craigslist

[spilledhypo]

so i am planning to lose my virginity to someone on craigslist. is that tacky? and if it isn't, should i tell him that i've never had sex before? or will that turn him off?

 

[Eternaldarkness]

here's is the answer to your question. Tacky? I think you're out of your mind planning to lose your virginity to a stranger FOUNDED on a website. Don't you want to share this intimate first time with someone whom you atleast know or love? Please do tell him you've never had sex before. You're asking for sex on craiglist, he is going to expect that you are experienced, and (excuse me if I might offend anyone but) used to get off by having sex with strangers. Or even someone who is an addict to sex. You don't want your first time to regret in tremendous pain and not pleasure because he was not holding back and taking it slow. Lastly, no it will not turn him off, but more likely he'll enjoy breaking into a "virgin." its like a proud thing.

The choice is yours but if you're looking for trouble, then that is a bad choice.

 

[versatastic]

OMG, don't you dare hook up with someone on craigslist. You will rue that day forever and ever! You have no idea what kind of people are on there and no way of telling either. You should seriously wait to get to know someone, especially for your first time. More than a couple people I know (gay and straight) had sex their first time just so they could get it over with, and they completely regret it.

Why do you want to hook up with a stranger anyway????

 

[KaraBulut]

Tacky?

No, sad.

 

[G-Lexington]

Losing your virginity on craigslist isn't tacky. Telling everybody about it at the next family reunion? That's tacky.

To trot out the old cliche, sex is what you make it. If you're sick to death of being a virgin, you just want to get past that and finally have sex with a guy, then yeah, craigslist is fine. But remember, the guy is probably just looking to get his rocks off. He presumably won't have much of a vested interest in making sure your experience is fun, pleasurable and safe.

If you decide to go through with this, insist on meeting somewhere in public first. A coffee shop, for instance. Tell him you're a virgin, and you're looking for somebody to make your first time a good one. This should weed out a good chunk of the guys who are interested solely in their own needs, and is more likely to net you a guy who will do it right.

And, at the risk of sounding like Mommy Gargoyle, condoms and lube are YOUR responsibility. Get 'em. Practice with 'em. Use 'em. Always.

Lex

 

[drhladnjak]

As usual Lex is pretty much right on the money. However, should you go down the craigslist route, you may want to even consider putting in your ad that you've never had sex before and are looking for somebody who's into that and can be patient. I'm pretty sure there are guys out there who are into being somebody's first. Some are inexperienced guys out there who are looking for the same while others probably just get off on the idea of being somebody's first.

The strength of craigslist is that anybody can put exactly what they're looking for out there and find somebody else who's into it.

 

[hotatlboi]

More than a couple people I know (gay and straight) had sex their first time just so they could get it over with, and they completely regret it.

Well everyone is different. My first time was for that reason, but I don't regret it.

 

[xi3100]

how about you find someone and talk it out, then get to there status... just dont put urself in danger.

 

[Lucas07]

It's okay in my point of view. I am deeply closeted and in my shoes, it's just hard to go out and pick up someone. I know it's hard to understand by most people, but seriously, even if I wanted to be like every other gay guy out there I just can't.

I lost my virginity through craigslist. I don't regret it. In fact it has helped me know myself, to become the person I am becoming. Not a whore, but because of that I am more aware of myself and of life. It truly was a good experience. Just choose really well. I didn't do it just so I could get rid of my "virginity" - I don't even care about that. I wanted the experience. I wanted to know what sex really is. And yeah, that made it concrete : I like guys. And I got it.

As for your ad, definitely put that this is your first time. Don't pretend like you've done it before. Which could be a ++

I am lucky I had someone to talk to during that time who is definitely wiser than I am. And luckily the guy I lost my virginity to is such a good guy.

So, for It's not tacky. Hey, welcome to the 21st century. The internet is just another venue - like hanging out at a club or at a bookstore and getting picked up or something.

Good luck! I hope if you do decide to go for it that it would be a good experience.

 

[jockboy01]

I don't know how I feel about this to be honest, at least as to the tackiness. I would say that I would tell him you are inexperienced at the least. You wouldn't be the first to do it, nor the last.

Depending on how you define it, you could say that I was there (a lifetime ago). I had my first m4m experience with a guy off of craigslist. Honestly, it wasn't good. It was nothing like I expected. I felt horrible afterward. But many years later, it turned out alright. We kept in touch (he hadn't been with many guys either) and even met up again about six years later (which was MUCH more fun). I'd say it would be better with somebody you know, but I also remember how badly I just wanted my first time over with back then so it's hard to say.

 

[FunDude]

hmmm as a virgin myself.. i have considered that option..

but then i was like hmm... letting someone i really like break me in first.. or a complete stranger...

then i got a bf..

so ill probably lose my virginity this summer when he comes back home from college.