Could He Be Any More Confusing?! [Probably Long]

[JustAGuy08]

Okay, so a couple months back I met this guy online. I just sent him a simple messge saying I liked his profile/pictures, and wanted to get to know him. We exchanged messages back and forth for a while, and eventually exchanged phone numbers and started to text teachother. After about a week or two, we were chatting on the phone for about an hour or two at a time. We got pretty close, but here's where the confusing part comes in to play...

First off, let me start by saying he says he went to the same University as me (and says he went back home after this past semester), but even though we were going to the same school, he never make time to hang out (EVER, in fact, I still haven't seen him to this day!), would talk about how much he liked me, yet completely ignore me on the weekends when we both had time to hang out. Now he's back home (In Wisconsin, I live in Texas, btw)

Second, I asked him to send me pictures of himself, but he absolutely refuses to. He had pictures of himself posted on his profile when I met him (he's since deleted his MySpace account) but refuses to take a new one. His first excuse was that his phone doesn't have a camera, then when I asked him to email a picture, he changes the subject and tries to pick a fight to distract me.

There was also this whole drama with his "gf" back home, and I started getting private phone calls (one of which I answered, a girl was just saying "hello?" a million times, every phone call after that, nobody said anything, and I eventually just stopped answering them) and every time I would ask for a picture of him "she" would text me telling me to leave him alone and not to talk to him anymore.

Yesterday, I finally told him that he needs to either send me a picture or I'm not talking to him anymore. I stopped answering his phone calls, and haven't spoken to him on the phone in over a week. I realize that demanding a picture may sounds completely STUPID, but 1.) Is it so horrible to want a picture of the guy you like?, and 2.) Doesn't it seem kind of shady to you that he can't just send a stupid picture to finally shut me up?!, he kept trying to call me when I was texting him yesterday, and today I woke up to a text message saying that I had to "call [him] if I wanted anything from him" and a voicemail saying I needed to call him back or he wasn't going to talk to me anymore.

The whole situation has become completely retarded, and I'm starting to think he's a 98 year old pedophile that's just screwing with me. I'm asking for advice from anyone who's willing to give it. What do you think about what's going on? I'm not gonna say I'm in love with the guy (because I haven't even SEEN him before!) but he is really fun to talk to. Am I just being stupid about the whole picture thing? Thanks in advance everyone

 

[kramer362]

Re: Could He Be Any More Confusing?! [Probably Lon

Stay away from him. He sounds shady AND is getting you involved in supposed girlfriend drama. And then he gives you the ultimatum that you must call him back or else you'll never hear from him again? End all contact

 

[JustAGuy08]

Re: Could He Be Any More Confusing?! [Probably Lon

Sounds like an internet flake to me.

It's the thought that was in the back of my mind, I guess I was just hoping otherwise. What sucks the most is I contacted him, not the other way around.

 

[LoveIsNow]

Re: Could He Be Any More Confusing?! [Probably Lon

Yeah, major creep sounds like.

 

[backpacker]

Re: Could He Be Any More Confusing?! [Probably Lon

I don't understand why you have played the game so long. There is something seriously wrong her. Don't take his phone calls, delete his voicemails without listening to them, block his emails and text messages. You really should figure out why you were willing to put up with this so long.

 

[JustAGuy08]

Re: Could He Be Any More Confusing?! [Probably Lon

I don't understand why you have played the game so long. There is something seriously wrong her. Don't take his phone calls, delete his voicemails without listening to them, block his emails and text messages. You really should figure out why you were willing to put up with this so long.

Actually, it's really only a recent thing. We met in October, and in the first month I wasn't really making it a priority to meet him (I was busy with school, and like to take things slow anyway), it's really only in the month prior to the semester break that I had mentioned a couple of times that we should meet up.

His flakey activity isn't something that's been there from the get-go because I never really cared enough to ask him for a picture or to meet up when I first messaged him. He seemed like a cool person that I was perfectly content on only getting to know via the internet.

It's only in the past couple of days that all this has happened (picture wise, the gf drama's been going on for about a week, but has stopped after they "broke up" upon his return home)

I don't mean to sound defensive (and I'm sorry if I do), but I haven't been "putting up" with the situation for very long (and I don't plan to).

Side Note: In my original post, when I said I hadn't spoken to him in over a week, I meant via telephone, we had been texting back and forth, just no actual voice chat (trying to clarify as much as possible here!)

 

[Caaake]

Re: Could He Be Any More Confusing?! [Probably Lon

i'm sorry you developed a crush for a guy who isn't eager to hang with ya. If you two have fun on the phone there should be no reason why he wouldn't wanna hang with you if he's spending his time talking with you. What i gather is he's being dishonest, about his looks, age, something! And he's avoiding it at all costs, but you dont' wanna consider a boy who is dishonest. I'm sure there are lotssss of boys who'd be interested in actually sending you a friggen picture haha! This guy doesn't make sense. Go find someone who's not gonna play games!

 

[JustAGuy08]

Re: Could He Be Any More Confusing?! [Probably Lon

i'm sorry you developed a crush for a guy who isn't eager to hang with ya. If you two have fun on the phone there should be no reason why he wouldn't wanna hang with you if he's spending his time talking with you. What i gather is he's being dishonest, about his looks, age, something! And he's avoiding it at all costs, but you dont' wanna consider a boy who is dishonest. I'm sure there are lotssss of boys who'd be interested in actually sending you a friggen picture haha! This guy doesn't make sense. Go find someone who's not gonna play games!

What I don't understand is why? It's not like I'm some adonis that people need to impress, I guess there's just a bunch of weirdos out there

By the way, hi everyone, I'm not really new to JUB (I usually visit regularly) but I am fairly new to posting

 

[Caaake]

Re: Could He Be Any More Confusing?! [Probably Lon

yea... as many ppl tell me, you'd be suprised! (at how many wierdos there are) We think, in some cases, that we do something a certain way, many are just like us, that we have similar agendas, but you'd be suprised. Creeps out there! Do you have an xtube account?

 

[backpacker]

Re: Could He Be Any More Confusing?! [Probably Lon

Actually, it's really only a recent thing. We met in October, and in the first month I wasn't really making it a priority to meet him (I was busy with school, and like to take things slow anyway), it's really only in the month prior to the semester break that I had mentioned a couple of times that we should meet up.

His flakey activity isn't something that's been there from the get-go because I never really cared enough to ask him for a picture or to meet up when I first messaged him. He seemed like a cool person that I was perfectly content on only getting to know via the internet.

It's only in the past couple of days that all this has happened (picture wise, the gf drama's been going on for about a week, but has stopped after they "broke up" upon his return home)

I don't mean to sound defensive (and I'm sorry if I do), but I haven't been "putting up" with the situation for very long (and I don't plan to).

Side Note: In my original post, when I said I hadn't spoken to him in over a week, I meant via telephone, we had been texting back and forth, just no actual voice chat (trying to clarify as much as possible here!)

Sorry about that. From the way you wrote the original post, it sounded like something that had been going on for a while. Regardless, he is playing games or hiding something from you. I would move on. I'm sure there are plenty of guys at your school that are looking for someone. If there are any gay groups on campus, you might want to join one. It's a great way to meet people without all the sexual pressure. By the way, don't put yourself down. You're a pretty good looking guy (assuming that's you in the avatar).

 

[JustAGuy08]

Re: Could He Be Any More Confusing?! [Probably Lon

Sorry about that. From the way you wrote the original post, it sounded like something that had been going on for a while. Regardless, he is playing games or hiding something from you. I would move on. I'm sure there are plenty of guys at your school that are looking for someone. If there are any gay groups on campus, you might want to join one. It's a great way to meet people without all the sexual pressure. By the way, don't put yourself down. You're a pretty good looking guy (assuming that's you in the avatar).

No need to be sorry, it was a mistake on my part. I should have been more clear in my original post. I agree that something isn't right with the situaton, and have ceased all contact. Also, I do plan on joining some sort of on-campus group this coming semester.

P.S. That is me in my avatar, and thank you

 

[KaraBulut]

Re: Could He Be Any More Confusing?! [Probably Lon

The conclusion just validates what you already knew- that this guy is a flake and you need to move on for your own good.

If you're at TSU-SM, you won't have a problem meeting guys. And of course, there's lots of choices just 30 mins to the north.

 

[seven_sins]

Re: Could He Be Any More Confusing?! [Probably Lon

...P.S. That is me in my avatar, and thank you

You are cute. I would hate to see you get hurt. Don't let this guy take you for a sucker. And good luck in finding a boyfriend who shows you more respect.