Convincing a guy..

[lostwatcher]

Hey,
First of all, I'm straight.
I don't know why, but I have this friend that I find myself physically attracted to, he's the only guy I feel this way.
He is straight aswell.
I'd like to convince him to be a fuckbuddy, but I don't know.
I don't know how to see if he sends signals he'd want it aswell.
Can someone help?

 

[Shawn1]

Personally it works well for me when I am plain spoken and direct, so I'd try that approach. I'd also suggest you rethink your opening statements as they don't mesh with your question/desires.

Good luck

 

[alli-berri]

The OP may be straight of mind, but bi of body. Or even gay. Who knows... But as long as he chooses to approach himself as "straight", it will be so, however in-denial.

OP: in my experience, establishing masturbation as a comfortable topic of conversation is a good way to segue into a hook-up. And it's a topic many straight guys are totally willing to go with. ESPECIALLY with their BFFs. I've used this as a way into straight seduction many-a-time

Make a joke one day.
YOU: "I'm gonna go."
FRIEND: "What are you doing?"
YOU: "Gonna go do my thing."
FRIEND: "?"
YOU: *shyly jerk off your invisible cock*

Your friend may react oddly, but I find that guys usually think it's hilarious. Most straight guys probably feel ashamed for wanking to begin with, so your bringing it up sort of "relieves tension" . Now, the big hope with this tactic is that the next time HE's leaving you to masturbate, maybe he'll be like "I'm going to do my thing" -- Congrats! now you guys are talking about masturbating. HOT.

Eventually you want to get to the point where you can say something like...
YOU: "I really want to do my thing, but my roommate's in our room."
FRIEND: "!!"
YOU: Dude, we should look at porn.

OK, now the dicks come out. Who knows where it goes from here...

Have fun. I can't promise that this will work for you. I doubt it will, necessarily... lol... but it HAS worked for me! Seriously.

Disclaimer: Not all straight guys are the same... but there are a lot of really similar ones lol.

 

[evanrick]

have you tried slapping his butt?

 

[conrad]

Maybe you should remind yourself that you are not likely to be alone in having such thoughts concerning a sexually attractive person

We guys are programmed by our society to think of ourselves as "regular guys" which is the polite way of saying our society expects that we will turn out to be "straight"

Friend, if you have to convince a friend to go at IT with you, IMHO, you are engaged in seduction and that IMHO has no place in healthy relationships. Why not accept his friendship and let it grow by extending your friendship--and that means treating him as you would like to be treated.

Ideally, when sex happens between two persons it is never a matter of negotiation, manipulation, etc. It comes about naturally because two persons are so completely bonded that they need and want to express thier affections to each other sexually. And, that kind of sex is likely to be fantastic, the stuff for memory, and the kind of experience both will want to repeat again soon.

In my own life i had friends who had the hots for me as much as I had the hots for them. But, we never did get together sexually because we were young men of principle and did not go to bed with a fellow while we were in a committed relationship with another person.

The Good Lord made us aware of ourselves as sexual being by planting powerful urges in our beings. But that same Creator gave us minds to keep those urges in check and to keep us out of trouble.

Some of the restraints our society places on our sexual expression seem burdensome and even oppressive, but, all things considered, we are kept from harming others and getting ourselves in trouble by them.

Our laws do protect our rights to have sex with another consenting adult.The wise person, horny as he may be, wants that consent to be freely offered.

 

[alli-berri]

^ Wowwwwww

 

[texan_slant]

OK so basically all I have to say is this -

Discard the labels that you're straight, bi, whatever.

Talk to your friend a bit more to figure out where he is with regards to sexuality; then you might be able to get a vibe as to whether or not he is open or close-minded.

Start talking about sex, likes/dislikes, etc.; be patient, and let the conversation roll towards the taboo a little bit more.

Set your expectations low; if your friendship is important to you though, trust your gut with regards to where you think the boundary might be.

Set your expectations low