Coworker Bi/Straight?

[cyberpunkemon]

I've recently met a coworker who's around my age and he's incredibly hung. He does not have a girlfriend, but he claims on his facebook that he's straight. When I tried to ask him what kind of girls he likes, he said all types. We've been hanging out a lot together lately... lunch, dinner, gym, etc. but i haven't gotten the guts to tell him that i'm bi. Do you think he's in the same boat? How do i tell? How should i approach this to him if i'm really interested in him, knowing that he's also my coworker?

Things about him: He acts quite straight. Went to all boys Catholic school. He's pretty atlethic. Doesn't have a girlfriend. Likes to sing randomly when the radio is on. Very family oriented. Quite a neat freak. Told me he's open minded. Sorted flirted with me. Rescheduled his gym schedule to come work out with me. Went into steam room together but nothing happened. Hangs out with me for lunch and dinner.

We haven't done anything because I don't want to scare him off. So what do you guys think? Straight or bi?

 

[KevinCA]

it depends.. what does your gaydar say? is it detecting anything? anything suspicious, or is it able to read.. but isn't clear? if you think theres a CHANCE he is, then keep doing the things you guys normally do.. something will bound to happen

oh yeah and let us know what happens too! haha

 

[jft245]

Could be in the same boat as you, just looking for a friend. If you value his friendship, forget about the sexual stuff and dont force the issue.

 

[HartfordGuy]

Could be he likes you as a friend. If he is interested , let him make the first move.

 

[billybob109]

how do you know he is well hung.

 

[1st love ron]

^ lol...I want to know that too

 

[bimmrboy]

They went in to the steam room together at the gym. Pretty easy to sneak a peak there.

 

[tallguy297]

Hey cyber,

Why do you think he's gay? Why do you think that he's bi even?

Mate, this guy sees you for who you are right now...obviously a good friend. He likes to hang out, hes made changes to suit you for his gym schedule. He obviously thinks that you're a good guy and someone he can trust, talk to and share experiences with. Theres nothing in what you've said here that gives any clue as to whether or not hes gay or bi....he just seems like the sort of guy that makes an awesome friend...whos giving and caring. And he obviously thinks a lot of you.

So mate, treat the guy the way good friends should. With the openness honesty and respect you've shown here. Talk to him. Take a chance. Put yourself out there and take a risk. Tell him you are bi. Nothing more...just that. Tell him you want to be completly honest with him because you value him as a person and as a good friend.

If nothing else it strengthens the bonds you guys share and brings you closer together. Its really a no lose situation mate, he sure doesnt sound like the sort of guy who would cut and run. And you dont sound like the sort of guy who would risk such a friendship by playing games....dont risk this with wishfull thinking and you hoping for something thats maybe not there....

Be yourself...be open..and trust this guy. You'll be grateful you did either way.

 

[cyberpunkemon]

Thanks for all your advice. I'm glad I posted this and got some quality feedback. Staying friends is much easier for now and that's what I intend to do, until he's ready.

 

[TomahawkEagle]

Think this has been said before: don't fuck where you eat.

I got caught with my eye on a guy at work once and he is so cute and nice looking.

 

[[Ocean]]

From what you've described I'd say he's definitely straight. Most of my close friends are female and I find that everytime a guy shows that he likes me as a friend, I convince myself that he's actually hitting on me when 90% of the time this is not the case. Feel free to come out to him, but don't expect him to reciprocate and don't make him feel uncomfortable around you by making obvious passes because you'll only alienate someone who obviously enjoys being around you (as a friend).

If you're both similarly inclined, I believe it will come out eventually in any case as long as you stay friends.

Relationships with workmates are also bad. *slapswrist*

 

[wentworth]

I've recently met a coworker who's around my age and he's incredibly hung. He does not have a girlfriend, but he claims on his facebook that he's straight. When I tried to ask him what kind of girls he likes, he said all types. We've been hanging out a lot together lately... lunch, dinner, gym, etc. but i haven't gotten the guts to tell him that i'm bi. Do you think he's in the same boat? How do i tell? How should i approach this to him if i'm really interested in him, knowing that he's also my coworker?

Things about him: He acts quite straight. Went to all boys Catholic school. He's pretty atlethic. Doesn't have a girlfriend. Likes to sing randomly when the radio is on. Very family oriented. Quite a neat freak. Told me he's open minded. Sorted flirted with me. Rescheduled his gym schedule to come work out with me. Went into steam room together but nothing happened. Hangs out with me for lunch and dinner.

We haven't done anything because I don't want to scare him off. So what do you guys think? Straight or bi?

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