Crap on my bed, my boyfriend is crazy!

[balls2thawall]

I think that I sometimes make things harder for myself. Over a year ago I met my now bf maybe ex-bf. We started by just hanging out, talking, coffee, movies, and video games. We met at some party in downtown. When we first met we got along great, we communicated well, I would go on to hang out with my buddies and he would be fine with it.
About six months into it I told him I wanted to hang out with my buddies and asked him if he would like to come like I always did. He finally said YES! We went out and he didn't like it. He had a really long face and seemed to be not enjoying anything about it.
I asked what was wrong and he said, "nothing." Well, I kept on drinking with my friends and my best friend asked me what was wrong with my boyfriend. I turned over to look at him and he had a really pissed off look. I asked him again what was wrong that he had a pissed off look and it wasnt cool. He got up and stomped out of there and when he hit the door he took off running.
Luckily I had called my sister to pick us up about 20 mins earlier and she saw him run outside while she was busy gossiping on the phone. I went outside the bar, hopped in the car and we chased him down two blocks!
I finally convinced him to come in the car, that we were going to take him home he was DRUNK and PISSED!
We got in a fight on the drive over there. I said it my good byes because he had embarrassed me in front of my friends and was acting stupid. He said it was fine he didnt give a shit.
Next day he called me a million times til I finally answered (my mistake). He came over, apologized. Never gave me a reason why he did what he did, only blamed it on drinking and he got jealous cause I was laughing a lot with my friends. (shrug)
Things were never right after that. Lately he's been just driving me crazy. I think that he gets jealous over ANY person that talks to me. He texts me and calls me all the time. Asks me consistently if I love him. If we go out to the club I cant say hi to anyone cause he'll start asking questions. I really had it with him. I broke up with him telling him I cannot stand his possessiveness and jealousy. He started crying and yelling at me that he was just so in love with me that its all he can think of. I dont want to hear him cry or anything I just want to live a drama free life, like that exists in a gay relationship....
He gets his mom involved with him and I think its got a lot to do with the fact that he's only 23 and I am 31.
I'm not gonna say I am an angel or do everything right. I love to hang out with buddies, I always invite him but I just dont have fun with him anymore. It's gotten so bad now that he calls me at like 6am that hes on his way over to my house because he wants me to have sex with him before I go to work. I told him that I dont want to anymore but he wont let me go I dont love him anymore I think ever since that time at the bar I lost interest, but I stayed with him because I really enjoyed the sex. I think I dug myself into a hole.
Saturday I was here at home and he just came unannounced and knocked. I opened and was just watching TV it came time for me to go to bed I asked him if he was leaving or what was going on. I went to floss and brush to put my retainers on and when I went in my room he was naked. I fucked him really hard but and thats weird because this is the second time its happened to me, he crapped all over my bed, wtf. He was embarrassed but only ran to the shower while I threw everything away! UGH!!!! He never said sorry or anything. I know thats somewhat funny that its happened to me before but my bed or I have no luck whatsoever with guys.
How do I get rid of him? The story is much worse than this but this is a little of the major stuff


sorry if i typed run-on sentences and didnt punctuate properly...

 

[racer2438]

Other than a real serious tone of voice and tell him exactly what you said here. Be stern and honest and just lay it out. Ask for him to remove (if any) property from your home and delete his number and say good bye... there is more to life and someone else out there for you. Just be strong and mean what you say. He may draw out more drama so be ready..

 

[TheTalkingAsshole]

I thought it was going to be about messy anal sex...turned out to be a bunch of drama. Don't like either.

 

[Just_Believe18]

What do you mean he crapped all over your bed? When you pulled out it came out, or did he just push a giant log out because he felt like it?

 

[fetaby]

Yeah, body functions aside. The lack of HONEST communication is the only thing hindering the relationship or lack there of.

When did it become impossible to be honest about your intentions and desires?

 

[KaraBulut]

Sorry- you need to send this one off and let him grow up a little bit. For his good as well as yours.

It's not going to be fun but it has to be done.

 

[TX-Beau]

Yeah, I'm with Kara, massive immaturity and insecurity. You can't solve that.

But then you're not exactly blameless here either. You invite him out, you let him in the door, then worst of all, you jump in bed with him. You don't break up with a guy then keep sleeping with him. That's mixed messages big time, and you're old enough to realize that.

If you aren't serious about breaking up with him, why would you think he's going to take the break up seriously? No doubt it's going to be hard to get rid of him, and I think you probably know that there's no being friends with a guy like this.