doesn't though. He is both having his cake, and eating it.

 

[ThickAndCreamy]

Thanks for the comments, it's 'brightened the light' as it were.